3sons - thank you for the spelling help! I don't know what is happening to my gifted spelling skills!!!! Seriously, they are slinking away at night . . . My daughter's kinder teacher identified her as gifted. There was no program at the school to identify gifted students, but in this teacher's experience and study, she believed my dd was gifted. My daughter taught herself to read at 4 -actually a funny story: I was taking care of a child with Down's syndrome who had learned to read in kindergarten, and this child challenged my dd to learn to read! So she did. Anyway, the kinder teacher did small things to encourage my daughter. She would let her do assignments "outside the box" and not fuss at her for doing it differently that everyone else. She put my daughter in with the first graders for language and reading - she continued to be challenged by having reading and LA in an upper grade throughout her elementary years. We as parents did not even tell our daughter about this. We encouraged her to be creative and explore her interests. She was never bored, and we never made a big deal out of good grades. We always praised her for her hard work, and for her high marks in citizenship. Today, she does not stand out as gifted. She is very talented in the arts, makes great grades, scored well on the SAT, and in my opinion is gifted socially - she can talk to many different kinds of people and gets along with people, cares about people, is respected by her peers, and knows how to stand up for herself. She has learned to fit in while sticking with her own beliefs. From the bottom of my heart, I appreciate how her teachers trained her in social skills and made her toe the line with accuracy, deadlines, all those little details. I appreciate that they challenged her without making a big deal out of anything. As has been said, our job is to take each student and appreciate them and try to challenge them to grow. It is the toughest and most rewarding job on earth. I would just get to know this kid and find small ways to challenge her interests. But she should be expected to meet the standards just like everyone else. The parents will hopefully calm down one day, but it might not be in our lifetime! I think if you just do some small things, they might be happy. If not, put it back on them "What suggestions do you have for me to enrich her learning?"