Lost my cat today

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  1. mrs. dub

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    This morning, my beloved cat Snoopy died in my arms....today has seriously been one of the worst days I've ever experienced. She was attacked by two dogs yesterday, but her injuries were just too extensive and her tiny mangled body gave out this morning. I honestly feel devastated.

    So here's two things I want to say. One--and I know this has been debated on her a lot already by us cat lovers--please always keep cats indoors. I would give anything on Earth to have just said no to her when she meowed to go outside yesterday. The grief I feel right now isn't worth it.

    And second--this is a question--when is it a good time to get a new cat? My husband and I have no kids, and Snoopy was our only child. We feel a gigantic void already. Is this week too soon?
     
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  3. luv2teach1

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    :sorry: Sorry to hear about your cat. If you both think you are ready for a new cat, then I don't think it's too soon! I think it's just different for everyone and there's no right or wrong time.:blush:
     
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    Oh, Mrs. Dub I'm so sorry. I lost a dog that was attacked by others. It's a hard thing to accept. I agree with luv2teach1, it's up to you when you are ready to get another cat. Your heart will tell you when you're ready. I've snuggled Lizzie a little closer after reading this.
     
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    Oh how sad, Mrs. Dub. It is truly devastating to see your pet die. They are so helpless. I don't ever want to see it again. You'll never forget Snoopy, but another pet will help you to heal.
     
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    I am so :sorry: to hear about Snoopy. We have a child of our own, but our cat was our first baby so I know that when I lose him, its going to be a very veryverybad day. My cat does not go outside! He has been out a few times, but he has been on a leash(yes, a leash) and I have been with him the whole time. I think that the time is right when both you and the hubby have had the time to grieve. Only you two know when the time will be right for you. Whether or not it's this week or two weeks from now, it has to be right for both of you.
     
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    Mrs. Dub I am so sorry about your loss. I do understand how difficult this is for you.
     
  8. 1stesl

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    Mrs. Dub, I'm sorry for your loss. Last Friday, dogs carried off two kittens outside my parent's house. Now the other two kittens and the mama cat have become inside cats. I have two cats that have always been inside cats, and can't image not having them.
     
  9. corps2005

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    A letter and a website

    I am very sorry about your kitty, Snoopy. :( I know very much the grief you are feeling right now. My own little kitty, Batty, passed away earlier this year. I kept replaying events inside my mind and asked myself "what if's." To be honest, it hurts just as much today as it did back in April. The guilt is still just as strong. Every day I want to ask for a sign from her, but dwelling on her memory brings floods of tears every time. Just writing this and thinking of your kitty and my kitty is difficult.

    No one can tell you if it is too soon to get another kitty. Just ask yourself what you feel inside your heart. My Dad passed away not even a month after September 11th. Within two weeks of his death, his buddy, Poncho (our family dog), also passed away. My Mom was naturally devastated after my Dad's death, but even more so after she lost his buddy. That say day she wanted to go find a new puppy. I tried to convince her to wait, but she insisted, so I drove her to the flea market because that's where she wanted to go. She said she had to go there.

    At the flea market, she walked straight past rows of animals to the very end and then stopped at the whining of the tiniest little replica of a dog I had ever seen, a baby Tea Cup Chihuahua inside a child's play pen. Her owner was a hunched, shabbily-dressed old man with several day's worth of whiskers on his cheeks. Mom knew right away this puppy was put here for her. The old man said he had been evicted from his apartment and was now staying at a local mission. The baby's mother died shortly after his belongings had been placed outside. They just placed the poor dogs outside along with all his things. Some neighborhood boys were being cruel and ended up killing the mother dog. The puppy ran and hid. He had to search for it when he came home.

    I agree with my Mom that the little runt was brought there specifically for her. Long story short, only your husband and you know the best time to find another family member, but my heart goes with you.

    Also, here is a little poem that a poster on this board sent me shortly afte the death of my little kitty, Batty. It brings tears to my eyes everytime, and I certainly hope it comes true.

    http://www.catcraze.com/rainbow.htm
     
  10. Grammy Teacher

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    I'm so sorry about what happened, but don't blame yourself. Cats love to go outside. It's only natural and sometimes things happen to them. I know your pain. I have loved every cat we have ever had and have lost a few on the road.I won't go into the heartache. At present, we have two cats. One we have had for 14 years and he would literally tear the shades off the windows if we didn't let him out once in a while. The other one is 6 and he likes to go out, too. So, it is a gamble when you let your cats out to play, but it is what they like to do. However, I think I will someday have an inside cat as it seems so much safer that way.
     
