I got a new student a few weeks ago who has pretty much had everything that could go wrong happen to him. His mom recently died of a drug overdose, and he was the one that found her. His dad died after drunk driving when he was younger. He currently has no family that really wants to take over as his guardian and is being bounced around between his grandma and and an uncle. The grandma has also been in and out of the hospital since he started attending our school. He's been in 5 schools in the past 2 years, is very far below grade level, and I'm sure his life wasn't great even when mom was alive either. Obviously this poor kid has a lot going on. He's also been in a lot of trouble since he came to our school. He's extremely defiant and will just outright say "no" when asked to do even a simple task such as sit at a table or get out a book. He's been physically and verbally aggressive with other kids on a daily basis and will lie just for the sake of seeing if he can get other kids in trouble. When called out on it typically says something like, "So? You can't do anything to me, I can do whatever I want." I only have him for 45 minutes a day, so it's not a huge stress for me but his gen ed teacher is pulling her hair out. He also often will sit there and yell, "This is dumb, I hate school" etc. during classroom activities, which is disruptive to everyone else. Luckily the admin will let us send him to the office (I've been in schools where that wasn't an option), so he can be removed when he's impacting everyone's learning, but as far as a consequence he doesn't really care about going to the office or missing recess. We found out he liked helping the younger kids and worked out a system where he could help in kindergarten if he completed a task first. He's earned the reward twice, but if he's told he can't go when he hasn't earned it, he throws fits all day and is worse than ever. We're starting a new behavior plan next week. Anyway, our school psych is getting upset with everyone because she thinks we're not sympathetic enough to his situation when we discipline him for his behavior. She doesn't want him in the office. I don't really know how I feel about this. Obviously, of course there are valid factors behind the behavior and he has more going on than any kid should have to deal with. But I'm not sure it's helpful to just let him slide on everything either, especially when it involves aggression with other students. I've talked to some of his previous teachers and none of this behavior is new. The psych points out that it's not new because even before the death of his mom, obviously things weren't great at home then either. How much do you think a kid's home life should influence expectations at school?