How to deal with a teacher who oversteps bounds

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  1. Larant

    Larant New Member

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    My sister's friend from church committed suicide and the funeral was held during the school day. After the funeral, she went out with some other teens from the church to Ponderosa where the chorus teacher saw them.

    The chorus teacher reported her for skipping. When my sister told her she had been returning from a funeral, the teacher responded 'Well you obviously weren't that upset about it to be talking and laughing with your friends.'

    The next week, this same teacher was telling the other students that she caught my sister skipping school.

    I get the impression this teacher is power crazed - after all I found out she tried to get me suspended for skipping school two years after I graduated because she saw me in town during the the school day. (and she even had me in her class as a senior)
     
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  3. czacza

    czacza Multitudinous

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    This is an interesting first post...

    Did your sister bring a note from home excusing her from school for the funeral? That should clear up any misconception on the teacher's part.
     
  4. Larant

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    Yes - she had turned it in beforehand and been on the excused list for the day of the funeral. The teacher is aware of that.
     
  5. Cerek

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    I'm not sure there is much you can do about the callously ignorant statement she made to your sister. However, you could go to the principal about the accusation of your sister skipping school and explain this same teacher tried to report you for skipping school two years after you graduated.

    Just because your sister was openly weeping and sobbing in the restaurant doesn't mean she skipped the funeral or didn't care about her friend. It is very likely she and the others were remembering the "good times" they had with their friend. Also, attending a funeral is a show of respect to the departed and their family, even if your emotional attachment isn't that strong.
     
  6. JustMe

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    I agree with Cerek.
     
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    Are you also a teacher in this school?
     
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    Wow, I would ignore her and just move on. There's nothing she can do if your sister was excused.
     
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    I think I would ignore it as well. If your sister already turned in the note, then the school is aware of your sister's absence and the reason. As far as the teacher commenting about the absence to other students, that seems very wrong. Is this in a high school? If so, maybe your mom should have a meeting with the teacher and if that doesn't help, then she can go to the principal. I don't think you should be involved, however.
     
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    Aliceacc Multitudinous

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    What was the chorus teacher doing at the Ponderosa during school hours????
     
  11. Ima Teacher

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    That's my question as well.
     
  12. czacza

    czacza Multitudinous

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    I have an hour duty free lunch. We go out to nice restaurants for bdays, shopping in downtown, out for coffee...(You'd never catch me in Ponderosa though, sorry!)...and if I saw students there, I wouldn't question their presence. Our middle school kids with parent permission can go downtown for lunch, high school kids typically go out, so teachers wouldn't question kids being in a local restaurant...
     
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    But then couldn't it also be the sister's duty free lunch period?
     
  14. jwteacher

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    I always laugh at any teacher who thinks the appropriate punishment for skipping school is a suspension... not that your sister did that.

    It is one thing for the teacher to suspect your sister as guilty, but it is another to talk about it overtly.
     
  15. czacza

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    That's my point...why couldn't a kid be in a restaurant at lunch? I generally wouldn't even think twice about it...although I do crack up a bit when I see kids eating lunch in the nice Italian restaurant in town (tablecloths, waiter service, really NICE food- not pizza). Teachers go there for birthday lunches...but then again maybe so are the kids!:lol:
     

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