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    I am very, very sorry. :hugs:
     
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    I'm so sorry for your loss. Cats are amazing companions. If you feel ready to get another cat then go for it. Sometimes it makes it a lot easier to heal. Don't blame yourself for what happened. It's not your fault. I can never say no to mine when she whines at the door too. Take care. :hugs:
     
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    Thank you so much everyone for your condolences and for sharing your stories. All day I've felt alone even though we've had plenty of visitors, but here on this forum I know so many of you are cat lovers and have had the same experiences. I honestly feel a bit better knowing that I'm not the only one who's devastated by the death of a cat--I kept thinking I was overreacting with my crying all day!

    My hubby and I had a serious heart to heart tonight and we just can't imagine our big empty house without a kitty. We weren't ready to stop loving Snoopy, and we love cats in general so we want to continue giving that affection to the next one. We both loved having a constant companion around the house, so we'll probably go to the Humane Society and see if one jumps out at us like Snoopy did 3 years ago.

    ...I hope she's purring on God's lap right now.....

    Thanks again everyone.
     
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    Corps2005--I am sorry for your loss as well. I feel exactly what you wrote in the paragraph above. I hope we find another one, just like your mom did. Someone told me today that when God closes one door, he opens another. Also, thank you for the poem, even though it brought more tears!
     
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    Thanks, grammy. And it's certainly true that it's a gamble when you let your cats outside--and we lost that one today unfortunately. I do feel guilt and remorse about it, but my husband and I do know it was the best part of Snoopy's day; she absolutely loved chasing lizards and birds outside! I guess it's all up to fate.
     
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    I am so sorry for the loss of Snoopy. I don't think you were overreacting by crying all day. Our pets become part of our families and it is devastating to lose them. I hope that when you decide the time is right to get another baby, you find a kitty that is as special as Snoopy:hugs:.

    I have a 13 year old cat Holly and I am so glad for each and every day I have with her. Her mother passed at the age of 3 years from kidney failure and her grandmother died at 5 of lukemia. And I have recently found lumps on Holly's belly on one of her nipples. I am dreading taking her to the vet because of what they may tell me.
     
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    [I am soooooooo sorry you are very right. I lost my beloved cat last year in august, we let her out, and she ate a poisioned mole. She lasted a week before she died in pain. The vet had her for three days doing all he could to save her......

    I wish you were closer, my new cat had babies, she snuck out a broken screen. They are all calicos.......

    When my cat died we got the new ones a week later, I still miss my cat Buttons, always will......but I found room in my heart for the new ones (well not so much the mama cat, she is a bit of a ....ummm...... ho......... to put is midly lol) I am happy I got them.....I missed my cat, but they helped me get over the loss of her. And no, I do not intentially let them out, and the screen has been fixed.

    I hope you feel better soon.
     
  18. czacza

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    Get a new kitty - it will help fill that void. I have 2 indoor kitties- they really do stay healthier inside.

    Do you know the owners of the attack dogs? It seems to me that they should 'feel some responsibility' for this. :mad:
     
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    I'm sorry.:hugs:

    Everyone is different. I lost my beloved Bernese Mountain dog last year, and I am not ready for a new dog yet.
     
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    I'm so sorry for the loss of Snoopy. I hope you don't blame yourself for the loss! There's no way you could have known that would happen. If getting a new kitty would help you feel better then I say go for it!
     
  21. Grammy Teacher

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    We had that experience with our dog many years ago. She was perfect in every way. I made one mistake. I was outside with her and stepped in to check supper. That's when she ran to chase two stray dogs out of our yard.She was hit by a car. The stray dogs were not and went on their merry way. She was our protector and she felt she was doing her job as always. I could not get another dog for a long, long time because I was afraid it would never measure up to her. We did eventually get a puppy , practically forced on us from someone. No, she did not measure up and I almost gave her away more than once, but deep inside I knew I loved the dumb mutt. We had her entire life of 13 years and I cried and cried when she was gone. Now we stick to cats. They are easier to take care of!
     
