How often (if at all) do you eat with other teachers in the lounge?

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  1. Teacher_Lyn

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    I'm 25 years old and have been teaching at my current school for two years. I think I have eaten in the teacher's lounge a total of two, maybe three times in that two years.

    It's not that I don't like the other teachers, just that after being with the students, I find myself wanting the peace and quiet of my own classroom.

    I look forward to that quiet time alone in my room eating my lunch and checking my email/surfing the net/listening to my music and sometimes looking over papers.
     
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  3. Caesar753

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    Never, because the lounge stinks like school food and the school food they give us is never good.

    I used to eat in there though, back when they used to give us decent food.

    Now I chill out in my room. Sometimes a couple of teachers come in and have lunch with me. Sometimes I keep my door propped open and students come in to have their lunch or just chill out until class starts.
     
  4. MissCeliaB

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    Every day.
     
  5. terptoteacher

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    I eat there everyday. I really need the comraderie of my peers to blow off steam. We chat about daily stuff and it really helps to have that adult time. If I stayed in my classroom, I would be working...grading papers, cleaning, organizing----I need to take that break to keep my focus......

    Plus as a whole, we get along very well. We eat breakfast every friday together too.
     
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    Teacher Lynn, come join me in the lounge!

    I eat in there every day, I generally bring my lunch because the cafeteria food is too starchy and I'm a finicky eater.

    I have some very dear friends who are always there too. We talk about our weekends, books we've read, movies, and our kids. We also love new teachers and encourage them to join us. We love having a new kid in there to help spice up our conversations.

    I really enjoy getting interesting and amusing topics going. The big topic last year was "Would you sunbathe topless if you knew no one knew you?" The question being prompted from topless sunbathers I'd seen on vacation.

    Occasionally our principal will join us.
     
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    Everyday! I eat there to have a chance to visit with my colleagues I wouldn't see otherwise. We enjoy each other's company. Sometimes we order from restaurants that deliver. Sometimes we do a pot luck. Most days we either bring our lunches or get one from the cafeteria. I need that 30 minutes away from my class and room to unwind and get revived for the afternoon. :)
     
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    Everyday!! Lunch is the only time of day I get to spend talking to grown ups. If I didn't go in there, I would go absolutely crazy. I need a brain break during the day, and some adult conversation.
     
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    I eat with other teachers everyday. There is a lounge, but I am the last to go to lunch, so by the time I get back upstairs, everyone else is ready to leave, so most days I eat in the cafeteria with a few other teachers that also eat downstairs. We have a good time and chat a lot. I just need to be able to grown-up talk for 20 minutes. I don't want to leave!
     
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    When I was in MI, I ate in there everyday. I loved my fellow teachers and it was great to chat with them. When I taught in San Francisco, there was no lounge. I tried to move a table into the copy room, but it got moved out, so I had to eat in my room. There was no lounge at the private school I worked at, either. Plus I was required to eat with the kids-that was horrible. Now I eat lunch with my student everyday, but her parents and their personal assistant eats with us, and it's wonderful. We talk about shopping, house hunting, travel stories, etc. I call it my adult time, even though my student is there-we're working on social skills like not interrupting, etc.
     
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    I roam. I eat in the cafeteria with a group of teachers a few days, eat in the lounge with teachers a few days, eat in my classroom every now and then.
     
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    Rarely, but I am the target of bullying by other teachers on my staff, so why would I?
     
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    I very rarely eat with other teachers on school days in the teacher lounge. Mostly it is because I like to work through lunch getting other things done and it takes a bit of time to get to the lounge with other staff members asking me other questions about work. If I stay in my office (right by my room) I get more done. Anyone is always welcome upstairs with me, and there is often at least 1 person eating with me.
     
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    I totally agree w/ you Teacher Lyn. I just look forward to the peace & quiet & will read a magazine while eating in my room. Back when I was a special ed teacher for just a yr, I told myself that I should get in there & mingle & get to know the teachers, but that's easier said than done for me. The whole school yr, I think I ate in the lounge a couple of times.
     
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    I eat with my children so I don't have the opportunity to go to the lounge.
     
  16. TeacherNY

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    Me too. We don't even have a lounge.
     
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    When I taught full-time I always ate in the lounge with the teachers - except for the rare occassions when it was pre-school show season and I was holding auditions suring the lunch hour. I agree with those who say that it's a wonderful time to chat with fellow staff members.

    at the school that i am LTSing in...I had HOPED that I would be able to eat in the lounge (and be able to network inot connections for next hiring season). but the Pre-K/K hours are different than the rest of the school - therefore our lunch is not THEIR lunch. So we have a mini lounge in the K room. It's the two K teachers, a few paras, and the roaming reading sped specialist. MOSTLY they are working lunches (the more "social" of the two K teachers is the one that I am replacing - so I think it'll be planning and business while she is gone).

    I have though met another LTS in the building and we take a few afterschools to talk and compare notes. In a few months we will be competitors for the same jobs - but for now...we are cohorts.
     
  18. scholarteacher

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    Wow! You gotta be kidding! We always eat with our students. We may get one day a year--during teacher appreciation week--for a 10-15 lunch in the lounge!
     
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    I used to eat in the cafeteria every day with the kids. Then they put in new air conditioners that make you feel like you are in the arctic and you have to old down your food to keep it from blowing away. I have long hair and it was like trying to eat in a hurricane. The final straw was the new chairs they bought. The rivets aren't fully seated in the seatbacks and they would pull chunks of my hair out. A few years back with some new construction, the teaher's lounge was moved and is much larger, so I started eating in there except when I have lunch duty.
     
