Today's the first time I've babysat my friend's infant son. She is a single mother taking classes, so I told her I'd watch the baby every Wednesday and Thursday to save her money on a babysitter. She left me a detailed set of instructions about feeding schedule, allergies, the toys he likes, to put on Dora the Explorer, etc. There's NOTHING in the instructions about visitation from his dad. Which is why I was confused to receive a face book message a few minutes ago from the father saying, "Hey Em, can you drop by with the baby today?" Thing is: 1. Father does NOT live with the baby 2. Friend is NOT in a relationship with the father 3. Father does NOT have much relationship with the baby (according to friend and from what I've seen) 4. Father does NOT have court-mandated visitation nor does he pay child support. 5. Friend did NOT tell me say anything about visits with dad (plus, if he wants me to "stop by with the baby" what does that mean? I sit around his house while he plays with the baby then when he's done take the baby back to my apart? Leave the baby at his house and come back when he calls me?) I tried to call my friend but she didn't answer (her phone was prob on silent b/c she's in an intense class) and she can't get emails or text messages on her pay as you go phone. I messaged him back and said, "I'm sorry, I can't do that. You'll have to talk to <my friend>" Now I have this funny feeling in the pit of my stomach but it would've been irresponsible to take him to the father since my friend didn't give me express permission or instructions to do so right?