my ex-fiance didn't call me before he left to go to Iraq (which hurt my feelings because he came to visit me in April and we had a nice time. then he leaves for Iraq two weeks later and doesn't even tell me) anyway, i sent him an email saying to be safe and how were things in Iraq, etc etc. It was maybe 5 paragraphs long. He sent me back a two sentence response. So I left him alone. Didn't hear anything from him for a couple months. Then, on a whim, I sent him an email at the beginning of July to tell him Michael Jackson had passed. I told him I was in grad school, apologized for a mean text message I had sent him and told him to stay safe. Two weeks go by. I heard nothing. Therapist told me that he wasn't in love with me, to leave him alone. That he had moved on. That was July 13. On July 18, he emailed me back, apologized for responding so late. Said it was hard to get to a computer and he had limited time. He said he couldn't find my profile on facebook and what was up with that. (i had blocked him, but he didn't know) I lied and said it must have been a glitch and to send me a friend request and I'd put him back on. He did. Then he instant messaged me the next morning. I was away from my keyboard, so I didn't respond. I sent him an email saying, "My bad. sorry i missed your im. what's the time difference in iraq?" He messaged me back and said 7 hours then told me he's coming to visit my state next month. He wasn't sure what days yet, but he'd be in touch to let me know. What the H-ll? I still have feelings for him and it's getting me all nervous and I feel kinda icky inside knowing he's coming here. Mom tells me not to wear my heart on my sleeve. I don't feel like I should take him seriously because, I mean, he was in Iraq. He's probably just lonely right? I can't assume that he still is in love with me. I am thinking about not seeing him or being "busy" (ie: not answering my phone or just pretending that i have classes and can't find time to be with him) but my friend said that's mean because he's been in Iraq and through a lot. If he wants to see me, she said I should see him because he could die anyday out there in the fields.