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    To the OP,

    Do what you need to do to heal. Pets are family:love: One we lose will never be replaced, but a new pet will continue to provide you with more unconditional love.
     
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    I am so very sorry for your loss. My children are our 3 cats. I truly sympathize.
     
  24. Sep 30, 2007

    Just over a year ago I lost my cat to a dog too

    I am so so sorry to hear about Snoopy. I know exactly how you feel and it's been over a year now...the feelings are still as raw as ever. I'd like to tell you about my Cat Max and hopefully provide some comfort..and seriously any time you want to chat to me about it you let me know.

    I rescued my boy Max from a shelter...a big strapping tabby he was and incredibly handsome. We lived in a lovely estate and he was an outdoor cat...I thought that was the kindest...and he was perfectly looked after. After a year we had to move due to my partners work.

    He was so annoyed at having to be locked in until he had lived there a while that it wa snice to be able to let him out. He loved the new house and garden. We had always wanted a companion for Max so got a rescue kitty with issues...Pepsi. They didn't hit it off but it was fine as Max went out the flap and Pepsi didn't so they stayed apart. Only 2 weeks passed to that fateful day.........

    .....I was having dinner with my partner after a busy day at work and could hear a dog snarling and growling and loads of shouting. I just felt sick to my stomach because I knew it was to do with Max. Anyway he had fought severely with the dog sending it and him into severe shock. I was completely distraught and rushed him to the vets only 10 minutes away but he passed away in the car. It was too much for him. (even now it's tough writing this as I stil lfeel the same guilt as I did that day).

    I spent months of looking after Pepsi, smothering her, needing something to take my mind off the guilt...the what if's...none of it does any good. I knew my cat and I knew he would never have been happy as an indoor. The cat flap was sealed and I swore I'd never get another cat to 'replace' my Max. That was in April last year and in the December I had a call from a family friend saying that 3 kittens had been dumped outside and they had one left needing a home...I felt guilty at considering it but I knew nothing would replace Max but there were still so many kitties which needed a new home so I went to see. I came home with a perfect (although flea infested) baby male kit (a gorgeous medium hair tuxie). He has so many characteristics of Max since he's very confident and loving and very handsome.

    I swore this baby was never gonna go outdoors..I could not face the pain of that day with Max again. Over the months I felt incredible guilt as he would sit on the window sill and look out so we found the perfect solution.

    We now have a small cat run attached to the house totally enclosed with plenty of entertainment and they both go out at will.

    As with your situation....I don't think it's too soon to get another cat....it's the best thing you can do. And about your loss...it really does help to put your feelings out there...I got through it with the cathobbyist forums. Please don't beat yourself up for too long about the what ifs and if only's.......they fade over time I promise you and you soon begin to remember only the good times with your kitty...things that make you smile. But yes I have learned from that and will never have another outdoor kitty....Please feel free to email me any time..Jaime Breton has my email address and I will reply to anything on this post. Thank you for giving your heart and soul to your kitty....she will always remember you...and the best thing you can do for her now at this time is to continue to share your love with another kitty...never a replacement...but just another kitty.

    My heart goes out to you at this very difficult time.

    Janis (owned by Pepsi and Cola (Baby cat)....and still Mommy to Max - Sleep tight poosy cat
     
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    Janis--thanks so much for sharing that with me and all of us. You seem to have a great perspective from losing Max and having to move on. I'm glad you have Pepsi and Cola (cute names!) to care for!
     
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    Our neighbor owns the two dogs, and they were on their side of the fence when it happened (we think Snoopy chased something and got under the fence through a drainage hole). It really wasn't the dogs' fault; I think they did what any territorial dogs would do when a cat invades their space. Our neighbor knows the situation and is very apologetic--he's even offered to buy us a new cat. Deep down, we all know it was a tragic accident, and as much as I'd like to hate those dogs, I can't. (But I don't think I'll pet them anytime soon like I used to!)
     
  27. Oct 1, 2007

    The dog that did it to Max lives still about 5 doors along the street. After we came from the vets empty handed they came straight round and apologised which did help a lot. I was concerned for their dog too as it suffered massive shock. It still hurts to see them out walking the dog, but you're right, it is too hard to hate the dog....it's only natural instincts.

    Janis
     

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