Male OBGYNs

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  1. Jerseygirlteach

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    Please don't yell at me for not being PC. I trust male doctors, but have never been to or thought I would ever feel comfortable with a male OBGYN. I need a new OBGYN and a male doctor was recommended to me. I don't know that I feel comfortable with this or trust that a man will understand any issues I have since they, for lack of better words, don't have the equipment. :eek:

    What do you think, honestly?
     
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    Male OBs delivered both of my children. I've had mostly only male OB/Gyns...only two have been women. Of those one I hated, the other is good. I don't think lacking the 'equipment' makes a difference.:2cents:
     
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    I've had both, and I prefer female. I think personality matters more than male/ female, and in my case, my female doctor has a better bedside manner.
     
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    I have a male OBGyn and I really like him. He's friendly, personable, professional and just an all around great guy. There are 2 females in the practice he's in but I always specifically request him just because I really like him. When I've had questions about changing my birth control we have had very good and informative conversation about my choices. I've never had any issues I felt he didn't understand.
     
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    I agree with agdamity, and his bedside manner is what I like about him.
     
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    I care more about personality and professionalism than gender. For me, I want a doctor who will listen to me and take my questions/concerns seriously. I also want someone who isn't judgmental. My current doctor is a man and he's one of the best doctors I've ever had. I don't plan on switching doctors unless one of us moves out of the state.

    With that having been said, I think it's perfectly fair to not want a male doctor all up in your business. Would you feel more comfortable if there were a nurse in the room at the same time? In any event, if you'd prefer a woman doctor, go for it. There's nothing wrong with that. You need to feel comfortable with your doctor, especially an OBGYN, and if you don't feel comfortable then you might not get the good care you deserve.
     
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    I have had male obgyns my entire life. I had major surgery last year performed by one of the top urogynocologists on the east coast who was male. I look at the qualifications, recommendations, and the hospitals the doctors are affiliated with. Gender would be last on my list. If you are uncomfortable with a male obgyn you may find yourself not being able to open up to him.
     
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    I've been to both. I have no preference. I can say that the women I've been to tend to be less "gentle."
     
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    I have only had women OBGYNs; however, it was a male OBGYN that delivered my babies. I just feel more comfortable with a woman .
     
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    I'm not comfortable with a male OBGYN.
     
  12. Ted

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    Guy chiming in here.

    I can totally understand how you feel about wanting a same-gender doctor in this regards.

    I have a male general practitioner whom I adore...and one reason I have always preferred males is not because I think men make better doctors, but because if I have a "man only" question, he'll understand.

    So I validate your hesitations.
     
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    I now see a male gynecologist after decades of female ones. Two of my other doctors are his patients, so I am assured of his professionalism. He is extremely apologetic if he has to perform a procedure that causes discomfort, possibly more so than my past doctors. The only major difference in office protocol is that the stirrups are left down until he sets them up. Apparently, he's accidentally gotten clobbered in the absolute worst way walking into one, so he's learned his lesson.
     
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    With military hospitals, you see a different doctor every time you go. I've had both male and female. I do feel a tiny bit less comfortable with a male doctor, but the ones I've had have actually been really friendly and great. Most of the female doctors I've seen make me feel like they're in a huge hurry to leave and get to the next patient. I think what I really don't like is when they ask if a male student can observe. That makes me feel more uncomfortable than having a male doctor.

    With all of the infertility tests and procedures I've done in the past few years, nothing fazes me as much anymore. I'm getting used to way too many people looking down there!
     
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    My uncle's a male OBGYN down in the Cherry Hill area. He seems to do well enough for himself.
     
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    When I was young, about a 100 years ago, I had no choice. All of the OBGYNs in our town were male. I guess I never thought about having a choice. The sound of a female OBGYN sounds pretty nice to me.
     
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    I've never had a female doctor. So my OB-GYN, my breast surgeon, my plastic surgeon, my oncologist, my radiation oncologist-- all are men.

    When I gave birth to my older daughter, there was a male army nurse doing his maternity rotation at the hospital. He was incredibly, amazingly shy. He needed to check my stitches, but warned me that if it made ME more comfortable, we could wait until his female supervisor was in the room.

    I told him that he and the UPS guy were pretty much the only people on Long Island who hadn't already seen my stitches, and it wasn't necessary to wait. But that, once he had seen my stitches, he was no longer allowed to refer to me as "Ma'am"... it had to be "Alice."

    I realize that we all have different comfort levels, but this isn't an issue for me at all.
     
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    Right now my OBGYN is a female. She's pretty good. I have a male GP. He's also an OBGYN. When/if I get pregnant, I'll use him.
     
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    I've never had a male OB/GYN, but I don't think you need to worry about them not understanding your issues. They've dedicated their lives to women's health! I understand being uncomfortable though. I've only been to female OB/GYNs because they're more common in my area. My mom went to a male doc for ages until he retired. She thought he was great!
     
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    This reminded me of a ?funny story ... When I was in grad school, I was scheduled for my yearly "lady" visit. I used our campus clinic. The nurse asked if I would mind having a student doctor in my room during the examination. I said jokingly, "as long as it isn't Dr. M___." Sure enough ... it was Dr. M___. My ex-boyfriend who I had dated for 6 years. Now, THAT might have been awkward! :)
     
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    I am not comfortable with another man looking at my private parts, but that's just me. My sisters and I were delivered by male OB doctors; my mom never saw anyone but male OBs.

