How do you deal with mouthy students?

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  1. Kaley12

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    I was wondering if anyone had any advice for how to deal with students that are constantly rude/mouthy.

    There is a particular boy in grade 9 that I have in mind about this problem. I understand that the teenage years often come with some degree of attitude, but this particular student is just plain rude day in and day out. He always has an extreme attitude and over reacts to everything (ie. when asked to go back to his assigned seat, he'll say it's stupid he has to sit there, he's going to get his parents to call me about how unfair I am, etc). I've already written him up twice for being defiant/disruptive, and also called home.

    I'm not sure where to go from here. I don't want to write up every little thing, and if this behavior was a once in a blue moon thing, then I could deal with it and move on. But it's to the point where it's frustrating to have to have that type of attitude every single day.

    Do you think this is something that is best to ignore and not give him attention he is seeking, or should I come down harsher on him, and deal with his inevitable back-lash?

    Any advice is greatly appreciated!
     
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    1. I wouldn't tolerate this for a second. I'd write him and any student that acted like that up every time. Don't let any student get away with that kind of attitude with you.

    2. Don't talk back with this student.

    3. Always give him a controlled choice. "Would you like to sit in this seat or the seat at the table." It will be less likely to lead to a power struggle.

    4. Were the parents supportive? If so, keep them informed and work with them.

    5. Have a 1 on 1 conversation with the student to let him know enough is enough and it has to stop.

    Don't take this lightly. If you do, soon others might join in. Good luck to you. :)
     
  4. Reality Check

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    "How do you deal with mouthy students?"

    "Get out of my room................now."
     
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    How does the rest of the class react to his "attitude"?
     
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    Kaley12, along with Loomistrout's question, could you give us some more background as to why this may be happening?
     
  7. Peregrin5

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    I agree with some of the previous posters. NEVER ignore it.

    If you don't address it, other students will notice and begin feeling that they have a right to do the same.

    Either write them up every single time (for examples like the one you showed--I think it's best just to not look cowed about it), but if it's worse and outright rude ("You're a stupid teacher," etc.) then Reality check's solution is best: "You're not welcome in this classroom with that tone of voice. Get out." They know where to find the principal's office. Pop them a quick call to let them know that he is coming or out of your classroom.
     
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    I use:
    "You have 2 choices. You can either follow the expectations of this classroom or go to Mr. Vice Principal and explain to him why you refuse to be a productive member of this class."

    Any response to this other than quiet = a trip to the VP.

    In 11 years of teaching, 1 student has made a trip to the VP.
     
  9. Ima Teacher

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    It depends on why the student is mouthy. I have a variety of mouthy students, and each requires a different approach.

    • adult attention seeker--These get mouthy to get my attention, so I have to make sure to give positive attention early before student needs to demand it.
    • peer attention seeker--Often that requires dealing with other students, too. I have one who will do anything to get another's attention, and a few things with ther student worked wonders. (It is similar to my approach with ones who like my attention.)
    • avoidance--My most common mouthiness issue is from avoidance. As soon as they can't do something, they start. It's better to get thrown out of the room than to let people know you can't do something.
    • The PITA--The kids who are just plain mean & ornery are the ones that end up in the office.
     
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    I don't really agree with giving more attention to attention-seeking kids. I think it reinforces their neediness, and causes more problems in the end I think.

    When they act out because they want adult attention, I want them to realize that they will not always have someone at their beck and call to give them attention and it's not okay to react that way about it.

    I think giving all students the same amount of positive attention (only when they deserve it) is the best course of action. But I could be wrong.
     
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    Peregrin, the basic concept with Ima Teacher's suggestion is to meet a student's basic social/emotional needs to the best of your ability. With the way you've presented things, "neediness" is something like a black hole that only gets bigger if fed. On the other hand, my experience has been that "neediness" can be more like hunger: if you feed the student, they get full.

    Of course, we have to go back to the original point of knowing the student. There are some students who might increase their undesirable behavior if given positive social attention, while some may need just a bit to feel better. It all boils down to what the individual needs.

    As somewhat of a side note, there are different forms of "attention." For example, there is a huge difference between a child who likes to perform and be the "center of attention" when compared with a child who needs positive adult interaction. Both of those are often considered "attention," and may even present similarly in terms of problem behavior, but are very different needs. The OP simply hasn't posted enough information for us to know which of those, if either, may apply - or if it's something totally different.

