How to distress after parent conflict

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  1. Brookegillteach

    Brookegillteach New Member

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    I won’t go into details, but I had a major parent conflict today. Most of the issue was caused by admin decision that I had nothing to do with. Long story short, we had a meeting with me, parents and admin and it wasn’t pretty. This is my first major parent conflict. My question is, how do you let it go and move forward? I keep replaying things in my head and I feel like I’m going to be fixated on it. There is nothing more I can do about the situation, so how do I move on?
     
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    Be gentle with yourself. Also, be gentle with the student. Make a deliberate decision to move forward by welcoming the student back into the fold. Resetting with the student will help you reset the entire situation.
     
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    I am sorry you are going through that experience. I remember that feeling when there was a parent conflict and it was hard to shake. In the short term, I'd try to distract myself when the feelings or thoughts replayed in my mind. I might say a prayer, do a Sudoku puzzle, or do something fun with a friend to get my mind off of it. Moving forward, you just have to find a way to separate the child from the parent in your head. Start each day like nothing happened with the child if you have no control over the situation. If you feel the parent lied, make sure you document conversations with them on email and meet with them with a witness. Over the years, I have had some conflicts that were stressful. ( Once I was responsible for the WRONG person's child not passing a class. :) It wasn't pretty either! Best wishes to you!
     
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    Don't take it personally.
     

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