Not "taking it out" on the students.

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  1. Backroads

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    So it's been a rough day.

    Yesterday, I found out my kid needs to be tested for cystic fibrosis.

    Today is not a day to act up in my class, mess with me, etc.

    I feel like I am taking out my emotions on a couple of students. Yes, they are going out of their way to break school rules and bully others. I'm not doing any responsibility checks or reminders or plans. I kicked them out of my room to a supportive teacher next door.

    I don't know if that was the right thing to do. I'm probably overreacting and not doing my job of working consequences with them.

    But today is not the day.
     
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  3. MrsC

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    Huge hugs, Backroads. I'm keeping you close in my thoughts.

    It was absolutely the right thing to do. Sometimes, we don't handle things the way we would ideally like to, but we are only human. You are doing what you need to do to get through the day in (more or less) one piece. I'm sure your students sense that you aren't quite yourself today; they will forgive you. Be sure to forgive, and take care of, yourself.
     
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    My daughter was tested for cystic fibrosis a few years ago, so I can relate to your emotions. If it’s any help, the actual test itself was easy and painless for her. It was just nerve wracking waiting for the results. Thoughts and prayers!
     
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    I'm sending you hugs, support and prayers.
    You are honest. Some teachers could never acknowledge their life interfered with their work. So, I'm thinking the kids weren't really bothered by what you did, and it didn't affect them adversely. You felt it worse than they did.
    Hang in there. Tomorrow is a brand new day.
    When will you know the results of the cf test?
     
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    Thanks. Not having those kiddos in the classroom really was helpful to me.

    My husband is taking her in for the test today. I'm not sure when we will hear the results.
     
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    OK. Please let me know how it goes with your daughter.
     
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    You are only human and have the right to feel emotions. I always hate when I hear people say, "leave your problems at the door when you come into school." Its impossible because we are all humans with feelings. I have actually told my kids that I don't feel good or am having a bad day and need their cooperation. They are usually really respectful of that and try their hardest to help me. I think it also shows them that no one is perfect all the time and everyone has bad days.
     
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    Sending prayers your way.

    Whatever jobs we have, we are all human at the end of the day.

    If you feel that this could happen again, the safe and sane thing to do is take a few days off, IMO. That's what time off is for. You have a right to stay home, gather your thoughts, and calm your nerves. Calls will be made, you need to talk, ask questions, and understand information provided. You can't concentrate in your classroom if you are looking at your cell phone when it buzzes and it's a wrong number. Too difficult to step away and try to talk. You'll probably end up leaving early...so it's best to just stay home where you can focus on your family and when you get the results.
     
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    My thoughts and prayers are with you. I certainly hope all goes well. I agree, you did the right thing in the classroom.
     
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    Take a sick or personal day if you need it. Good wishes for your daughter.
     
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    Well, turned out she does in fact have cystic fibrosis, so it's been a crazy weekend. Thanks for your thoughts!
     
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    Hugs, Backroads.
     
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    <audible groan>
    Much love your way. We're here for whatever support we can give you.
     
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    Backroads, I’m glad you have some answers. It will be an emotional rollercoaster in the beginning, but now you can develop a plan and know what you are dealing with. As catnfiddle said, we are here for you. Sending continued prayers your way!
     
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    Yes, I will definitely keep you and your family in my prayers.
     
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    Thanks everyone! It has indeed been an emotional roller coaster, but I think I'm in a good place right now and we do have a plan, which is always good.
     
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    My cousin’s daughter has asthma. Once her mom got in touch with the local university hospital, things were much better.

    Teaching hospitals are on the cutting edge of new treatments. She doesn’t have to ask about explaining treatments. She takes her to regular appts in the clinic. Much easier than dealing with reg doctor. The staff offers lots of literature and free samples of her meds. During the holidays, she tells me there’s plenty of gifts for all the children. Cousin feels relieved to sit in waiting room and chat with other frazzled parents.
     
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