I heard something I shouldn't have....

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  1. ecteach

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    First of all, I feel like the most random things happen to me. This situation happened a little over a week ago, and I've been wrestling with a decision since then not sure what to do.

    So....here's what happened.

    I heard the principal tell a teacher something she is now denying that she said. I specifically heard it with my own two ears, but neither party knows/remembers I heard. I was making copies, and they were talking behind me.

    The teacher got in trouble for what she did, and actually had to meet with human resources. Of course I have heard this through the grapevine. What she did wasn't a big deal, but the parent is super crazy, and made it into a HUGE spectacle. Immediately, the principal threw this teacher under the bus. I do not want to share the exact thing that happened, as this is a public forum.

    What should I do???????? I have such a guilty conscience. I actually didn't even sleep Thursday night.
     
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  3. vickilyn

    vickilyn Multitudinous

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    You heard what you heard, but it doesn't require you to do anything. Pretend you didn't hear it. Period. Do not share what you heard, and it essentially remains between the original two parties, as it should. You will have an easy conscience if the information becomes more widespread, since you know you are not the source. Sometimes that is the best you can hope for. In the past, this would have simply been known as good manners.
     
  4. ecteach

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    I haven't told anyone except my husband, who probably wasn't listening anyway. :p
     
  5. kpa1b2

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    Don't say anything to anyone.

    I just went through a situation where Teacher A over heard something and told teacher B that she was being talked about. Teacher B was naturally upset because what Teacher A had told her had been told to a select few in confidence and it had been asked not to have been shared. What Teacher A actually overheard was something about Teacher C, most of which was common knowledge. Unfortunately, Teacher A only heard part of a conversation and leaped to erroneous conclusions, shared those conclusions with Teacher B. It resulted in texts to our P, hurt feelings, emails and finally a heart to heart talk.

    It's not worth it.
     
  6. czacza

    czacza Multitudinous

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    Stay out of it.
     
  7. TamiJ

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    I agree! It didn´t and doesn´t involve you and since nothing was directly said to you it´s best to stay out of it.
     
  8. gr3teacher

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    It sounds like the teacher is getting into trouble because the principal is lying. I don't know the best way to handle that, but I really don't feel just completely staying out of it is best. I don't know what to recommend though.
     
  9. LisaLisa

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    You might have heard something that was true but were you privy to the entire situation, other conversations and closed door meetings? No. You might know something but it's not enough to make it your business.

    If you really are bothered by this consider what would happen if you went to the principal to share what you heard. How would that change anything? You will have a clear conscience but antagonize the principal and probably not clear the teacher. You didn't hear it all. Just watch your p's and q's and don't be a target for that principal.
     
  10. comaba

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    I agree.

    If this was me, I would contact my union rep, but I don't remember if OP is in a union.
     
  11. Ms. I

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    I agree, stay out of it & if ever confronted, pretend you didn't hear it.
     
  12. TeacherNY

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    It seems like drama finds you quite often. Just forget you heard it.
     
  13. orangetea

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    Are you close with the teacher?
     
  14. EMonkey

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    If the teacher is getting into serious trouble and you witnessed something that would make it less serious, I am not sure that I would just let it go myself. I would at least contact the union rep or the upper level of the union if necessary and find out if what was heard can be used to solve the problem. If it is of no use then let it go if it is helpful then maybe let the rep know and they can take it and make use of it.

    Unless you are the union rep I would not go directly to the principal, and even if you are the rep it would depend on what was heard. If the principal threw one person under the bus why not two.
     
  15. vickilyn

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    Irregardless of what you heard, that may only be part of the big picture. If you want to be involved in the drama, go to it. Otherwise, I would be grateful it was not my problem, and pay attention to my life, my situations, and my job. Invariably, there are aspects that only those truly involved know about. Coming forward, while showing good intentions, will almost always cause someone embarrassment, because they would prefer NOT to rehash everything in public.

    I might mention it to my husband, who has no contact with school employees, but I would never acknowledge what I thought I heard at work. It is poor etiquette.
     
  16. Caesar753

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    In general, my advice is to stay out of it.

    I might have different advice if I knew more about the situation.
     
  17. 3Sons

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    Kind of sad.

    I don't really think the advice in this thread is wrong. The wisest course of action is to stay out of it, keep a safe distance, just put the possible injustice of this out of your mind.

    I would at least offer a few words of support privately to the teacher. She could confirm more of the situation. But then, I don't always make the wisest decisions....
     
  18. Rabbitt

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    Reverse the situation...
    What if you were the teacher in trouble?
     
  19. ecteach

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    EXACTLY!! This was not a multi-part conversation that I saw. Pretty much went like this:
    Teacher: Am I allowed to do XYZ?
    Principal: Yes.
    Result: Teacher does it, and gets in a lot of trouble because the parent is insane.
     
  20. ecteach

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    EXACTLY!! This was not a multi-part conversation that I saw. Pretty much went like this:
    Teacher: Am I allowed to do XYZ?
    Principal: Yes.
    Result: Teacher does it, and gets in a lot of trouble because the parent is insane, and the principal has NO BACKBONE!
     

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