Friday at last Just when things can't get any worse.... this takes the cake. I am a hands on person. I hug my kids,make sure they are bundled up, stop them from unsafe behavior and restrain them when they are aggressive towards others. A parent walked in to my room at the end of a crazy Friday, interrupting my class to accuse me of abusing her 5 year old son, a kid that has emotional problems and has been trouble for the regular teacher but behaves for me because I see a side of him that side of him that most don't. He's smart but troubled. He need lots of attention and thrives when his efforts are acknowledged. He's got a sad life, no dad, hard working single mom who is overwhelmed. He spends 12 hours a day in school or day care and hate it. I adore this child. He told her that I pulled his arm and it hurt. I can't, for the life of me, figure when I could have done such a thing unless I was trying to pull him away from another child when he was doing something aggressive or dangerous. I rarely lose my temper with kids but occasionally I will, as a last resort, grab a child's wrist or hand and require them to walk with me in line or aside for a little private talk. This child is always pushing in line or elbowing someone. He also tends to resist so I could have tightened my grip so he couldn't get away from me. I haven't taught in public school for many years and restraining an out of control child was not considered abusive when I started teaching 25 years ago. When did that change? If I hurt this child I certainly didn't intend to but I can't allow him to hurt someone else or run around uncontained. I feel absolutely terrible! I don't blame the mother for being upset. I couldn't believe what I was hearing. I adore this little boy and wouldn't purposely hurt him for the world. I guess I need to learn to be more reserved and hands off in this day and age. I'm very sad and wondering if I am too old to return to teaching.