    I think it's okay to have reservations over gender, but it is also important to consider how attentive they are to your needs.
     
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    Call me old-fashioned, call me crazy, call me un-PC, but I don't want a man down there. I drive 50 miles out of my way to see my female gyno. It's not a fun appointment anyway, and to have a male all up in my business would make it unbearable for me. When I was pregnant, my doc's office makes you see every doc before giving birth, so all are at least familiar with you in case you end up with someone other than your regular doc. When I had to see the males, I was incredibly uncomfortable. Nice, very professional, but I just hated it.

    On the other hand, when my husband had his vasectomy, he only wanted a female doc because he was uncomfortable with a male. Go figure. As it turns out, the only docs who do that in the area are male so he had to grin and bear it. Well, maybe not grin, but you get my drift.

    And he would kill me if he knew I just posted that! :)
     
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    I can understand your husband's POV...

    (Slightly unrelated): I've never had a professional massage, but I think I would prefer a woman to give it than a man.
     
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    I love my gyno, and he's a male. I've been seeing him off and on since I was 16. He has great bedside manor, and always has a female nurse in the room with him, although one time in an emergency he saw me without one present, and it didn't bother me. He;s delivered many of my friend's babies, and he was wonderful talking me through the process when I had some issues down there that required surgery. I saw a surgeon (also a male) and my doc made sure I got the best care possible. I guess during that process of at least monthly exams, I got really used to him being "down there" all the time. In fact, since my, um, activity was restricted, I often joked that he got to spend more intimate time with me than my husband did...

    My primary care doctor is a woman, and she is fantastic. When I had some questions about birth control, I got a second opinion from her, and my gyno actually encouraged that. I love that they see each other as a team, rather than competing specialists.
     
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    :lol:

    :lol: even though I know you aren't that old, this made me laugh!

    Ted~I've had one professional massage and swore that I wouldn't get one unless it was a female. Well, the only person available was a man. Having nothing to compare it to, it was a great massage anyway!
     
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    Thanks, STG... I guess I'd be afraid (male or female) that it would hurt too much! (Sorry to sidetrack the discussion). :)
     
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    I've never been to either yet, but I'd want a lady for sure.
     
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    You've never been to an OBGYN? At all?
     
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    I was wondering the same thing. I know I had to go when I was 16, because of having related medical issues, but someone from the health unit came to talk to us senior year to tell us about the importance of exams at least every two years starting at age 18 or when you become sexually active. My insurance covers annual exams, and I'm so glad I get them because they caught my cervical cancer incredibly early (literally only one cell was actually cancer) and I could just be treated with surgery. I can't imagine if I hadn't caught it then, because the kind I had grows super fast, apparently.

    Also, going more regularly means I have more data, and my doctor knows me better. We feel more comfortable discussing things.
     
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    Celia~the same thing happened to me when I went at 18, though not cervical cancer yet, if they had not freezed them off, they could have turned into cancer. And though I don't go yearly, I do make it at least every two year!
     
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    I have had many massages. I prefer a man, as they are much stronger and can give a better massage.

    For both massage and doctors, once you have had a baby and bared it all, it gets easier.
     
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    Personally, I feel more comfortable with a female doctor because I feel a little shy/awkward talking about my body with a man (ironic because my Dad is a doctor and I talk to him candidly about ailments all the time).

    To be fair, I feel self conscious for ANYONE to put me in stirups and get close and personal with my lady parts, but if it's another female, I feel more comfortable and like she isn't going to judge me if something looks, I dunno, weird.

    Some of my friends only go to male gynocologists though. When I asked why, I've heard everything from, "A doctor is a doctor" to "I feel weird having another woman look at my privates"
     
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    I prefer female gyns. I have had male gyns before, but I feel more comfortable talking about girl-parts issues with another woman. Especially when I thought I was going to have a hysterectomy before having children - I can't imagine having that kind of very deep, very personal, very emotional conversation with a male doctor.
     
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    What??!? Ms. I, you need to be having an annual exam. Pronto. Annual pap smears save lives. Not to mention the breast exam they do, and other tests they perform. I don't know how old you are, but please...get your exams. Save the tatas...and the under regions!
     
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    I've had male OBGYNs before. When I was young, it was uncomfortable for me. I've always had male urologists; that never bothers me even though they are looking in the same general area (weird, I know). As I've gotten older, I don't mind the male OBGYN. If you're uncomfortable, though, maybe just try him out once. If you can't even feel comfortable in the exam, you're not going to talk to him if you actually have issues!
     
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    My next door neighbor (when I lived in Dallas) and I attended all the Dallas Cowboy games...... He went crazy during some of the Dallas Cowboy cheerleader routines .......

    And oh yes, he was a gynecologist ......... Guess he enjoyed his job ........:p:p
     
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    :huh::wow:
    I'd like to think he could enjoy the opposite gender and still be professional as a doctor.
     
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    :yeahthat:
     
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    Ick... :unsure:
     
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    This. The original statement is not only ridiculous but frankly pretty disgusting. Doctors don't have to be celibate in order to be professional in their work. :dizzy:
     
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    My gyno is a male. I feel way more comfortable with a man down there (they normally know what they are doing).

    I have tried a female gyno twice- unfriendly, too rough, etc. I felt like I couldn't talk candidly.

    Now I have been with the same doctor for four years and I couldn't be happier :)
     

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