I'm dreading going in

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  1. Charlie Trahan

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    So it's Sunday night and tomorrow will mark two weeks until Thanksgiving break. Im exhausted planning for 4 grades. My school is an alternative behavioural school and we even take kids other alternative schools suspend permanently. But even given some of the horrible behaviours I deal with some kids truly make it worth coming in. However, my principal really makes me hate my job. She has told me, "because of your name i thought you were a man before the interview...i was disappointed when you showed up", "yoyr coming here as this pretty girl..." and she has said some really supportive things but last week she really rubbed me the wrong way...we have surveys asking how our week went 1-5 and I put a 2 cause I sent a kid to the principal almost every day, kids leaving my class (cause they are allowed to) and had 4 people through my room in one day and observations almost daily. I was tired and just done with behaviours. On my outlook next week i put a 3 cause at the moment thats how i felt since that week was going terrible. Well after an assembly on Friday I was working pick up duty and feeling way more optimistic since the weekend was here and that meant I got to recharge. Well my principal walks up and one teacher mentioned she had an issue with the principal calling teachers out in front of parents and students, the principal looked at me and said, "well ms.trahan is lucky I didn't ask if she was okay in front of the whole assembly." To say i was embarrassed is an understatement. I thought those surveys were between teachers and the principal and confidential. Had I known Id be called out for telling how that week went for me I would not had turned it in at all. So here's to dreading tomorrow.
     
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  3. Tired Teacher

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    Oh, so sorry your P did not turn out to be as nice as you 1st thought. That happens at times. The P has some nerve saying she was disappointed you were not a man.
    I observed a lot before I spoke as a younger person. I noticed new teachers who told admin that they had problems or had a hard week, or wanted to improve in some area, were often eaten alive. I just smiled a lot and pretended I was fine a lot.
    After yr 1, I met a teacher I trusted a lot. We were bf's for many years. She told me how to solve certain problems and helped me a lot. The more seasoned teachers you can befriend can help you. You have to be careful though who you trust in schools.
    As time goes on, you'll learn ways to cope and make things go smoother. It is good you like the population you work with!!! I have always been careful about "how much and what" I tell admin. I became more open about somethings when I no longer really needed the job.
     
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    Tired is so right about finding a "school bff." I had one at my last school and sometimes the only way either of us survived was by venting to each other. You have to be very careful that you find the right person, so your business doesn't turn into gossip. In my case, my bff was great, and we are still close friends today, even though we are half a country apart.
     
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  5. readingrules12

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    Your P sounds borderline abusive. You may have to stand up to her in a careful and kind way down the road if it doesn't stop. For the most part, I'd stay away from her as much as possible.
     
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    Is this a public school? I am guessing from your spelling that this isn't an American school, but hopefully at least some of this should apply...
    "She has told me, "because of your name i thought you were a man before the interview...i was disappointed when you showed up", "yoyr coming here as this pretty girl..."
    That sounds like sex discrimination and bordering on harassment -- document it and report it to HR and/or your union, if you have them. Just because your P is also a woman doesn't mean she can't discriminate against you.
    I would also work on finding a new position for next year -- just document everything so it can't be used against you if you aren't renewed.
     
  7. TeacherNY

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    Why did she hire you if she wasn't happy you were a woman? Did someone else hire you? What kind of school is this? She seriously needs to be reported to HR.
     
  8. Milsey

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    Just do the job and try not to be so sensitive. Approach the job like you are going in to battle ! You will slay on Monday.
     
  9. futuremathsprof

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    Milsey, what kind of advice is this?
     
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  10. Pi-R-Squared

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    Just Milsey being Milsey. ;)
     
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  11. TeacherNY

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    That's what I was going to say :rofl:
     
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    I have found that being a nice and pretty young woman is a terrible thing to the wrong person, usually an angry and unhappy older woman. Good lesson in how not to be when we are older.

    It's hard to be really detached and observant when around really weird or abusive people but that is what I try and do as much as possible, Kind of like, "oh, how interesting that this person is saying that. How intellectually interesting!" almost like it is a science research project. That detachment can help you alot. And - continue being awesome, young and pretty and you will be ok. Like Taylor Swift says, "haters gonna hate, just shake it off!'
     

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