How to last until the end of the school year? I can't hold on! (Planning to quit)

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  1. Jujubes

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    Hello all.

    After 5 years of public school teaching (Middle school mostly, did one year in elementary), I think I am ready to call it quits. I kept telling myself it would get easier, it would get better, just gotta last until next school year... but it never got better and never got easier. Just harder each year. Last school year I cried for the first time in my classroom and this school year I cry now at home thinking about going to school. It's too much, and it's hurting me mentally... which is why I realized this school year NEEDS to be my last. I do have plans for what I want to do after, but I can't start it until I quit. But I am wondering now if I should even bother waiting until the end of the school year. I don't want to make any mistakes though and just leave on good terms. I don't want to leave my school hanging, because me leaving would do that. I don't want to leave my classes hanging, because that would be wrong to my students... but isn't my mental health way more important than that? And wouldn't it look bad on me, like I'm just some giver-upper? I am trying to stay positive, work hard, be nice, try everything I can, but every day I get beat down and down and I am left feeling like my best wasn't good enough and never will be, and I am finding it harder to hang on until the end of the school year. I honestly don't know how to do it because I am trying with no success. I don't know if I can take this mental torture anymore but I don't know how I would feel about just dropping everything and walking away like that. Would anyone be willing to share their thoughts on this?
     
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    What are the reasons you want to quit?
     
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    What, specifically, is so terrible? What would need to happen for you to feel successful?
     
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    We would be, but you need to be a little more specific about what you are experiencing.
     
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    Mental health is incredibly important, but so is being able to pay the bills, and you don't want to leave one stressful situation just to be in another one (not being able to make ends meet). If you were to quit mid-year, it would be best if you had another way to pay the bills. Can you start applying for other jobs and then consider leaving if you are hired elsewhere? Leaving a job mid-year isn't ideal, but if you are sure about leaving teaching, it wouldn't be the worst thing. Maybe start applying for jobs and see what's out there. If you can't find anything right, then see if you can hang on until the end of the school year.

    All that said, if you can hang in there and finish the year, that would be the best thing to do. You'd have health benefits and a steady paycheck while you worked to figure out your next option. If you want future references, your school would be much happier if you left over the summer.
     
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    Hmm... Well, literally everything. From the kdis, to their parents, to admin, to lesson planning, to grading, to testing, to the observations and the micromanaging... Just every thing a teacher can complain about. I used to have a passion for teaching but it's all slowly died...
     
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    I'm honestly feeling like i am weak for wanting to quit now...
     
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    Do you have any sick days that would allow you some time off as mental health days to take a break and figure out what your next step is? I know some schools let you bank them up.
     
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    Well, I have a few days, but not a lot since I've already used some. But really, I kind of already know what my next step is, which is why I am wondering if I should hold out until the end of the school year or not. I guess in a way what's really holding me back is fear of guilt.
     
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    OK, this is me talking as a parent instead of a teacher. My son had a teacher leave mid-year, and it definitely had a negative impact. That said, you have to do whatever works for you within the confines of your contract (amount of notice). Since I would have to give 60 days notice, if I tendered my resignation, I would still be in my classroom through March. I suspect that if I was going to HAVE to be there until March, or even into April, I would tough it out for the remainder of the year. If, on the other hand, you are at will, things change, since you can essentially walk away tomorrow. Big difference. Know your contract inside and out before going down this road. I would never tell you that you should stay, no matter what. Different strokes for different folks.
     
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    Looking at your first post, it sounds like you have been unhappy with teaching from the beginning. If that is the case, then teaching may indeed not be for you. If you never plan to return to teaching, walk away now. If you want to change schools or return at a later date, you might just have to stick it out.

    Look specifically about what the issue is. What about parents? Are the helicopter parents? Are they uninterested? Are they bypassing you for admin? What about the kids? Are they low-performing? Underachieving gifted? Behavior issues? What classroom management do you use? Why is planning and grading such an issue? Do you have a mentor, either formal or informal?

    And then there is always one other aspect to consider. What did you expect teaching to be like? I know my education classes taught me about philosophies of education that assumed students came to me from homes where parents were supportive and made sure their children were well-fed, well-rested, and willing & able to learn on grade level. That's not what I got. At all. Ever. Not in 26 years of teaching. Some years are really, really hard. Other years are much easier. No two years are ever alike. I've even had years when I had the same kids two years in a row, and it was still really different. One of my friends (not in education, by the way) is perpetually disgruntled with work because she has unrealistic expectations and few coping mechanisms for when things go awry. She jumps from job to job because she hates each and every one after awhile. I really wish I knew how to help her because she always seems so miserable
     
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    I just left a job mid year, not because I hated it, but because we moved too far away. I still felt the guilt leaving my students, but no one is indispensable, and the class will be fine with a new teacher.
    I say do what is best for your mental health and if you know you want out of education completely, don't worry about leaving now.
    Like others have said, if you can handle finances, do what you need to do.
     
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    I didn't quit but I retired. I told my headteacher in February that I would be finishing in July. It was liberating. There was no point in them pressuring me to meet performance targets, what could they do if I didn't? They just left me alone to teach my classes and collect for my leaving present! It felt like I was in the lifeboat. Even if your bosses are nasty to you you still hold all the winning cards, you are leaving for better things. Just keep that in your mind. Who knows, in the last week or so you may even be able to tell them to 'boil their heads' or whatever American sobriquet applies (swivel on it)?
     
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    I feel the same way. I'm just taking it one week at a time. As awful as a lot of these kids are, I'd feel terrible leaving in the middle of the school year; they need consistency! I keep telling myself it's only x more months until summer and then I never have to come back to this school.
     
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    If you're able to tough it out for the remainder of the year, finish out the year knowing that you won't be coming back. Read your contract over to figure out how you can leave mid-year. My state allows public school teachers to give 5-days notice. Know what your situation is before cutting the cord. Also try to land a job before leaving...... Good luck!!
     
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    OP, once you have found out about your obligations that are written into your contract - amount of notice you must leave, for instance, then you should be looking at what you do that would impact possible employment in any field going forward. Future employers (not in education) may not understand leaving in mid year, because they would consider that poor form for any employee, potentially their employee. On the other hand, they may consider the school's loss to be their gain. If you have no need or desire to find a new job, then it becomes a moot point.

    I am not discounting or making light of the fact that you are struggling mentally to do your job. I am only looking at possible repercussions going forward. If you aren't discussing this decision with a therapist or physician, you may be doing yourself a disservice.
     
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    I love teaching and it is so much fun! Whenever I feel stressed and/overwhelmed, I take a Relaxation day.
    If your mental status is significantly impacting your ability to function at your job, then a change is most likely the best option. Before you make the decision for what the big change will be, please consider all options. I even suggest changing schools. If you no longer want to be a teacher, make sure you have another job lined up (just do not look it up during work).
     
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