How to say no

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  1. otterpop

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    This past school year I did loads of stuff that is wholly not my job. Some of these tasks should be taken care of by our administrators and some should be completed by a collaboration of multiple teachers. We got a new admin team and had many (more than 50%) new teachers on staff last year, and I offered to help with some things, but then I somehow became the "person who organizes things" and I'm worried it is now the status quo. It was an entirely way too stressful year and I need to focus on keeping my own stuff taken care of, rather than arranging school field trips and school events. What's the best way to back off from these tasks going forward, especially in the eyes of admin? No one else at my school is stepping up to do these things that are yearly events, and I can't plan everything.

    I've recommended committees to admin but overall, I don't think admin cares about burnout or equal division of work, so it doesn't matter to my P that everything is being planned by only a few people. Obviously the "just say no" approach is the most direct but I don't want to be labeled as noncooperative.
     
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    Just politely decline when asked and say, “I’m getting behind in things that I have to do and so I cannot commit to anything else, unfortunately. I apologize for the inconvenience this has caused, but I am wearing too many hats and starting to be stretched too thin. I can help out here and there, but not continually.”
     
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    In addition to the above, I would also point out how these additional duties are impacting the instruction in your classroom. Any good administrator will acknowledge and accept that your classroom should be your priority. If you keep the focus of your conversation on how this is impacting students (rather than you), they'll have a hard time keeping the pressure on you.
     
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    Trust me, I know the feeling. And these people think I want to go out and eat/drink with them? Hahahahahahaha........
     
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    It goes from simply helping out to "I'm the only one who can do anything".
     
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    It gets to a point where other people start volunteering your services.
     
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    If you give them an inch, they take a mile.
     
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    Ask admin if there is an opening for a strictly organizational position that matches or exceeds your current salary. This gives you the opportunity to describe all that you have been doing, and then describe how that impacts what your job description calls for. Who knows - there might be a position for people who are good at organization in a big way, perhaps with a bigger salary. Might be worth a try.
     
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    Involuntary volunteerism!
     
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    Seriously, you fix one computer, then all of a sudden, you're the go-to technology fix-it-all on campus. Got a printer to start printing again? "Hey, can you......."? No, go read the manual. No one wants to pay for all these extra services. "Hey, go ask ............... to fix it". :mad:
     
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    This is the point it hit by the end of the year!
     
  13. otterpop

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    I actually did mention this to my principal, but it does not seem to be something the school has the slightest bit of interest in.
     
  14. Ima Teacher

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    When you say no, you do not need to offer any explanation.

    Once you start offering reasons, people start trying to help find ways you can work around the issue, assuming yo7 would do it if it weren’t for that obstacle.
     
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    Never give them a proble to solve
     
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    Thank you. This is solid advice. This is definitely something that happens.
     

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