How do you handle it when students tell lies to their parents?

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  1. heavens54

    heavens54 Connoisseur

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    It's a long story, and a he said, she said. But once the parent buys in to what the child is saying, how do you, as a teacher, turn it around and save the situation?
     
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    Can we perhaps have a little more info other than "he said she said"? That way we can best advise.
     
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    czacza Multitudinous

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    Is it a lie about you?
     
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    Is it a lie or does the student perceive the situation differently than you?
     
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    I don't know the details, but having been in a similar situation before, I would tell my side of the story, put it into writing if it helps, and affirm that this is what happened from your view. Then let the administration handle it.

    If you are being truthful, there would be ample evidence and it would eventually get resolved. Don't waste your energy on arguing with the parent.
     
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    Not much you can do except say "this is what happened." Don't argue. A parent that is going to argue over such a thing is NOT going to be a parent that will see the truth no matter what you say.

    And have an adminstrator present during any meetings.
     
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    I agree with this.
     
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    If it's a regular thing, I will have the child write a note to their parents in their own handwriting. I keep a copy of the note and ask for one to be returned signed.
     
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    I agree.

    I've experienced this a few times. I refuse to repeat for thirty minutes my report of the situatio. Such meetings accomplish nothing. Here are the facts; this is the consequence.
     
  11. Curiouscat

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    Listen to what the child tells you and document everything. One child lied about me to the parents. I went through my documentation during a meeting and mentioned a few things the child had said about the parents. The parent dropped the subject immediately.
     
  12. heavens54

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    The student has been lying to her parents and making up negative things about me and my classroom. This is a ten year old. She knows better. She'd been giving me attitude all week that kept escalating. Parent decided to confront. I thought she was going to fight me. I just held my ground and told her that these accusations were simply not true.

    I'm just not sure how to fight this, when the parent will almost always choose to believe their children and not want to KNOW that their child is actually making things up.
     
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    New to parent meetings

    If the parent would have fought you on this topic, would you have just kept your ground like you did, or how would you make the true situation clear? I'm going to school for teaching so I haven't had this issue yet! thanks!
     
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    Sounds like (1) you must document, document, document, and (2) get admin involved. Never ever meet with this parent alone again!
     

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