I've been having a debate with myself ever since last year when there was a discussion on here about telling your own children there is a Santa or not. Luckily I have a couple of years before I need to address it but I really want to have solidly formed my opionion/decision by then. My question is, how many people here do not do the whole "Santa thing" with their own kids? And if you don't, what was your reasoning? And the last question is, how do you deal with family (grandparents, cousins, aunts/uncles, etc.) that do participate in Santa? I am just so torn about this topic. My in-laws are heavily involved in Santa. My mother-in-law still addresses gifts to all of us from Santa as well. I've always enjoyed Santa since I was a kid. I love watching my nieces and nephews get excited when Santa (family friend) calls on Christmas day. So I think it will be a very big deal if I tell them that my kid(s) won't participate in the Santa festivities. And I wouldn't even know how to handles that with a 2-3 year old who would be old enough to notice all the Santa stuff going on around him but not old enough to think "ok mom and dad said all this wasn't real but I'm not supposed to spoil it for my cousins by telling them that". On the other hand, when I think about telling my OWN kids that there is a Santa only to later have them find out that isn't true, I don't feel great about that. Somehow it feels like lying. Please don't think I'm judging those of you who do participate in Santa with your children. Remember that I said I enjoy seeing/talking about with nieces and nephews about Santa. My own parents and grandparents did Santa with me when I was younger. I certainly don't think of my family or myself as terrible liars so I don't judge anyone else who tells their children about Santa either. I think it is a very warm and fuzzy tradition. I just can't shake the feeling of weirdness when I think of telling my own children about it (or the tooth fairy, Easter Bunny, etc.). I am just so torn over all of it that I thought it might help to hear the experiences of those of you have went against the tradition and are "Santa-less" with your kids.