I'm a bridesmaid in a wedding this summer and the maid of honor is planning things without letting anyone else know. She sent a message on facebook about a month ago telling us that she was planning the bridal shower at her parents' restaurant. I responded saying that since the bride planned my bridal shower there, I'd like to try some place different to really surprpise her. I listed 5 or 6 other suggestions (with menus and prices), but she didn't end up taking any of my suggestions and booked her parents' restaurant anyway (after not even responding about my suggestions). The shower is April 11th, so I sent a message to her and one other bridesmaid on facebook asking about invitations. I made one on vistaprint, so I sent them a pic and asked if they wanted me to order them. She just responded saying that the bride's mother bought the invitations and they were mailing them out tomorrow. I'm fine with the fact that her mom chose the invitations already, but why didn't I even know they were being sent out? I would've liked to help writing them out/addressing them, etc. I'm really upset that I'm being kept so out of the loop with the whole thing, so here is my response to the maid of honor: Ok, that's cool. Just let me know what I can do! I want to be a part of planning the shower, but I can't if I don't know what's going on. I know there are 7 of us, so it's hard to keep everyone in the loop all the time, but Jessica's my closest friend and I really want to be a part of planning these things for her. Does that sound rude, or am I out of line? Please be honest!