This applies to grade 6-8. So I was taught that when dealing with students you never do anything to embarrass them or make them feel bad. Instead you should talk to them like, "I understand you are feeling like x or y, but you are disrupting students" or whatever. When disciplining them you give them a referral or make them go to another classroom or move their seat or something along those lines. Also, at my school this is what they want you to do. This works a decent amount of time, but there are a lot of students where this doesn't work and the kids can just be out of control and not want to do jack. Then, there was a new teacher that came from New York that has two masters in education and I befriended her. She tells me the reason this doesn't really work is because the students don't respect you and they feel nothing bad will happen. At first I was skeptical, but she has many of the same students as I do and when she started (she started mid year) her students were failing their class, not doing any work, and just screwing around. After just 1 week she got them always do their work and almost always behave in her class. I asked how she did this and she said it's simple. First off, when students do what they aren't supposed to do, you make them know it and you yell at them. Not only do you yell at them, but you embarrass the crap out of them and make them feel about 2 inches tall. She has literally had students cry because she berated them so bad. By itself, this wouldn't work at all. However at the same time you need to make the students know that you always have their back and you will protect them against anyone that does wrong. Whether it's making fun of them or anything that hurts their feelings. With that said, even if you back them up, you have to tear them down if they do the same to another student. Also, when they do well, you make sure they know it by praising them, etc. I've spoken to my students and they all say the same thing. She is by far their favorite teacher. This sounds odd at first, but basically they say she is the nicest mean teacher they've ever had. Not only that, but they know she has their back and she will protect them. This isn't just one or two students, but literally ALL of the students. Not only do they all love her, but they all do their work and do everything she says. Yes, they sometimes act out, but she quickly gets them back in their place. At this point in the year, I won't be able to do change the way I do things, because it would be a big shock and drastic change to run my classroom like this. However, next year I'm going to start the year off this way. It sounds F'd up to make the students feel like garbage, but if you are able to make them know that you also have their back, they do anything for you.