Mom not well

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  1. Blue

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    My mom's doctor just called and said my mom does not have long to live. I have posted about my mom, who has severe dementia, and says and does strange things. The whole family has kept their sense of humor and been great with her. We all knew she was not doing well, but it is still a shock when the doctor says "this is it."

    She lives in a foster care home. I plan to spend a great deal of time there. I will take my laptop, so I can keep in touch.

    I just needed to share.
     
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  3. scienceteach82

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    -hugs- I'm sorry, Blue. We are here for you.
     
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    So sorry you're going through this, Blue. You'll be in my thoughts.
     
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    I'm sorry, blue. You and your family are in my prayers during this difficult time.
     
  6. MrsC

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    Hugs, Blue. This is a difficult time for your family; I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
     
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    Enjoy her as much as you can. Rub her feet with lotions, brush her hair, file her nails, and hold her hand. I'm so sorry.
     
  8. Blue

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    Thank you all for your kind thoughts. A patient at my mom's home passed away a couple weeks ago. She had dementia just like my mom, and her daughter was there every day, holding her hand. I feel very sorry for the care giver, as one of her clients passed away, and she has two more in bad shape. Thus, is the cycle of life.
     
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    I feel for you, Blue, that is so hard. You're in my thoughts.
     
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    I don't have the strength to post separately tonight but I wanted to tell you we are going through the same thing (just found out tnite). It's my mother-in-law and not my own mother (though I lost the woman who basically raised me just a few short years ago). She was given 6 months....terminal cancer. My grandfather passed away maybe 2 years ago from dementia so I've seen that up close and personal too. Can we give each other a few hugs?

    I want to tell you though that having some notice does make a difference. It won't erase your pain but it will bring some closure. I'm glad you are taking the opportunity to be close by.
     
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    :hugs: Blue
     
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    We will keep you in our thoughts.
     
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    :hugs: My goodness, I'm sorry Blue. The only thing on the positive note is that you've been told that she doesn't have much longer, so you can see her as much as you want & tell her everything you've always wanted to before she passes.

    Many people don't get that warning & their loved ones die suddenly w/o ever seeing the person again.
     
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    I'm so sorry, Blue. I pray that you can find some peace through this difficult time.
     
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    Hugs and strength to you, Blue.
     
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    You and your family are in my prayers, Blue.
     
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    Hugs to you, Blue. You are brave to face this difficult time with an accepting attitude. It is part of life, true. But, not easy. You sound like a very good daughter.
     
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    Sorry Blue. Your mom is lucky to have you.
     
  19. Blue

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    CutNglue--it is hard no matter what time you have. And, it brings up memories of those who passed before. Thanks again to all of you for your support.
     
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    Huge :hugs: to both of you, Blue and cutNglue.
     
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    So sorry for both of you. I know it shouldn't matter but being around the holidays makes it harder. Vent all you want...I know I needed it when my mom died...it does help relieve the stress.
     
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    The weirdest things keep popping into my head. Like, will she be around to wear all the new clothes I bought her for Christmas? And, I can't take her out for lunch--she loved to go out to eat. And, will my youngest grandchild remember her? Boy, getting old is hard.
     
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    And seeing the ones you love get old isn't a picnic either.

    I'll keep you both in my prayers.
     
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    I'm sorry Blue. That has got to be a really tough situation.

    Personally, I'd prefer to know, like in your situation, because then you can spend time with her, but I know it's hard either way.

    Last year at this time, my grandmother was in a similar situation. She was away from home in a rehabilitation facility for the first time in her life. I brought decorations and decorated her room to make Christmas special for her. She passed away January 2.

    I'm sure she would appreciate anything you can do to make her feel more comfortable.
     
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    So sorry to hear this Blue. Hugs to you.
     
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    My prayers are with you. I lost my dad four years ago in November. I wish I had been given just a day or so notice so that my children could have said good bye. I say give her the presents now if she is able to open and enjoy them. I say see if you can get stories out of her. My husband's grandmother told some great stories right before she died---it wasn't until a year or so later that I realized that it was a hallmark movie.
     
  27. DizneeTeachR

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    Mrachelle....tha't too funny about the story.

    We lost my grandpa & they said within a day. He lasted the weekend, he was pretty out of it, but he told me I don't get enough flowers (gram gave me all the bulbs after the funeral because grampa wanted me to have flowers). He was out of it the next day & then the next he was very cohert talking we called him & he talked to all of us... early the next morning he passed. I was so happy to have that time with him!!!
     
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    Hugs, Blue. I'll be praying for you and your family-make sure your grandson gets to spend as much time with her as possible as well. It will be hard for him to see her like that, but he'll appreciate the time.
     
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    Hugs to you! Praying for strength for you and your family!
     

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