Just a little vent.

Discussion in 'Preschool' started by amochoa, Jan 7, 2010.

  1. amochoa

    amochoa Rookie

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    I teach a morning preschool class on Thursday & Friday. The other teacher I work with has a morning and afternoon class on Monday, Tuesday, & Wednesday.

    For Christmas, I got my boyfriend tickets to his favorite band. The concert is next week on Thursday. However, when I bought the tickets I thought it was a Friday. I would have no problem working on Friday except that the concert is 3 and 1/2 hours away. I asked the other teacher if she would sub for me. But of course, she said no.

    Now, normally this wouldn't upset me, it was my fault in the first place, but I've subbed for her about seven times. Most of it, I had subbed for her five days in a row. Since she only works Monday, Tuesday, & Wednesday, she hadn't been there for TWO weeks.

    I told my principal the situation and asked if there was anyway someone else could come and sub. She called and called but no one would accept. Finally, when I got home she called me back and said she found someone.

    It just makes me wonder about some people. I don't want to do her favors now because of this. I probably will though because I'm the type of person that can't say no.

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  3. teacherR

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    amochoa, when I read your post I totaly felt it. I am the same way. I say yes when I want to say no because I want to help other people out of a jam. I have learned only to say yes because I want to and not to expect people to reciprocate kindness later on because some people will not. Her loss. Now when she ask you to sub you should not feel pressured to say "yes".

    Kill em' with kindness and thank the person who did sub for you so that they know they are appreciated. Hopefully if you build equity with them you will not have to ask her ever again.
     
  4. vbubbles1874

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    And that is exactly why I don't do favors!!!
     
  5. Aliceacc

    Aliceacc Multitudinous

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    Wow, she doesn't play nicely with others and she's allowed to teach preschool???


    I sense she'll have some regrets the next time you're too busy to sub for her.
     
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    I'm sorry you have to work with somebody so selfish. I'm glad though, that your director finally found somebody so you can enjoy the concert.
     
  7. Maxadoodle

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    What happens when you are sick? Does the director have to call around all morning trying to find someone?

    When I was young I also had a problem saying no. However, once I became a Mom I learned how to say "No" with no explanations.

    No. End of conversation.
     
  8. amochoa

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    Luckily, I haven't had to call in sick yet. I'm sure she would say no and my principal would have to do this.
     
  9. sarzacsmom

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    so the next couple of times she wnats youto sub say sorry, but you can't. Maybe next time. Should get the messege across
     
  10. casey

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    I'm wondering if anyone gave a reason they couldn't cover for you? I work in a preschool where the teacher have a schedule similar to what you describe. However, most of them have other jobs when they are not at our site. Maybe she really could not sub for you.
    Just wondering.
     
  11. amochoa

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    She said she couldn't sub because her family was going shopping an hour away for the weekend and they were leaving early. Even though her kids had school. She doesn't have another job or anything. Her husband supports her completely and her school salary is just spending cash. The day before I left she said she could all of a sudden sub. Our principal wouldn't give her an advance of her check to go shopping with so she wanted the sub pay. However, I had already found another sub and told her sorry.
     
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    Oh, well I can see why you'd be upset at that.
     
  13. newbie87

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    I had a situation like this when I worked in a daycare. One worker was always coming in late and trying to leave early. We had extremely bad management and she got away with it and I was always taking on her responsibilities. From my experiences, I can say people like that are selfish and spiteful. If she asks you to sub for her again, do it. Simply because you don't want her to throw to your face "Oh, I couldn't sub for you and now you won't sub for me". (Because I'm sure someone like her will forget all the times you did). Then, if she askes you after that time just say, "I would love to, but I already have a doctor's appointment,ect (whatever excuse). Maybe next time," and walk away.
     

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