New babies, forgotten dog?

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  1. sue35

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    Ok, so most of you will think I am crazy but I am taking my chances. We are expecting twins (via a surrogate) any day now. Clearly we are very excited. Tonight a friend was mentioning how we won't love our dog as much when the twins get here. This made me so sad and I don't want it to be true.

    When we were deciding about going through with having a child there was honestly a part of me that was hesitant because of how much I love my dog and don't want her to get less attention or love. She is a very loving dog, with us at all times. I know it sounds crazy but she has been with me during many scary times and I adore her. Why can't I love her just as much?

    I always hear how people's pets get less important once kids get here. Is there anyone who didnt let kids change their relationship with the dog? That still loved their dog just as much? I know she is only a dog, but she is a pretty special one.

    I just read this through and realized sound ridiculous but maybe someone will understand?
     
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    I felt my dogs were like my kids, but after I had kids I realized what a different type of love you have for your children. You are going to be so busy with twins, I know you will continue to love your dog but there is no possible way you will have the same time and attention to give him/her. It doesn't mean you don't love it, but your priorities will change.
     
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    I understand. My dog was my baby until my son got here. She was still my first baby but I found myself getting more easily annoyed with the dogs after my son was here. Our dogs are and always will be a part of our family though so things didnt really change that much. Just my patience for them did. My dog has since passed away and it's been hard because my son and her were close. We have other dogs but he's not close to them.

    Good luck with the twins! You will be busy so try to include your dog in as much with the babies as you can.
     
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    I love my dogs as much as I did before. Admittedly they didn't get much attention the first few weeks as we were getting used to the baby, but things went back to normal once we got the hang of it all.
     
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    I am not a parent, but I will speak on behalf of my parents.

    They loved our family dog just as much after I was born. I actually think having children made them love our dog even more. Our family dog was really incredible with children and to this day I still hear about "oh DOG wouldn't let you out of her sight when you started crawling" and "oh DOG was so gentle with you" etc. etc.

    also, when we watch old home videos... my dad has about a 2 minute limit unless of course it's of DOG when she was a puppy. haha.
     
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    What did I miss? Are congratulations in order?


    Sue - we had two dogs when we had our first daughter and we loved them just as much, they just got fewer walks (partly because our daughter was born in late Nov. in N Michigan and it was too cold to take her out). There is enough love to go around.
    Have you picked out names?
     
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    We had a dog for five years before our daughter was born. My love for my dog did not change when my daughter was born. If anything, I appreciated the fact that she was by my side day and night, through feedings, diaper changes, midnight crying episodes, etc. I was never alone when I felt exhausted and unable to cope with the demands of a newborn. That dog looked at me as though I was the best thing in the world no matter how horrible I looked or felt.

    When our dog died we were just grief stricken. We had both owned dogs previous to our marriage, but had never experienced anything like this grief. Our dog was very much loved despite our bringing children into our home.

    So, no worries:) It will all be well. Focus on your wonderful life and enjoy it all to the max for it is true you will blink and the children will be all grown up.
     
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    My neighbors had a dog before they had their baby and as far as I can tell they still love him just as much. He seems pretty spoiled (the dog) and from the pictures they take it looks like he loves the baby too!
     
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    Thanks guys. I think I am just stressed out in general about the twins. I am not a good person when it comes to change and I tend to worry a lot. I hope our dog loves the girls, I'm sure she will when they start walking with food:)
     
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    My neighbors dog was the baby's protector if someone the dog saw as a stranger would come near baby (even in house) he would stand up & give a bark like back away! I thought it was cute how he took her into his pack!

    I know friends of ours took a blanket to hospital to get baby smell on it so dog could smell baby before they brought their baby home.

    Have you thought about carrying a pillow or something to see how dog reacts to you being "occupied"?
     
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    We love our dog as much, but I'm not sure she loves us as much as before we brought them home. I'm mostly kidding, but our dog is very low key and is happy as long as she gets breakfast and dinner and sleeps in bed with us. She tolerates the kids as they give her lots of snacks at the table, but she is not super interested in them, even at 3.5.
     
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    I had this concern about one of my pets (we had 3). Unfortunately the one I was most concerned about passed away just a little while ago, while I've been pregnant. I'm slowly getting over it, but sometimes wonder if it might be for the best since I won't have to worry about her getting enough attention. And then I feel bad for thinking that! We tried for a while for a baby, so I thought my pets might end up being my only "children".
     
  14. smalltowngal

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    FFH~sorry about the passing of your fur baby. :(

    sue~I will echo what others have said that after the babies get here, the love you have for your dog won't diminish, it'll just be a different kind of love. I absolutely love my fur babies and treat them like my kid. My 10 yr old daughter will sometimes call them her brothers since she's an only child.
     
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    To be perfectly honest, anyone who views their dog and other animals as "pets" or refer to them as "its" simply can't and won't understand. Only you can fully know how much and deeply you love your dog. I have curled up with my dog and literally found myself teary-eyed at how precious he is and the overwhelming love I have for him. Animals are so, so much more than pets or things to be used by humans for our comfort and entertainment. They are spiritual creatures. Point being, other people's experience may not match your own. Of course time and attention will be divided much like when a family has a second or third child, yet the love remains the same.
     
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    Don't worry; when the kids are teenagers, the dog will seem like the best one in the family.
     

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