Mom Dilemma...

Discussion in 'Teacher Time Out' started by mmswm, Oct 5, 2010.

  1. mmswm

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    I'm sitting here, doing nothing, while my kittens destroy my oldest son's English homework. He's been having some issues lately with cleaning up after himself. I'm tired of talking, warning, grounding, etc. He left his homework spread out over the desk in the living room, and on top of the kitty condo. Ummmm, yeah.....I must be a bad mom again, because I'm not going to do a dang thing about the shredding......
     
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  3. JustMe

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    No, in all honesty, I would do the same at this point. You warned, you tried. If you were to rescue the paper he would see all of your "nagging" as just that, and he'd have proof that you're really only nagging and nothing bad like you say will happen does.

    I hate it for him, but tough love is love just the same. :)
     
  4. Sarge

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    I think that those kittens should be grounded or at least placed in time-out.
     
  5. kcjo13

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    Ya might want to write a note confirming that, in fact, the cat did eat his homework...

    I had a math student the other day tell me this exact story. I told her I wasn't born yesterday and I'd see her at noon. Oops!
     
  6. mmswm

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    KC...too funny...of course, I think Matthew deserves whatever punishment she deems fit....he is the one who left his homework out.

    Sarge...the kitty condo is their domain...no time out for playing with things left on their house :D
     
  7. Sarge

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    Nope. What I would do is make him stay up re-doing the homework. No matter what it takes, even if it ends up being his first "all nighter."

    And if he already went to bed, get him up, inform him of the homework and have him get to work.
     
  8. mmswm

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    Oh, you're mean sarge....I thought I was mean, but you have me beat. I think I'll wake him up at 4am....hmmmmmmm, I'm getting ideas here....
     
  9. Sarge

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    Yes, early morning might be more effective than getting him up tonight.
     
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    I'm a big believer in natural consequences. Let the teacher handle it the way she sees fit.
     
  11. Sarge

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    The problem is that in his mind, regardless of what the teacher does, he will always have the excuse that the cat destroyed the homework when he justifies his grade. When I was a kid, I would not have made the connection between my actions, or lack thereof, and my damaged grade that resulted from my irresponsibility.

    But had my mom gotten me out of bed at 4 am to do the work that had been destroyed as a result of my own failure to take care of it, I definitely would have spent a lot of time wishing I had been more careful with things that were important and probably would have never made that mistake again.
     
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    I've gotten to the same point with my puppy and the kids leaving their stuff on the floor. I have just quit telling them to pick it up and then when Shadow is chewing on it, I let them know but I don't stop Shadow (unless he follows me to tell them).
     
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    He is NOT happy with me right now. I woke him up at 4:30 to redo his assignment. It's done, and he's tired, and he says he wants to get rid of the kittens. Ummm, no. How 'bout just putting your stuff away. :D
     
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    Oh mean momma!!! :lol: Maybe he learned his lesson after this.
     
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    ok you get the award for worlds worst mom!! LOL! j/k I unforunitally still live at home..I work 2 jobs and I am in college. Well the other day my room was a mess...my dad unpluged the computer...Does he not know I need it for school? ugh!! You could be in my boat!
     
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    Oh, that's a good idea! My oldest is rather dilatory about doing his homework and we don't like letting him stay up late to do it (he's in fifth grade). We could set the bedtime strictly and then wake him up early.... it might get him to be quicker about it in the evening.
     
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    Well, hopefully he learned his lesson & won't leave important papers lying around.
     
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    Funny, I have a LOL cat picture on my website of a cat with filler paper in his mouth, dragging it under the bed, and it says, "homework eating cat knows dog will get blamed."

    Reminds me of that ;)
     
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    Well, it worked for at least one night....Matthew very carefully packed up his homework and hung his bag on the hook.....
     
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    I would have put the homework out of reach of the cats. At least he did it. Our family was all about helping each other out in this crappy, stressful world we live in and if it meant putting something valuable out of reach of some kittens, we would have done that for one another. My kids have grown to be totally responsible adults and I did a LOT of stuff for them when they were under my wing.
     
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    Well, Grammy, after having done that every single night since school started, I thought it was time to try something different. At some point, it's important for kids to realize their actions have consequences.
     
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    Well, we just have different ways of teaching and parenting.
     
  23. Blue

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    I am with Grammy. I would have put it up. BUT, I understand how a week of nagging with no results can push a parent to the wall. Being a mom is really hard work, and since I have only 1 grandson like MM's 3, I can imagine life is stressful. (I am so glad to send him home at the end of the day.)
     
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    Blue, it's been more than a week. It's literally been every night since school started. And it's more than just homework. He doesn't pick up ANYTHING He's been talked to, grounded, talked to again, grounded again. At some point, enough is enough.
     
  25. Blue

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    mm, I feel your pain. My DD and her son moved into a new apartment on Sept 1. I helped my GS unpack, but he still has lots to do. He just paws through the boxes, makes a mess, and leaves it. I can live with the messy room, but he has to learn to wear deodorant.
     
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    I agree with you, make the kid walk the plank arrr
    When I was in HS my mom would type my History and English papers for me (Mom was dad's secretary before they got married) I would finish the writing and then I'd try to sneak off to bed, Mom told me years later that she would come wake me up and ask me what I had written, saying she couldn't read my writing BUT she could, after all she was my mom!, so I'd get up and sit at the kitchen table while she typed and about whenever I started to doze off she'd ask me again what I had written, crafty lady LOL.
     
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    I would have left it out also, especially when he has been told repeatedly to pick it up. If he doesn't know what could happen when it's left out, he has no reason to start picking it up. Some kids don't need that and understand right away, but others need to experience what could happen.
     
  28. Blue

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    FarFromHome, that is it--children need to be handled per their temperment.
     
  29. Irishdave

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    if I left clothes out, My mom, the crafty lady, would just pack them up in a bag and put them on a shelf by the Washing machine. When I ran out of clothes the dirty ones would just appear for me to wash. See mom would do them if they were picked up.
     
  30. Blue

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    Irishdave, I think your mother must have been a great woman.
     
  31. Irishdave

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    I think so :)
     

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