    Finally, as another aside, addressing your last point - I'm just not sure how you've come to the conclusion to treat all students exactly equal. If you have a student who comes from a family background that is full of love and positive social interaction, and another child who comes from a home with little love and positive interaction, are you suggesting treating those students the same, all for the sake of "getting them used to the real world?" And, because I love medical analogies, would we treat all cancer patients with the same drug simply because "the real world doesn't provide individualized cancer treatment?"
     
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    Thanks for all of the replies!
    Just for a bit more background, I have spoken 1 on 1 with the student after class twice. He is very dismissive and just shrugs off what has to be said. As for his mother, it's not that she wasn't supportive, but she didn't really give the impression that she cared very much. His behavior hasn't really improved since the phone call home, so I don't think much was done.

    When it comes to the rest of the class, there's actually some other "characters" that I've had to work on this semester, but they've really begun to turn things around. I'm actually really pleased with this class' behavior presently, especially compared to the start of the term. The others don't really respond when he gets mouthy, which is partially why I've started to simply ignore him. I don't want to do anything to "rile" up the others, if that makes sense, since I know they have the potential to be a challenging class, and they've come so far.

    This is also my first time teaching in a high school, so this type of "attitude" is something new for me to deal with. I appreciate all the responses :)
     
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    How would you distinguish between the two?

    Actually, I would argue that yes, you should give them equal treatment. Not for the sake of getting them used to the real world, but simply to reinforce the idea that everyone enters my class as equals. We all come from different backgrounds, and we all have different experiences. If we provide more love and attention to a few students, of course the other students are going to feel slighted or a bit resentful. Maybe they know about the other kids' background, maybe they don't, but they're not at the age to fully sympathize. They will take it as favoritism.

    I think medical analogies work in some sense in what we do, but I don't think it can be applied to everything. And actually the real world DOES provide individualized cancer treatment.

    I guess what I'm thinking more about is ensuring that my classroom feels safe and open to EVERYONE in the class, and that students can come in and count on getting the same amount of attention from me as I give to Suzy even though Suzy has come from a rough home. Honestly, in my experience, I find that the students who come from these backgrounds appreciate it because they don't like being treated differently, being given different expectations as if they couldn't live up to the same expectations as "normal" students.

    I guess I lean more towards the camp of simplifying things and maintaining consistency than chasing after every difference and accommodating for it. That way students know what to expect when they enter my classroom and feel comfortable and safe there. You don't have to treat them EXACTLY equal, but you at least have to appear to.

    If I do know Suzy needs a little more attention, I'd do it discreetly, like a private note to her or something that doesn't bring unwanted attention towards her.
     
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    I've almost always been able to shut down such mouthiness by calling kids out on their behavior privately and then publically if the "chat" didn't take.

    I'm fortunate in that I usually have the ability to remain very calm and phrase my public comments so that the rest of the class sees what a jerk the mouthy kid is being. I don't humiliate, but I remove any positive reinforcement the student may be getting from his disruptive behavior.

    I might say "Look, EVERYONE has assigned seats. I am not singling you out. I need you to sit where I've put you. It is rude to talk back like that and I simply cannot allow that behavior in my classroom. So please sit down and be quiet so the class can move forward. If you need to talk about it more, see me after class."

    When I am completely above board in MY behavior, the student doesn't have a leg to stand on. He can either get mouthier and show his butt to his friends, or he can comply and get on with the lesson.

    USUALLY the students comply. Some students do get angrier, because I've removed their audience from them. I end up having parent conferences then. Sometimes the parents are convinced that I hate their child and it gets me nowhere. I just bide my time until the course is over. Most parents shut down the behavior right away. No one wants to get called in to talk about their kid's behavior.

    I did have one student that just thrived on being a jerk. Nothing I did solved the problem. Other students were begging me to get him kicked out of the class because his behavior was impacting their learning. That's a very profound statement and I had three kids say it to me. One student failed the class (due to his own choices) and I had him again the next year. He was shocked at how differently the class was run. I told him that a class is determined by the combination of personalities that are in it. Not just the teacher. He was in an awesome class that second year and did very well.
     
