After a relationship of over two years, my bf and I finally decided that we weren't meant for the long haul together. It was a tough decision, and even though I am confident it was the right choice, it is still hard. None of my friends have been through a breakup in their adult lives, so I'm not quite sure where to go from here. For how much longer can I expect to be surprised by sudden attacks of sadness about something I miss? If you've been through a long term relationship ending, how long did it take to be "over" it? I know it takes time, but I just want to know when my life will feel normal again. (Or new normal, I suppose.) Also, how long would you recommend as a healthy wait time before starting to date new people? Please don't think me insensitive for looking ahead so soon-- even though we only broke up a few days ago, I already had someone mention a person I should meet. That naturally got me thinking. I'm certainly not feeling up to it yet, and I want some time to regroup emotionally-- I don't want to try too early only to find out that I can't handle it yet, but I also don't want to spend too much time being unsure. I know this is really one of those "different for everybody" situations, but if anyone has been through it, your sharing would be valuable to me. Thanks!