I am sitting here with tears running down my face. Oh, guys, I am so sorry that a lot of you have had to face all that you have had to. It reminds me of the saying, "I complained that I had no shoes, until I met a man who had no feet." My childhood, despite its warts, was BLISS compared to a lot of your stories. It makes my adulthood easier to take, too. My former husband and the father of my three sons announced on our 18th anniversary that he wanted a divorce. Long story, won't inflict it on you now, but although the pain and repercussions were huge and lasted for a long time, this event that I thought was the end of my life turned into a huge blessing that was the beginning of a much better life, and...among other things, it's the reason I'm TEACHING now . Anyway, the reason I bring this up is that the first of my kids got married at the end of May, and I spent a lot of time prior to that worrying about having to deal with my ex-in-laws (I have a friend who calls them my outlaws.) I had tons of people praying for me, and, it ended up going so smoothly that I almost wondered what I had been worrying about. Mincc, I will be praying for you and your "going to the wedding" situation too. God helped me get beyond all the pain caused by my former family, and allowed me a spirit of forgiveness, something I would never have been able to do on my own. God bless you.