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    Do you mean how would I assess and figure out which was the more likely situation going on with the student? I would probably look at how the student behaved even with no audience, look at the student's eye direction when seeking the interaction/attention, consider the qualitative nature of the interaction, have a conversation with the student and try to get a sense of purpose of the behavior, and ultimately test out strategies and see which one seemed to have an impact. Probably a few more things too, but those are some ideas off the top of my head :)

    Again, fair is not equal. You wouldn't provide the same types of instruction to two students who needed very different types of instruction, simply because you believe in things being equal. Like you argument about "getting ready for the real world," the real world also isn't fair, and even when it is it's not equal. By 8th grade especially, students should be able to have enough empathy to understand that. If not, some empathy training may be helpful.

    So, I guess my main response is: If they think it's unfair, help them work through that. That's a life lesson better learned at some point.

    Exactly, and the real world treats individuals differently too. Some of us have better social experiences than others, but most of us (as adults) have learned that the world works in that way, and we can't throw temper tantrums because my mom calls my brother more often, one of my friends calls another friend more often than me, etc.

    So, two responses. First, yes - just because a needier students is needier doesn't mean the automatic response is to treat them differently. I think this is what I mean by individualization - let's take it on a case-by-case basis. Maybe one "needy" student does need more adult interaction and support, and another prefers to be treated like everyone else. Rather than approach teaching from a "one-size fits all" situation, let's consider the individual.

    Second, I think classrooms feel the most safe when needs are met, and individuals are treated as the individuals they are - not when they are expected to be just like everyone else. As a student, I remember having a sense of fairness when other students got more academic attention than me because I knew they needed it. Had that teacher not provided that attention to those students, my sense of "fairness" would have been violated because what would have been fair would have been for that teacher to provide needed instruction. I would have been resentful if the teacher attempted spending the exact same amount of minutes with me.

    I think there's certainly benefit to consistency and simplicity, and I would agree with you as a matter of classroom discipline when analyzing the situation on a classroom level. Typically, it's understood that management plans work with 85% (give or take) of students, but that there will usually be outliers. I agree - start simple, but make customize if necessary.

    Again, I think what you're doing here is intelligently responding to Suzy's specific needs. So, you're individualizing if that's what she needs, which I agree with.
     
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    That's where you have to know the kids.

    What works for Student A may not work for Student B. and what works for Student A may not be appropriate for Student B either. I need to give them what they need to be successful. That's not the same for everybody. It would not be very fair to most of them to treat them equally in all situations.
     
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    This is a key factor when determining whether ignoring is a strategy to try. If the peer group is yukking it up gesturing "cool" ignoring is not likely to extinguish the behavior because bootleg reinforcers (rewards from peer group) are more powerful than the teacher's attempt at ignoring.

    Whatever strategy you choose to implement with any discipline problem consider asking yourself, "Is what I'm about to do likely to make this problem larger or smaller?" Along with this is a mind-set which dominates choice of action towards using the least amount of discipline to get the job done while keeping it as private and invisible as possible. Fact he shrugged you off during private one-on-one is significant. He knows darn well you saved him from public embarrassment in front of peers. He is probably used to the opposite.
     
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    @Ed: I think we may be thinking about different things here then.

    I think that students need the same behavioral expectations period. When they enter your classroom your rules are set, and you're going to expect EVERYONE to follow them unless they have an IEP explicitly stating that you shouldn't.

    When it comes to instruction however, you do need to differentiate. Those who are ahead will be bored by stuff they already know. Those who are behind will have trouble with things that are too advanced.

    In the memory you mentioned, I personally would be very uncomfortable spending such a different amount of time with a particular student, even if that student was having trouble, than with the rest of the class. The profession of teaching then becomes being a private tutor for one or a few students while you essentially baby sit the others because they can do the work for themselves. I think the individualization that should take place should be in the curriculum, not the percentage of time you spend with each student. Tasks can be altered so that some students will be able to be successful and be able to learn within the time that you are spending with them, and the time they personally take to figure it out. Perhaps yes, another student requires more time with you, however I think that time is best given outside of the normal classroom setting. Allowing students to come after school or during lunch for extra help.

