Okay, wise married teachers, I need some advice. How do I navigate the rocky road of spending time with my family, that is local, and my boyfriend's family, that is far out of state? We have been trying, but it's straining our relationship. I am coming to terms with all my vacations being to the same place and he is coming to terms with getting a call on Tuesday and making plans for an unexpected Saturday afternoon with my family. I'm not used to dealing with out of state people in my own family, and he's not used to having any family local enough to visit often. How do we make this work?