I would really appreciate your ideas on this issue I'm facing. I am very bitter toward someone I frequently encounter. I prefer not to say who, except that this person is not easily avoidable. I'll call him "John". John is a very popular person with almost everyone I know. However, I find his actions very untactful. Bitterness is growing, and I feel like it's eating me up. I don't feel like I can talk to anyone about it, because he's so well-liked by all my friends and family. I just feel all alone in my bitterness. The main thing that I dislike about John is that he comes off as being superior. He belittles the decisions I make and the accomplishments I achieve, and I am very tired of taking this. I want to speak up, because it just doesn't seem right to allow this person to tear me down. But I just know I'll come across as being the "bad" one if I stand up for myself. So many people find his actions funny. I sure don't. It hurts me badly, and I think about it frequently. I want to stand up to him next time he belittles me. I don't want to come across as a jerk, but I don't want to continue with this treatment. I'd like to tactfully get the point across that I don't like being treated this way. I just seem to be at a loss of words whenever he's around. I'm not very outgoing, so I've often allowed people to trample on my feelings because I didn't want to draw attention to myself. But it's time to turn over a new leaf. What would you all do? I need some perspective on this.