**warning - very long** Im at a loss with this child and parent. I have a girl in my class who since the beganing of school has had "independence" problems. Her mom shows up for breakfast and spoon feeds the girl. She was coming in a stroller to school up until December. I spoke with the mom about letting the girl feed herself and walking independently. In the class the girl cries when she has to use scissors, cries when she uses glue, cries until one of the other girls in class takes pity and does the work for her. At lunch the mom shows up and pulls the child from the table and spoon feeds her in the hallway. I again spoke with mom about building a social community with the class and not segregating and she needs to learn to feed herself. Everyday we have this talk, every week for months. Finally about a month ago we were walking in from lunch and I turn around and the girls is gone. She disappeared from the line. I panicked! I was running all over school with my class in tow looking for this girl. Well turns out mom pulled her from the line while we were walking and did not tell me. I got upset! I told the mom that during school hours I was accountable for her child and should her child go missing I am the one who is accountable for it. I told her that what she had done had created an unsafe situation which had scared me. Her response...M (lets call the girl M) needed me to wash her face. Grrrrr! So I spoke with administration about this. Obviously I was getting no where with mom. So the agreement is that mom can bring and drop off lunch but cannot stay and feed the child. She followed this agreement for about a month. Yesterday she shows up pulls the kid from the lunch table and feeds her. I went and spoke to administration about this. They said if she does it again tomorrow please tell her to check in with the Principal. So today of course the woman shows up. I go up to her in the hall and I say "I hear you have not checked in at the office. I will take M's lunch and you go check in." I removed the kid and walked her back to the lunch table. Well Mom comes down stairs and says that the Principal said it was ok and then she takes the kid to spoon feed her. I went upstairs and spoke to the Principal who then went downstairs and confronted the mom. What do you do with this??? Seriously it is the sickest behavior I have ever seen from a parent. I had to retain the kid this year because here we are in May and M can still only write the first 2 letters of her name and recognize and write her numbers to 3. Im so frustrated with this parent. Get this too...when I retained her she requested that her kid be in my room again. I don't know if I can take this for another year.