Miss, Mrs., or Ms.?

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How do you have your students address you?

  1. Miss

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  2. Mrs.

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  3. Ms.

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  4. First Name

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  5. Something else (please elaborate in the thread)

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  1. Ted

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    To my female colleagues here (whether you're currently a teacher/paraprofessional, or not) -

    Do you have you students and/or their families refer to you as:
    Miss ________________________
    Mrs. ________________________
    Ms. ________________________
    or something else entirely (e.g. your first name, etc.)

    If you'd like to share why you chose that option, please do. :)
     
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  3. nyteacher29

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    I use ms honestly because it is short and ive just always uses that with my unmarried teachers but my friend who is a few years younger has her students use miss because she says that's more proper. I wouldn't care if a student used misses
     
  4. Ms. I

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    Ms. for me. I've stopped the Miss several years ago now.
     
  5. Ted

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    So would you say age has something to do with it? We have a fairly young, unmarried teacher at our school and she goes by "Ms."
     
  6. Pashtun

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    I always introduce myself as my first and last name. Kids ask if they can call me by my first name, I always respond that they can. To date, no one has actually done it.

    The idea of calling a teacher Mr. or Mrs. runs deep.

    Parents I always introduce myself by my first name, if parents call me MR. I say its "first name".
     
  7. yellowdaisies

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    Mrs. Lastname. I'm married. I'm young (late 20s), and I look even younger, so people tend to call me Miss until they realize.

    Last year, my kids didn't find out my first name until the spring. (I have no idea how it took so long!) I made it very clear that they couldn't call me that. It's actually kind of a big deal to me, weirdly. I was "Miss Firstname" for years when I did after school programs. I feel like I've EARNED the "Mrs. Lastname" title given to teachers. :rolleyes: I guess that's silly.
     
  8. Ms. I

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    I think most ladies still in their 20s don't mind being called Miss. When they get to be in their early 30s, they tend to switch to Ms. But of course people do what floats their boat.

    Also, don't forget about the population who are divorced, but don't want anyone to know whether they are married or divorced, so they prefer to be called Ms.
     
  9. Pashtun

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    Is Ms pronounced the same way as Mrs?
     
  10. Ted

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    Thanks for commenting, Pashtun! I didn't mean to exclude our male members here. :)

    Interestingly, I prefer for families to also call me Mr. _________. I tried the first name and many families took that and became very familiar...to the point where lines of professionalism were blurred. Even though I ask to be called Mr. ______________, there are still some (usually the dads) who feel it's okay to call me Ted. *shrug*
     
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    No, more of a "z" sound for the "s".

    I think of it as rhyming with "fizz". That's just me, however. :)
     
  12. yellowdaisies

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    I've always heard Ms pronounced "Mizz" and "Mrs" as "Missus," so they don't sound the same.

    Of course when the kids say it it tends to all sound the same lol.
     
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    In my experience, Ms is pronounced 'Mizz'.
     
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    First year it was Miss. Second year it was Ms. After having a baby, this third year it will still be Ms. (Untill marriage if course)
     
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    Awesome, thank you for the clarification.
     
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    Kids at my school call me a variety of things. Since we're a German school most of the younger kids call me "Frau" or "Frau W." Other times they say "Teacher", which is normal. And the older kids call me "Ms. W" My last name is too long for people to use! I always say they can call me Ms/Frau W.
     
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    The students at my school tend to call all their teachers either "Miss" or "Mister", no last names, no "Ms/Mrs", none of that.
     
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    I am old fashioned and I think common courtesy has been very much abandoned throughout the years. I prefer Mrs. Lastname. It is a form of respect and I often address my students as Miss Lastname or Mr. Lastname.
     
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    I'm young, but I do Ms and plan to stick with it. I don't like the whole Miss vs Mrs thing. There's no reason for women to declare their marriage status with a title, IMO. There's no separation for men, and really there's no point in two titles when we could just use one.
     
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    I was Miss for 7 years...after this weekend I will be Mrs. though!! :) the single teachers at my school all go by miss. We ranged in age from mid twenties to mid forties.
     
