I have a daughter, Jane who is 5 and attends kindergarten. The school has a "natural consequences" policy which I never found out about until recently when my daughter began to have problems. One day my daughter came home and said that she was not allowed to participate in gym because she forgot her shoes. I told Jane that the shoes were in her backpack. The next day she told me she had to go to the office for recess because she didn't get her snow pants on in time to go out. The third day she told me her teacher told her she couldn't come into the classroom until she improved her attitude. I asked her where she was supposed to stay and she said in the hall. I emailed the teacher the first day and asked the teacher to remind my child to look in her backpack for her shoes. The teacher emailed me back and said that Jane just didn't put her shoes on in time and that when she wanted to put them on (prior to music/prior to gym) it was too late and she had to sit out of gym. I was very upset about this since Jane wanted to participate and just wasn't allowed to since it didn't fit the teacher's timeline of when shoes were put on. I immediately set up an appointment with the principal and teacher. While in the meeting I explained my concerns of my child being singled out and isolated from others. I asked for other ideas and they just both told me that these consequences are "natural." I told them there is nothing natural about losing gym and recess privledges-if you are an adult, you just miss some time at gym or recess if you don't put shoes on right away-not all of it. I also was concerned because my daughter was never told if you do this-you get this. These are just adult-imposed consequences at whim. There is not a list of rules in the classroom, no consequences are listed, all are just what they call "natural." So I left that meeting with the teacher denying that she ever told my child she couldn't come into the classroom and I felt pretty upset still but wanted to make the best of it. I volunteered in my daughter's classroom for two days and did notice that my child is full of energy but no more than any boys in the class. She did have to be told more than once to do some tasks. Since then my husband has talked to her teacher several times and the teacher has told her that my daughter talks too much so during writer's workshop. The teacher starts Jane off in a group but then she has to send her to the back of the room (behind the cubbies) to finish her writing assignments (they are writing books-many, many sentences). She has told my husband that this works and that my daughter is quickly back with the group. Although I don't think it is that great of a way to help my daughter, I have let it go until today. I know my daughter and she has a hard time beginning to write because it is a skill that although she can do, still probably has some small muscle coordination difficulties-she is only 5! Fast forward to today. My daughter came home and told me that she was isolated again during writer's worskhop. She told me that she was isolated right away-not even given a chance to work at her table. She had to sit alone, out of sight of any adult for all of writer's workshop to do her work for no reason at all. She says that her and one other boy are the only ones in the classroom that ever get isolated. Although the teacher told my husband that she has always given Jane a chance this turned out to not be true. I truly think this teacher is VERY controlling, doesn't really know the 5 year-old's capabilities are and is off base. I don't like that recess is 5 minutes at the end of the day. I don't like what they call "natural consequences." I don't like that my child is being taught by the teacher that she is so "bad" that she needs to sit alone. Please advise. I have already sent an email to the principal and the teacher about this incident today. What do I do?