Left Out.... Again.

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  1. Crzy_ArtTeacher

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    Sometimes I really get aggravated as a 'specialist', especially with the social aspects in the school.

    Once again I got completely overlooked and wasn't talked to or invited to a school wide baby shower. No one asked me to contribute to a group gift and I'm just totally left out.

    I feel like one of the lonely kids on the playground. :unsure:
     
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    Aw, I'm sorry Crazy. I'm not a specials teacher, but I'm sure it's hard to be one. Were you the only specials teacher, or did they forget P.E. and Music also?
     
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    :hugs: Crazy. I'm sorry. I know at the school I used to work at, our specials teachers were in charge of decorating for things like that. I know it has to be hard.
     
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    Speak up and say something.. nicely. I was once left out of a goodbye gift collection, wasn't allowed to sign the card, and the girl who headed it up did this on purpose. No one knew, until I asked another co-worker when the collection would be. They couldn't believe I was left out. Ask around, and next time you might not get left out.
     
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    oh! That stinks! I am sorry that happened to you. You should speak up- let someone know! Best wishes! Hugs!
     
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    I totally empathize and hope you feel better. Treat yourself if its within your budget. That's what I do when I get dumped on.

    It's all those circles. It's enough to drive you crazy. It's not easy breaking in to a close knit group, even if it is only a professional grouping in a single school. I'm one of four male teachers in our school. We get left out on a regular basis. And if we're included, it's always an afterthought.
     
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    I know exactly how you feel!

    A few years ago, I worked at a school that had a toddler class, two preschool classes, and a kindergarten class. I worked in the extended day care - working from 10:00 am until closing at 6:00 pm.

    In September, the kindergarten teacher stopped me out on the playground. She said that there was going to be a baby shower for the teacher who taught nature classes. I asked when it would be. She gave me the date and the time. The shower was scheduled for 4:00 pm, right after the regular classes ended. So, I told her, "Well, I'll still be working here at the extended day car." Her response was, "Oh! Well....I just wanted you to know."

    Gee, thanks! Yeah, thanks for nothing. Thanks for your rudeness.

    This kind of thing happened all year long. I would see signs up in the teachers' work room that there would be an "all-staff" party at differenent restaurants. Of course, they were timed while I was still working. Staff meetings were held during the lunch break, while extended day care served lunch to the kids.

    I quit at the end of the year.
     
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    We have a sunshine committee at my school. Everyone pitches in $40 at the beginning of the year. It covers cards for sick staff members, secretaries' and bosses' days, flowers if a family member dies, baby and engagement showers (in school) and other events. Maybe you could suggest such an arrangement in your school. It's nice because that way there is no collections, chasing people for money all year long and everyone feels included.
     
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    The school that I talked about (above) did have a Sunshine Committee. They expected me to contribute to the fund. :rolleyes: However, the parties or gatherings were scheduled when I was working at the school.

    But, that's a good idea for Crzy ArtTeacher.
     
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    I don't ever get to consider myself part of a staff. I never get my photo taken for the kids yearbook, I'm not in the staff photos, nothing. That is SO demoralizing. Last year I had some of my 6th graders that really liked my class ask me why I wasn't in the yearbook, I didn't lie..I said it's b/c they don't think I'm part of the staff at the building b/c I'm not here everyday.

    We have a social committee...and I only have to pay part of it instead of the full dues since I'm not there (that would double up with my 2 buildings)

    I always go out of my way to include someone or help them out, subs or whatever. I was always that left out kind of kid at times. I think I really opened up the eyes to one of the teachers that I'm good friends with now when I told her last year that I don't eat in the lounge (I ate lunch in my room when I had a room) b/c we aren't accepted as staff members..just a passer by in the school building.
     
  12. Crzy_ArtTeacher

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    We do have a sunshine committee but if you're not in the loop you don't really know when the parties are being held, you just know that your money went to something. I guess I just get aggravated because I feel like my school that I teach at has the social issues I dealt with in high school.

    Grrr,, thanks for letting me vent, it makes me feel much better.
     
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    I find, a nice bouquet of flowers often does wonders.​
     

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