Is it difficult to teach elementary school AND have kids and a husband (or wife)

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  1. Teacher_Lyn

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    Right now I'm almost 25 years old, have no children, no husband (or boyfriend), no pets and the only bills I pay are rent to parents and cell phone. For the most part I am only responsible for myself.

    Yet I find being a teacher challenging and it seems like by the time I get home from work, I am EXHUSTED. Also, after being around 24 children for six hours, I don't even want to SEE, HEAR or even be around kids when I get home.

    Like when I go to Target and I see a child dressed in our school's uniform, I try and go the other way without being seen because I don't feel like smiling and being "Teacher Lynn".

    I can't imagine what I'd do if I had to pick up my kids from daycare, help them with homework, make dinner, spend time with husband, go to PTA meetings, walk the dog, pay the mortgage, grocery shop, buy school uniforms, etc. :mellow:
     
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    I couldn't either when I first started teaching, but now I am getting to see that I could do all that. It took a few years of getting into the routine of teaching and knowing how to manage having a life and a job. For a number of years I was work, work, work. Now I can do a bit of both!
     
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    I understand :) I'm also 25. I'm in th 4th year of teaching and many days I still feel that way! I have 5 pets at home though, so I guess it's kind of like a child (especially since the cats are at my feet for attention as soon as I walk in the door!). Last night my boyfriend took me to one of our favorite chinese buffets for dinner.....two kids (owners kids) were yelling and running around the whole time. I just had to look at my boyfriend and he knew what was coming next...."I'm with a total of about 90 11 year olds a day....I do NOT want to hear the same stuff when I go to eat!!!"
     
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    I'm 25 as well and pretty much have dealt with everything except my own kids right now. I actually couldn't imagine my life any other way. I love my husband... we are each other's support. We had our own house for 2 years and it was such a good feeling (no matter how worn out we were) to come home at the end of the day to YOUR home. Even if it's messy. We are temporarily living with our in-laws (long story) so I'm REALLY wanting my own house/home again so maybe I'm biased about this...

    I think as new things come into your life, you learn to make room for them. The thought of going from your situation automatically to husband, house and kids is very overwhelming for anybody. Luckily you get to choose for the most part when all those things happen!
     
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    It can be done. My daughter was 6 months old when I took my first teaching job. It was difficult because my school was 45 minutes away from where I lived. Many times I dropped her off b/f 7 and DH had to pick her up when he got off work b/c I didn't make it home until after 6. It was hard, but we worked through it. She'll be starting kindergarten next year so I can only imagine how things will be when she has homework, but I know that DH will be a big help.
     
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    Right now at 23 I'm a homeowner, a significant other, and a mommy to a dog and cat. I feel like having my SO really helps with the load and it's a relaxing time when I get home.

    I work with over 400 children and I still am looking forward to the day when I will be a mommy (to a human :) ) no matter how exhausted I am when I get home from my school kids.
     
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    I'm 25 as well and will begin my first year teaching next year when I am almost 26. I ALWAYS ask the same thing. How will I ever be a mom and juggle life and all that. It's a scary thought. I am tired when I come home from school sometimes.
     
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    Almost 40, no kids, been teaching forever, have a cat, and decided a couple of years ago to go back to school for my Specialist, which I have gotten and now my Ph.D. I don't see how someone does it all with a hubby and/or kids. I admire you folks who can!
     
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    It's totally different when you LOVE the kids you come home to. At least most of the time.
     
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    I know this does not answer your question. I am 22 yrs old as of yesturday and in college, but not far into it. I still live @ home with my parents. I feel like I will never graduate school or move out and be on my own. I have no kids, no husband/bf, and no plans to have then anytime soon well maybe the bf part. I do not know how people go to college and have kids/husband. They rock in my book for doing it.
     
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    I am 25 and am married. We don't have kids, but we own a house and sometimes it is overwhelming, but it's worth it. I want kids sometime soon, but at the moment it sounds overwhelming. I know that it will be different when they are my own kids and my husband and I have talked about he will need to take over the kids after work for a while each night so that I can regroup. I am looking forward to seeing that happening because he seems to think the computer needs his undivided attention each evening....lol.
     
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    I'm 41, I have two kids, a husband and it's my first year teaching... Yes, It's tough, but I'm getting through. I'm hoping things get easier after every year because I can't see myself doing this year after year. It would have been much easier to start teaching when I was younger and didn't have kids.
     
