Not being social

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  1. John Lee

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    Do teachers understand, if you choose not to attend social gatherings outside of work? I mean, I appreciate my staff... I actually think they're all very nice people. And I like the fact that I work with a group of people who think its nice to get together and (e.g. have brunch, take a walk, go to movies, happy hour)... and it is nice to be invited too.

    During the school year, I certainly feel a bit more obligated to participate... if not often, occasionally. But during the summer--and this may come off as harsh to people here--I really have no desire to see them or have much reminder of school. I feel a little bad turning down invitations to this and that all the time during the summer. Often, I really don't have good reasons for not wanting to go, other than just not wanting to go. Sitting with a group of married women (only man) and do whatever it, does not interest me. I just hope they understand.
     
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    People at my site definitely understand. We're all adults with lives. Or, in my case, an adult who just doesn't like to socialize often. I get along great with my coworkers in the workplace despite not attending their weekly happy hours.
     
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    I thing going occasionally is great! I feel similarly about the summer. :)
     
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    We're a really small staff and a lot of us are pretty close. However, we do our own things during the summer. Some will get together. Like I'm going out with a couple of the girls this weekend. However, a lot of us just catch back up on that first day.
     
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    I don't think anyone in our school thinks anything about it. Some of us are friends outside of work, but others never socialize outside of work.
     
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    I used to live in a very tiny town where work was really the only place to make friends, so I really only went out with coworkers. A lot of time we'd end up talking/complaining about school because that's all we really had in common, and I didn't like that. One of the many things I love about living in a bigger city now is that I have a completely separate social life outside of work. Personally, I like having that separation. I have a little group that I eat lunch with most days at school, but we don't really hang out outside of work. I never go to work happy hours or holiday parties. To me those kinds of events are very tiring and feel like just more work- having to make polite small talk with coworkers is not my idea of fun. Most are 20-30 years older than me and only interested in talking about their kids/grandkids. I'm sure some people think it's bad that I don't attend any of those events, but honestly it's not something I'm going to worry about. I have plenty of friends outside of school and am happy with my social circle.
     
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    I think it is nice to go on occasion. I was not as social this year as I was in years past, so I felt very out of the loop and at times lonely at work. However, I also had the misfortune of being on a hallway with several people I do not relate to.

    Different culture, morals, interest, and work ethic. So even if they had invited me out, I doubt I would have had a good time because I did not enjoy their company at work.

    I usually prefer to be cordial to everyone, then have a couple go-to people that I am close with. Unfortunately, both my go-to people left last school year, so I am hoping to find new ones this year.
     

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