Hi, I'm wondering what your thoughts are on a situation I currently find myself in. This year, I have been very busy. I got married and developed a chronic illness that will shorten my life and greatly impacts the quality of my life. I have lots of medical bills and will need procedures not covered by insurance. I also lost a relative and he left me a large sum of money. He left my mother about double what he left me. I came home to visit my parents as I do every summer. They are in their fifties. My father makes 200+k a year and drives a Porsche. My mother blindsided me on the day of my arrival by saying that she sat down and crunched some numbers and found that she spent more money on my childhood and college expenses than my brother and would like me to write her a check for 10k so things are more fair (I.e. repay her). She also tried to tell me she spent more money on me than my sister but it was easy for me to call bs on that as she lived with them for six years, wrecked multiple cars and just the day before gifted her with an expensive present. About my brother: he lived with them from 19 to 26, but living with them doesn't apparently count as money spent on him. He flunked out of colleges multiple times so eventually went to cc and perhaps that is why his college expenses are counted as less than mine. I have never lived with them and I have always had a job. There have been times I have needed to borrow money for emergencies and they have always said no. My college was expensive, but they told me I could go wherever I want and they never mentioned repayment. My senior year, they made me take out a small loan and promised to repay it and then never did, worth about 10k right there. I paid for grad school on my own entirely. For my wedding, they paid only for my dress and my in-laws paid for everything else. She is also including the cost of my first (used) car which I was told was a present at the time. I am really offended. I do not feel like it is fair to make me repay money spent on my childhood and education after the fact. I also have a really hard time believing that they didn't spend more on my siblings when they both lived with them for at least six years each and my parents paid for their cars, health insurance, auto insurance, meals, etc. When here for the holidays once, my sister drove her car home on an empty tank of gas and asked my dad to go out and fill it....she wouldn't even pay $30 for gas. She told me she expects the money out of my inheritance and I am not allowed to tell my husband or my father. She says they have no money right now due to home repairs and she refuses to use her inheritance. I talked to my sister and she said she did the same thing to her and she gave them thousands of dollars and then started asking for documentation of money spent on my brother. She was also told not to tell our dad. What are your thoughts? I feel very hurt and probably need to talk to a therapist but I am stuck visiting them for a week and don't know what to do.