  20. Ima Teacher

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    We don't have a lounge.

    We only get 25 minutes--including travel & bathroom time--so we all eat in the cafeteria at the "teacher table".
     
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    I totally agree with Cassie. I eat in my room everyday so I can unwind between classes. I also use it as a chance to call home and chat with my husband. I don't like eating in the teacher's room because of the negative discussions that take place. If we weren't to talk about students and school while there, I may eat there, but I can't stand the other teachers putting students down.
     
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    They put lovely leather couches in our teacher lounge, but teachers have to eat lunch in their classrooms with their students. Only our aides and administration get to eat in the lounge.
     
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    Everyday. I also enjoy the camaraderie. During my lunch period we have several grade levels and I usually don't get to chat with these teachers otherwise. We also have some very interesting discussions.
     
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    Everyday
     
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    Never. I eat in my room, with two of my colleagues. I have a microwave and small refridge in my room.
     
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    How I miss the camaraderie! I'm so excited that I'm having lunch with my mentor on Thursday, it's ridiculous. I'm gregarious by nature so this whole teaching at home thing is occasionally more isolating than I can handle. Luckily the folks at the coffee shop don't mind when I head in there to verbally deflate.
     
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    Pretty much everyday unless I have a meeting or things to catch up on in my classroom. I like to get away from my classroom for a bit.
    Plus I like the ladies who are there!
     
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    I eat with my coworkers every single day. The crowd at my table alternates bringing in something-- popcorn for the micro, pretzels-- for a while last year I had a big tub of chocolate covered pretzels that we enjoyed together.

    Our conversation, like Hoot Owl's, ranges from family and kids to the kids we teach to the weather to just about anything under the sun.

    It's a nice part of my day-- a time when I can stop being "Mrs. A" and just be "Alice" for 38 minutes.
     
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    We can't. We have to eat with the kids in the cafeteria.
     
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    I never have. I need the work time too much and I never bring lunch anyway. I do make a point of going in and saying a few friendly words though.
     
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    We don't have a lounge and we all have to eat with our class. Therefore, never :p
     
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    This would be a deal breaker for me--time to look for a new job. :eek:

    Nothing against the kids, just that I need downtime somewhere. Having to try to eat in the deafening roar of the cafeteria would have me a basket case pretty quickly.
     
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    I walk every day with 2 of my colleages for 30-40 minutes of our lunch hour. Then we go to the faculty lounge for lunch. We have a supportive, friendly staff so it's a nice place to go grab a bite, let your hair down for a few minutes. It's also nice to be able to network, pick brains, confer with colleagues you may not see otherwise during the course of the day.
     
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    Each department has a workroom, and we share our English workroom with a few of the special ed teachers and aides. I eat it there most days unless I'm giving a makeup test or have a club meeting at lunch. After five hours straight with students, I need some adult conversation! On Fridays one of the aides fetches take-out from one of the nearby restaurants (she has a period 5 prep). That's always a nice break.
     
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    My alma mater not only had a faculty lounge, they had their own mini cafeteria so they didn't have to deal with the students unless something crazy happened in the adjacent cafeteria (i.e. food fight).
     
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    I eat(and work)in my room. We only have 30 minutes, after lining up it's about 25!! I enjoy visiting, but it is less that I have to take home. I think very few of our staff members eat in there.
     
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    everyday or else I'd be eating my lunch in a boiler room or a closet. Not the cleanest place to be eating. Although I hate that no one is in the lounge when I am. Last year I ate with some of my fav people I work with for lunch.
     
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    I eat in the lounge everyday.
     
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    I eat in the lounge every day. After being at home with my kids for years, I love adult company for lunch. Lately, 2 new teachers have made the conversation louder and louder...but I will continue to socialize. We build up respect for each other and we have professional conversations about the students.
     
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    Not sure how your case of bullying would translate in terms of workplace liabilities in Canada, but here's some information from the UK:
    "Good management is the best way to avoid or deal with bullying issues in the workplace. Trust should be built up and maintained from the start. A good HR department is invaluable as well unfortunatly in small companies where the bully is the company owner this is not possible.
    The phrase "Dignity at Work" derives from European law, whereby harassment and discrimination are examples of unacceptable behaviour which "affect the dignity of men and women at work".

    All employers should put into place an anti-bullying strategy by ensuring that contracts of employment state that this type of behaviour will not be tolerated and confirm that any bullying behaviour will result in disciplinary action.

    There should be a grievance procedure that provides a clear way for the employee to complain and voice their problems. This may not put off the calculating bully but it may deter those who believe that management will not take it seriously.
    All complaints received must be investigated promptly and objectively. Employees do not usually make serious accusations unless they feel seriously upset or aggrieved.

    This investigation must be objective and independent.

    The Employment Rights Act 1996 gives employees the legal right to be accompanied during grievance procedures and disciplinary hearings, but only by a union rep or fellow worker; the former often are too involved with management to be impartial, and the latter are too frightened to come forward and are often threatened by the bully anyway."


    If you truly are bullied or harassed (in my state, certain requirements must exist for such a claim to be legally considered 'harassment') , CG, do you have grievance procedures in your district with which you could address your concerns? We have yearly training on harassment and bullying in my district- I'm sure our state and federal laws differ from those where you live, but it might be worth investigating if your experience 'fits the bill'.
     
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    Every single day!!
    The English Dept. in my school is incredible!!
     

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