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    I think all of the female teachers at my school use Ms.
     
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    Miss Last name. But, I honestly don't care/mind if the kids call me Mrs. Last name.

    I don't see the point in getting fussed, lol.

    Edited to add: However, if they tried calling me by my first name, THEN I'd be upset. :)
     
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    I use Ms.; I'm unmarried (and won't be changing my name when I am married), and it feels more professional to me than "Miss". In my experience, it seems like secondary-trained teachers almost never use "Miss," while elementary-trained teachers often do. I feel like "Miss" tends to be used more in rural than urban areas, too.
     
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    I use Miss, but I'm the only teacher at my hs that I've seen use it. Most of the students use Ms out of habit anyway.
     
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    I chose "Something Else" because we write Mrs. but all students say "miss" or "missus". I haven't heard someone pronounce it Mrs. in...my entire life, actually.

    The only time I've used it is when I've been talking about Mrs. beauty pageants (no doubt having fun with that...) and I want to be clear who and what I'm talking about.
     
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    Oddly enough even though we have several married teachers at our school, i call almost everyone Ms. I find that older teachers prefer the Mrs and have corrected me, whereas younger teachers (20s and 30s) dont seem to care. I must got married and will introduce myself to my class and other adults henceforth as "Mrs Catz". As long as they call me by my new last name, i dont care if Mrs or Ms. Is in front of it
     
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    I've only ever heard Mrs. pronounced as "missus". Is there another pronunciation?
     
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    They can call me Ms. or Mrs., but I sign my "name" as Ms. I want them to know that Ms. is the proper term for any female. I think of Mrs. as old-fashioned.
     
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    Yeah, I've only heard Mrs pronounces as missus. Ms is mizz.
     
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    Well, I've heard (not ever in school) it having a z in it...like mizres.

    I don't know...it's all too confusing. :haha:

    Nearly everyone says miss here no matter how it's spelled.
     
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    I just looked it up. The standard English pronunciation is Missus, but there are some small pockets of regional pronunciations (used primarily by older people) where you still use the R. Learn something new every day! Mrs stemmed from an abbreviation of Mistress, which is where the R comes from.
     
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    I'm old fashioned. I want to be called Mrs.
     
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    Okay, I'm really enjoying this because at first I was feeling really stupid when a couple people said they hadn't heard of other pronunciations.

    But then my husband walked in.

    With no "backstory" or other information provided, I asked him how to "properly" pronounce m s period. He responded: miss

    And then I asked, "So how do you properly say m r s period. He said: mizres.

    Of course I shouted maybe a little too enthusiastically , "Thank you!" So he asked why I wondered and I explained and he said, "No, just think about Mrs. OurCounty Pagaent." And then I laughed because that's exactly what I had said here.

    So at least I'm not the only one on the planet.
     
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    This is true for me too. Apparently it's a cultural thing. I always thought it was funny when there were two adults in the room and they'd say "miss" and expect you to know who they were talking to.

    I'm not married and I definitely prefer Miss over Ms. at this stage of my life. I've mostly seen Ms. used as a title for older women who aren't married or women who just choose not to share. I'm only 25 so I definitely prefer miss...being called ms. makes me feel as old as being called ma'am!
     
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    Justme, see my last comment! I looked it up and the all-knowing internet said there are small pockets of Misrez out there. You are always unique in your local customs, it's interesting/neat! I need to visit this mysterious land.
     
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    Haha! Please come. Oh the things I could share with you. :lol:
     
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    I would pronounce Ms and Miss as "miss"

    And Mrs I would say "missus" properly, but would possibly just say "miss" as well.
     
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    Pronunciation guide:
    Miss rhymes with kiss
    Ms sounds like mizz
    Mrs is a two syllable word

    I prefer Mrs but I answer to most anything including mom..kids get embarrassed by that slip but I love it.
     
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    No one pronounces Ms. with a z here. I had no idea that was the norm.
     
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    How do you say it?:confused:

    Ms magazine was always pronounced Mizz by its editors.
     
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    We all say miss.
     
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