I am NOT happy. Desperately need help.

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  1. ILuvMyCello

    ILuvMyCello Rookie

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    Hi all,

    I desperately need help. I am in my third year of teaching and third job. I took a break for awhile to go into banking and went back to teaching. My first job I was non renewed from, and my second job had me on a temporary contract so I wanted out. This is a real contract in a public school district.
    I have done well for the most part. My evaluations are all great. I'm in two schools and was elected union rep in my second school for next year. I was on principal interview committee at my first school. I generally get along with my colleagues, and my principals are tolerable. But I am NOT HAPPY, and feel like I deserve to be.
    I enjoy the relationships I make with the students and teaching. Teaching is fun! I do not enjoy the way my district makes me feel. Since I am a specialist, I am literally on duty two hours a day. Breakfast, lunch, recess, I do it all. My masters degree is in reading, and I open Gogurts a majority of the day. One day a week I have to go to each classroom for instruction. I am exhausted. I do not get a dedicated planning like classroom teachers do. The kids are wild, but listen to me. It is exhausting managing behavior all day and being the duty queen. I almost feel like I am working at McDonalds clocking out for my 30 minute break.
    I get paid 0 to do performances and nighttime activities. I believe part of my job is doing two concerts a year. School 2 is almost over the top with performances. My P there is a man who has already retired twice so he is older. He wanted me to do a performance at every single PTO function. One even was on a Saturday morning (this was the day I got engaged, and I felt so resentful about it because I was tired from being at school in the morning and couldn't enjoy my day). I did it this year but since I am union next year, that will stop.
    I am currently dealing with my mom being quite ill from gamma knife treatment and a seizure (she is a teacher as well-we live together). The neediness of my students drains me and then I go home and help my mom. It is exhausting and hard to deal with.
    The only positive that has come out of this year is meeting my mentor. We have become best friends! I am grateful to her. But combined with the duty, and managing the behaviors, I am not happy. I don't think job hopping again would be the right thing. Please help!
     
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  3. missrebecca

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    It sounds like you've had some bad luck in teaching jobs. Your current position does not sound normal at all... an hourly employee should be doing the majority of cafeteria duty, not a salary teacher. I'm guessing your school/district must be short on employees or have a budget problem, in which case your best shot is to go elsewhere.

    From reading your post, you seem like you don't want to change schools again. Is there any way you could get back into banking or use your degree differently? At the very least, you could take a break for a while (even if that break is just the summer ;)) and look for a better place to work.
     
  4. readingrules12

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    Music teachers can be treated like this in the beginning. I know many music teachers. A few of them when they get good and experienced go to the schools that really appreciate them. They have to be assertive to what they will and won't do, while still being a team player.

    Maybe you could get paid $$$ teaching music lessons somewhere or performing and then work at a school part time. It sounds like you like teaching, but the demands of all the hours that a school demands is taking its toll on you. Some music teachers do this and only promise a school to teach half time.
     
  5. Upsadaisy

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    My sister is an art teacher and she gets all the duties, too, and she's almost ready to retire. Bus duty, am and pm, 6 lunch duties a week. She has to help classroom teachers prior to testing. She sees 800 kids in a rotation of , I think , 8 days. She has to do lots of extras for performances and art exhibits. It is sickening but she has to stick it out for a few more years. If you are young, you shouldn't stand for being miserable.
     
  6. kcjo13

    kcjo13 Phenom

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    I would think a school board would be disappointed in the fact that they are paying you Masters degree wages to do the job that an hourly employee could do. Doesn't seem like they are getting their money's worth, for lack of a better phrase.

    I would, through your union, negotiate a maximum amount of duty, plan periods, and scheduled performances-stat.
     
  7. Upsadaisy

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    You'd think so, but it doesn't work out that way. There are 180 schools in my district.
     
  8. bartleby

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    I agree with kjco that you should work on getting some of this stuff addressed in your contract for next year. I realize it can be tough to put your foot down, but your physical and mental health matters most above all. I would also plan ahead before you discuss with anyone: this is what you will do, this is what is negotiable, and this is what you will not do again. It sounds like you can find some happiness if you can get some more reasonable conditions, I hope you get them.
     
  9. jojo808

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    Apr 29, 2015

    No new advice--just a hug! You are in a difficult position--two schools? That alone is stressful! You have already been given some good advice. I wish you the best.
     

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