I've been trying to figure this out since I got engaged. My kids last year figured it out when the girls saw the ring that all the sudden appeared on my finger. But what about the new kids I'll get getting this year? I figure I have to tell them because the wedding is during the school year and I'll be taking 5 days for the honeymoon. How do I tell them? Or should I just keep them in the dark? I KNOW they'll ask where I was for that week and I don't want them to be upset that I didn't tell them I was getting married (my girls last year couldn't believe I wouldn't tell them I got engaged and that they had to figure it out on their own lol) And what about the name change? I figure for this year I'll let them call me either name...usually I'm just "ms" anyway. I'm sure other people have had this happen, how did you handle it?