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    I'm 22 and working FT on my degree (took 24 credits last fall), married with 3 kids (1 my own and 2 stepkids {who have a *crazy* mother and mild special needs}), have a cat, and GOING CRAZY!!!!!!!!! :-D

    But I wouldn't have it any other way. :wub:
     
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    I'm 38, have a husband and two kids in elementary school. I won't lie, it's hard. It is only my 2nd year back to teaching after staying home for 7 years so I'm hoping it gets easier... This year has been better than last. The biggest challenge is not being able to spend as much time on school stuff as I'd like. I constantly feel behind. However, I work at my kids school so I am totally in the loop, get a say in their teachers, can help them with their hw easier since I know the programs, get to see them during the day and hear cute stories... I do have to be careful not to let my exhaustion or annoyance at my class creep in to our hw time if my kids are whining or off-task but I guess that could happen with any working parent... If anything it helps me reinforce good habits with my kids because I don't want them to turn out like Johnny in my class...It can be done but I'm no Martha Stewert.:)
     
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    This is exactly me except one of my children no longer goes to the school where I teach. Even though I can't spend as much time on school things as I'd like in the evenings, it's okay because my family helps to keep me balanced. I've been in the corporate world for years and the family effect was the same. It can be said for any job. Yes you come home to more kids, but you really love them.
     
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    I'm turning 40 in 16 days; I've been married for 11 and been teaching for 15. My kids are 4 and 7.
    Let me tell you... balancing family and work is not easy, but having kids kind of forces you to do it. When it was just my husband and me it was easy to bring lots of work home and grade all evening. One night he asked me who I was married to - him or the kids. That was a wake up call for me. Now I go in to school about 7:00, get lots done before school starts; I use my planning time as efficiently as I can, and I leave school at 3:45 to go pick my youngest up from daycare. They help me make dinner, we play, we read, we work on projects for school.
    It took me a few years to get it all figured out, but now that I have (most of the time), we are all much happier.
     
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    I'm 54. I went back to teaching when my DD started Kindergarten, son was in the 5th grade.

    Had DD in dance, gymnastics, AWANA's at church, son played Little League Baseball and football. Later DS played on the varsity jr./sr. football team and baseball team, daughter cheered from 8th grade - 12th, football and all the basketball games, did gymnastics and everything else. In the meantime, my house was the place where all the kids came to eat. DH and I cooked and we fed those hungry kids, not just food but lots of love too. On Friday nights before games we fed most of the cheerleading squad. I volunteered for the Booster Club 4 years serving as everything from VP to Secretary (huge job) and taught school. Sang in the church choir, taught Sunday School.

    Was it hard? You bet, but as I look back on my life now I'd do it all over again. Those were some of the very best days of my life; they were filled with love and laughter. We have an extra set of kids who will always love us like parents.

    After the kids left it was like a tomb around here. It's been 5 years ago DD married and left home and I'm still adjusting. I'm still very close to both of them, they're great individuals.

    It's been great, I'd recommend it for anyone. Teaching complimented everything in our lives. It provided supplemental income, my hours were always the same as my kids, and I thoroughly loved spending time with my kids all summer.

    I have a dynamic DH who helped tremendously. He loved it too, we were in our element. It's not been perfect and I've had plenty of problems but overall it's been an awesome life.

    I was 23 & 30 when I had my children. Now that they're gone we're still young enough to enjoy traveling and whatever.
     
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    I am 26 and married for almost 4 years and I am 1/2 way through my 4th year of teaching. We have no children and I don't plan to have any. My husband is a police officer who works crazy shifts.

    I like knowing that I can be around my 500 kiddos every day and then come home and relax with my husband and my dogs. I can also be more dedicated to my students and do more things b/c I have no children to worry about at home.
     
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    I'm with you. I want kids someday (I'm almost 27), but if I had to go home to them now I think I would go insane. I just can't imagine!
     
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    I teach first grade. This is my 8th year of teaching.
    I have two children 5 and almost 3. My husband is a state trooper and works long hours. We both know this is the hardest times of our lives and that helps us appreciate what we have. I love my children and was lucky enough to see my son get a fairness award at our character ed program yesterday! I am EXHAUSTED everyday esp. teaching children the same age as my one child. If I didn't love 1st grade so much I would change until my own children were older. I have a WONDERFUL husband who cleans the house, does dishes, makes dinner, and does laundry. We also met when I was first teaching and understands how important my job is to me. Be sure you have a strong relationship that can withhold the "tough" times and you will be able to handle anything! Nothing can take the place of your own children!
     
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    it is a balancing act for sure, I have a house, a hubby and three kids!! time management, and reliable help are my lifesavers
     
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    I'll be honest--it is hard! Teaching is a job that really drains you emotionally, physically, and mentally. Many days I would love to come home and just lay on the couch, but I have two girls--2nd grade and kinder--so that's not an option. Luckily I have a great husband who helps out a lot. And I do love my kids which is a plus also! lol Your class makes a difference too. Last year I had one of those great classes. This year is full of "difficult" students. I find myself a lot more stressed and impatient when I get home which is unfair to my own kids. :(
     

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