Has anyone ever lost a friendship due to jealousy? I recently did and it was jarring and really took me off guard. I think it's human nature and okay to envy something about someone else occasionally (ie: i envy that Betty just had a baby and is back down to a size 2 without exercise or diet whereas I am 60lbs over my ideal weight and haven't had a kid yet, BUT i am happy for Betty and hopeful i will achieve both goals). But when you start to feel malicious and resentful, that's jealousy and extremely toxic. I have another friend, Veronica, who loved being around me when I was depressed and miserable from a dead end relationship. Then i met my husband and she started pulling away though i kept calling and texting her and encouraging the positive aspects of her life. After my wedding i asked her if she was okay because she had stopped responding to my calls and texts. She said she was having a hard time and feeling depressed and jealous because all her friends were getting married and she isn't. She said she feels like she'll be alone forever. Then she starts on this contradictory tirade that she's been pulling away because i am a bad friend to her. Funny thing is she couldn't give a specific example because there were none. I told her i was sorry if she had been feeling ignored or not seeing me as much but to remember i WAS planning a wedding, plus there were two deaths in my immediate family, i just started grad school and have been dealing with an on going personal illness. Plus getting used to my new in-laws and living with my then fiancé. I also reminded her that we talked at least 3 or 4 times a week all school year (our lunch breaks were at the same time so we used to instant message or text about the kids, celebrity gossip, religion, the struggle to lose weight, etc) When she said she didn't care, said she was tired of putting all the effort into our friendship and that it was over and to have a nice life with my wonderful, new husband, i felt more sorry for her unhappiness than angry at her. I suspect she was attempting an energy transfer (basically she is angry and unhappy so she wanted to try and make me feel angry and unhappy so it would lessen her own bad feelings) At this point i feel like it stinks to lose someone i considered a friend, but then if to be my friend you can only be there for the bad and not the good, then it's better you reveal yourself now and not harbor hate and resentment for years until it bubbles up to the point where you cause some true damage in my life.