I am an elementary teacher, but I also coach a club sport outside of school and primarily coach boys. Most years my teams are elementary/middle school aged. Last season they were upper middle school/freshmen. I need some guidance here because social issues in middle and high school are not the same in elementary so this was all new territory for me. I have always been a relationship builder. I made a connection with one of my athletes before I knew about some interpersonal issues as was struggling with. He eventually confided in me what they were. I essentially intervened on him to compel him to tell a parent because he couldn't get help like seeing a counselor or a therapist if his parents didn't know. I got him hooked up with my friend who is a therapist and she started to see him for free. On top of all of this, he began a relationship with another boy who sometimes played with my team and mainly with another. I tried my best to be "Switzerland" because neither boy was out to their families but I also told my athlete that I didn't think it was a good idea. Shortly after I intervened, the other boy ended the relationship. They needed to because they were both 14 years old and not ready and they both learned life lessons. My kiddo DID NOT take it well. Other things happened. The ex is going to continue to play and will again be on a different team. I know the ex has moved on and my kiddo said he has moved on. Selfishly, I want my athlete to play because I love and care about him and he's a great player with a magnetic energy. I also think that he shouldn't walk away from something he loves because he hit a couple of bumps in the road. Bumps that he was a willing participant in. He also plays a school sport and I am thinking he wants to "focus" on that sport. I think it's dumb because he's great at both sports and only a freshman. But, I'm being super biased. I didn't date in high school 20+ years ago. I don't know what it is like to be gay and/or bisexual. I don't know what it's like to be a teenager in today's day and age. And I mostly deal with elementary school problems. Am I completely off base for thinking that they could move forward and play? I am guessing it's going to be a no and I am going to have to let him go. The drama of high school is totally real.... I haven't contacted his dad yet. His family upsets me a little bit because they don't communicate well. I'm nervous about it, but I need to just suck it up and do it and get my answer.