I've been really struggling with carrying over worries and concerns from school into the rest of my life. I worry that the test I gave today was too hard. I worry that I was too harsh in correcting a student behavior. I worry that I didn't explain something well enough or that a certain lesson was painfully boring. Sometimes they are things I can fix the next day, and sometimes they aren't, but I have been leaving school almost every day with one thing or another weighing heavily on my mind. Sometimes it's so bad that I can't fully enjoy time with my fiance or friends-- I feel like I don't deserve to enjoy other things because I'm not doing my job well enough (I know it's irrational, but I get a strong feeling of guilt that I can't shake off whenever I feel that I've made a mistake). I even have dreams about the things I'm worried about-- I dream that my kids walk out while I'm teaching, that I lose it and yell at my classes, etc. It seems like teaching puts me on a roller coaster-- when I feel like I'm on top of my school work and that I was patient, helpful, and effective as a teacher that day, I'm generally happy, but a bad class period, a student or parent complaint, or some other percieved failure can cast a shadow over my whole day or week. It's been like this for most of my five years of teaching, but I'm especially noticing it now becuase I'm enjoying being engaged, planning a wedding, and all that comes with it, but the happier my personal life gets, the more noticable it is when school guilt and worry follow me home. Oh dear, this got long. Thanks to anyone who finished it. I guess my questions are, is this common? Is it preventable? Thanks for any thoughts you have to offer.