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  1. mrachelle87

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    I left school the 13th deadly ill...that night I spent nine hours at the hospital and then spent Thursday and Friday at the hospital being seen by specialists to find the problem. Then on Sunday I was hospitalized with severe dehydration and stomach cramps. I was released on Monday evening after last shift change. I was ordered to stay home on Tuesday from the doctor since they still didn't have any answers. We didn't have school Wednesday through Friday for Thanksgiving. Am I wrong for feeling hurt that my principal did not call me or email me once during this time? She makes it clear that she has favorites, but this has totally broken my heart. I had several friends call from school...a teaching friend was in the ER within an hour of hearing I was being admitted on Sunday...three different parents called to see what I needed from this year's class and several from past classes. I don't want to return to work tomorrow because I am not sure how to deal with her. She was mad at me over a situation that happened outside of school concerning me and my daughter's teacher. I feel that she has washed her hands of me and doesn't care and that hurts.
     
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  3. czacza

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    I'm not sure our P calls staff who are out sick...your real friends checked in on you and I'm sure your students will be thrilled you're back....focus on that. Don't let this get you down. Just be the professional...even if others aren't.
     
  4. Em_Catz

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    *hugs* I know that doesn't feel good, but don't let it hurt you too much. P's are extremely busy and they have so much going on with testing, parents, students, budget, etc.

    I never understood that until I became the coordinator for an after school program that had about 150 kids and 7 teachers, which is a fraction of how many people our P has to oversee. I was so busy and stressed out during that time keeping things running smoothly that if someone had been ill during that time, I probably wouldn't have called.

    I remember I used to have to fill out paper work that the students were getting their supper, find substitutes at the last minute sometimes, handle behavior, answer parent questions/complaints, oversee huge bi-weekly shipments, keep track of testing materials, etc.

    I recall one of my interpreters getting sick during the program and another one had a car accident. Both of them texted me to let me know why they couldn't come in and I texted them back to feel better and to check how they were doing, but I didn't call. If it had been my grade level chair, who is one of my closest friends, then yes, I probably would've called, but that's because I know her on a personal level, not because I thought or care any less for the other two teachers. Plus, my grade level helped me A LOT with the program and often covered for me when I needed to be 5 places at once, so I would've taken the extra couple minutes to call instead of just text or check in on her when she felt better.
     
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    I think sometimes we want our P's to do certain things, but in reality they have so much on their plate that they just can't. I'd be happy if my P acknowledged my texts!
     
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    I'm not part of the "in-crowd" at my school, so I don't think it would even occur to me to be upset if my principal didn't get in touch with me. I would be really hurt if others at my school didn't check up on me, however. I get it.

    Do you think that the conflict between you and the principal is something that can be resolved? What exactly happened between you and your daughter's teacher, and why is it something that your principal is mad about?
     
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    I work in a small town HS so I'm sure that if I was sick enough to be in the hospital, the P would call to see if I was ok and needed anything. I know that the secretary would stop by and probably a lot of my coworkers would have called or texted to make sure everything was ok. The benefit at working at a small HS!
     
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    I would be hurt too. I had surgery recently and was out for over a week and was a little surprised there was no contact from the school to see how it had gone. And your case sounds much more serious than that.

    My former P probably would have actually visited the hospital-he took a group once to visit one of the cafeteria workers who was hospitalized.

    I hope you can get an answer to your sickness. It's so frustrating when they can't figure out the cause. Hopefully tomorrow won't be too hard for you.
     
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    I think the part that hurts the most is that my peers from my old school contacted me. My old principal was at the hospital when my daughter was born. My assist. supt was there when my son was born. My husband was in the hospital for a fall one year a week before school and his principal and supt. were there...and they are at our current school. I know it is stupid, but it hurts that my principal doesn't seem to care...no one in the office seems to care. Our old secretary would have been at the hospital...in fact, she emailed and texted me to check on me.

    I guess it is hard....my old school was more like a family, not just a place to work.
     
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    I think that with everything going on with the holidays... It might have been an oversight. But I would not be surprised if my P did not call me.
     
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    I wouldn't be offended unless I knew the P had done that for other people. Personally, I wouldn't expect it at all...but my admin and I are not close and I would never in a million years refer to them as "friends." Unless you would consider the P a true friend outside of school, I don't think I would think anything of it.

    Last year one of my friends broke her ankle the night before she was supposed to go on an overnight field trip. When she didn't come to school the next day, she'd explained why and admin came to me to ask about it (they knew we were close). I was with her when it happened and I explained she was really hurt and there was just no way she could go on the trip (camping in the mountains), especially since she was still heavily medicated. Admin called her right away supposedly because they were "concerned" but I saw right through that as it was obvious they were just trying to see if she was really that hurt/try to convince her to go on the trip anyway. Maybe I'm just jaded...but if someone called me from admin I'd see it more as "checking up on things" than genuine concern.
     
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    My doctor wrote a letter explaining why I could not be at school for over a week...I did not take it to the school. I live 20 miles away and didn't feel like driving there to take it...but I will have it on her desk tomorrow morning.
     
  13. Missy

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    Principals are busy, but I think she could have checked on you.

    Hope you are doing much better.
     
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    I'm sorry your feelings were hurt. I think she should have called. I believe that a principals job is to look out for, and take care of his/her staff.

    I hope you are feeling better. I honestly believe that it was rude of her/him not to call. However, I do agree with waterfall, that some principals may call only to check up.
     
  15. mrachelle87

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    Well, she avoided me today also. But my peers really took care of my class while I was gone and I truly appreciated it.
     
  16. smalltowngal

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    mrachelle~I'm sorry that your P is being like this, but I'm glad that you have great peers. And really, that's all that matters. I love the people I work with. They make it easier to go into work every day.
     
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    I had surgery that required me to stay home. The only thing my P did was write me up for not calling in each day. I had told her how long I would be out, but that was not enough.
     

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