If you became a mom in your 30's...

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  1. TennisPlayer

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    How old were you with your 1st child and if you don't mind sharing, how many months did it take for you to be successful with becoming pregnant?

    I have friends who are moms of different ages so it seems less awkward to ask on here than them in person unless they share that info first. I wonder why it takes some women longer than a few months or if it's literally all about the timing of you know what?
     
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  3. Lindager

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    I became a Mom the first time at 20. I was married and we wanted the baby, but we ended up divorced later. It was more then 10 years before I tried to get pregnant again and I had a rough time. No one was sure why and it was really hard on me because all my friends were getting pregnant while I was not. After several test something finally worked and I became pregnant.

    Some times it is luck sometimes it is a short term problem, no one should worry about how long it takes until they have been trying for more then 9 months. After that a Dr. should be consulted. I say never give up I have friends who were told they could never have babies and have ended up pregnant.
     
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    I was 33 when my daughter was born. We had been trying for almost 6 years. I had a benign pituitary tumor that was treated, but eventually there seemed to be no good reason why I wasn't getting pregnant...finally, though, it worked out.
     
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    I got married at 30, and after a year we started trying.

    After 9 years of that, we decided to adopt; Brian arrived in January 1999 at the age of 7 months.

    4 months later I was pregnant with Julia; She arrived when I was 42; Kira arrived when I was 45.

    I firmly believe that the reason we had so much trouble conceiving was that God intended us to be the parents of THAT particular child; we weren't going to maintain a pregnancy until after he became part of our lives.

    For what it's worth, both pregnancies were totally uneventful.
     
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    Tennis Player I often have the same questions. I know I will probably have kids in my 30s the way its looking now...although I'm not trying now.
     
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    I was 30 when my first son was born and 35 when my second son was born. I had very little problems getting pregnant.
     
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    I was 31 when my son was born. I got pregnant the first month we didn't use birth control. My daughter was born a year and a half later. That pregnancy happened when we were using birth control, sort of. That reminds me of a little joke: What do you call people who use the rhythm method? Answer: Parents!

    So no, fortunately, I didn't have any problems getting pregnant.
     
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    I had my last child when I was 30. I was able to bet pg very easily.
     
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    My mom & I are late bloomers I guess. I'm at the age when my mom had me...36. My parents were married 3 yrs before that & I'm their 1st & only child. I have no idea how long they had been trying. I'm not married yet, so I guess I'll be in my late 30s/early 40s if I have my 1st child.
     
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    Some people/my high school classmates my age are grandparents (34). I'm definitely a late bloomer. Had my baby at 34, took 6 months to get pregnant which was longer than we expected it to take.
     
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    I got pregnant and gave birth at the age of 34. I was not trying but all it took was a cold night and some whiskey. Not kidding....lol I had 2 miscarriages before.
     
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    I got pregnant at 29, and Elizabeth was born when I was 30. It took no effort at all to get pregnant! :unsure:

    My second was born when I was 33. Again, it took no effort! :eek:

    My husband joked that if he knew we were going to be so successful with both conceptions, he would have put forth more effort! :blush:
     
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    DW was pregnant with our first at 32. I remember it took us about five months. I'd say it took no special effort, but from remembering her apparently sudden requests at the time I think she worked out the timing fairly carefully.

    I also remember her standing on her head a lot.:lol:
     
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    I got pregnant at 19 and had my son at 20. It was apparently pretty easy since it was an accident. He is my only child butI will be starting as soon as I get married this summer. I'm 30 now and I have this awful feeling in my gut that we are going to have some difficulty.
     
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    I got pregnant at 34 and had my son when I was 35. To be honest, I can't remember if we were trying or not! We had been married 5 years, but hubby already had 3 adult children. My parents were married 11 years and had me when my Mom was 35 also.
     
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    We're thinking about trying this fall, but that's not set in stone. Dh will be 32 and I'll be close to 30. We've already talked about what we'll do if can't get pregnant naturally. We'll be a bummed, but we'll also be ok with it. In fact, we joke that it will be the ultimate irony if it's difficult, after all the care we've taken NOT to get pregnant before we're ready!
     
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    It took 2 tears and lots of effort to have my first - was about to give up. A year later, it took a thought "hmmm....maybe we should think about starting to try again..." to get pregnant! ;)
     
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    It took only a few months for me to get pregnant when I was 30, and then I had a miscarriage. Then just about 3 months later became pregnant with my first daughter , so I was 31 when I delivered her( almost 32 )

    When she was 11 months old - I got my first cycle, and became pregnant again. so daughter number two came also pretty easily (lol) when I was 33.

    My 4th pregnancy was when i was 34 and also ended in miscarriage, but again 3 months later I was pregnant with daughter number 3 who was born when I was 36.

    I didn't have a lot of trouble getting pregnant, I guess just staying pregnant.
     
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    It took almost a year on both of mine. I had my first at 31 and my second at 34. I have a friend who had two about the same ages and they are trying for a third, but with a career change to teaching, I am just too tired :)
     
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    I just turned 35 and we've been trying for 2 years. The websites seem to say if you're under 35 give it a year of trying during your peak times. If you're unsuccessful after that year see a doctor. Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Weschler is a book with great information about cycles etc... You also may want to log onto the Babyzone boards. They are quite helpful (just like the people on A to Z, just more specialized on pregnancies). :D
     

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