So right now I have 4 bridesmaids for the wedding, and they are pretty much the 4 I have picked out for a long time. They are my 2 sisters and my 2 best friends. My one friend lives kind of far from me and has 2 young children. The other is having some health problems right now and is kind of flaky. I just don't feel like I can rely on her. My one sister is 12, and the other one is in Africa. She is probably the one I would rely on the most to help with the wedding and plan the shower and other BM responsibilities, but because she just started the Peace Corps, she won't be here for the any pre-wedding stuff, and she might not even be here for the actual wedding. So essentially, I am down a bridesmaid, and my most reliable bridesmaid at that. I want to ask my cousin A to be a bridesmaid. We are close because when her parents divorced she was at our house all the time. But she is closer in age to my sister. In addition to seeing her as kind of another sister, she would also be a stand-in for my sister (but I wouldn't want to tell her that) because I know she would be reliable, organized, take charge in putting things together, etc, and I know she would also have the same opinions as my sister. However, I think my cousin M would be offended. She and I are closer in age and were always sort of coupled up together, if that makes sense. But I really don't want to ask her to be a BM. I just feel like she would bring too much drama to the situation. She is unreliable, she never has money, she probably won't wear a dress... I was already worried that she would be upset that I didn't ask her in the first place and I really think she would be offended if I asked the other cousin and not her. (She gets offended really easily, especially about family stuff). Part of me thinks that it's my wedding and I should do what I want, but then part of what I want is to not have her annoyed or mad at me. I know ultimately I have to figure out how to handle this and that I know them both better than you do, but I didn't know if anyone had any advice to offer. Sometimes it helps just to talk things out with you guys.