    I agree when you say classroom management plans are only so effective. They simply aren't enough on their own. But you should still adhere strictly to it. The rest of what is necessary includes building rapport, respect, and influence. And in this matter it may be necessary to take extra steps with specific students to build that rapport, respect, and influence.

    So I think individualization is necessary. I am by no means saying every single person needs to be treated exactly the same, but there need to be constraints on how its done. If every time I had a student who was misbehaving and breaking the rules, and I had to go into my mental file for that student, take into consideration their entire past, their socioeconomic status, any personal issues they may have, and then make a weighted judgment decision on exactly what action to take, the whole class would NEVER get anything done. They know the plan, you know the plan, if you stick to it, you hand out a consequence and move on with your day without even having to think about it. The more you think about it the more stress you're put under and the more the class becomes unruly.
     
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    I agree not in all situations would it be appropriate. However I do think it's appropriate to provide them the same consequences, and the same time spent with them. But perhaps student A needs some positive attention and student B just needs a bit of homework help. You are individualizing the content of your interactions with them which I think is a better course of action than simply spending more time with another student.
     
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    Peregrin, a few thoughts in response:

    - I've mentioned this before, but I'm wondering your thoughts on my comment that an IEP is relatively arbitrary and not the only signal that individualization should occur? This is particularly true given that rules for who is and is not given an IEP are relatively arbitrarily determined.

    - I think we both agree that consistency with a behavior plan is good in general, but where we disagree is that some children may have needs that aren't covered by the class plan and that a teacher should do what s/he can to address those needs through individualization (even when no IEP is in place, and even if it means modifying the group plan).

    - In terms of individualization via different amounts of time, what's the limit of how much time a teacher could spend differently with various students before they've crossed that line? If a teacher spends an extra minute providing extra instruction to a student 1:1 in the classroom context while students practice work independently, is that teacher expected to provide one minute for every student? Or is okay for that teacher to spend the extra minute only on the student who needs the extra time? If 1 minute is fine, how about 2? 5? 10? In other words, your rule seems to be defined not by student need, but a principle of equality which states that equal dosages of time should be given to all children under all circumstances. Or, aside from IEPs, would you allow for exceptions?

    - So, to be clear, your policy now is that you would - 100% of the time - enforce every element of your classroom plan with 100% of students, even in the face of clear evidence that it wasn't working with a particular student?

    - In general, I'm sensing a thought pattern with you that responds to specific experiences by creating global rules that may be a bit over-generalized, perhaps in your attempt to create a mental safety net of perceived stability via clear rules that are very understandable and always true. In other words, nuance can be frustrating and uncomfortable because there aren't always clear answers, whereas hard-and-fast rules (e.g., never modify a classroom management plan for individual needs, always give the same consequences to every student) are much easier to understand, creating a (perhaps false) sense of safety in the area of discipline. Put another way, one of our fundamental human drives is to make sense of the world around us, because that helps us protect ourselves from things like danger and stress. I wonder if you are in a rush to create hard-and-fast rules out of a desire to make your teaching world utterly predictable and knowable, particularly as pretty smart first year teacher?

    The reason for my last comment is that I really respect your insight, intelligence, and constant desire to grow, but I've noticed over the past months that you've responded to challenging situations by attempting to create these golden/global rules which most teachers probably would say don't really exist.

    As an example, though I haven't heard you describe this pattern with yourself particularly, I've frequently seen with 1st year classroom teachers that they are either 100% about being the student's friend, or 100% about being the strict disciplinarian. Many first year teachers can't understand the nuance of combining a supportive relationship-building approach with a firm discipline policy, so they go "all the way" in one direction or another. Typically, over a couple of years, these choices become instructive and those maturing teachers learn from mistakes. Teachers learn that these all-or-nothing responses may help them feel more secure about their role as a teacher, but actually inhibit the teacher from being as effective as possible.

    I bring this up because, on this forum, we often challenge each others' thoughts, but not really our thought processes, and I think there are certain patterns of thinking that tend to be more helpful than others. As an example, some folks chose discipline strategies because it's what they personally believe in or personally experienced, not because those strategies have the best probability of working in the given context. In that situation, challenging a teacher's discipline strategy is not very effective because the issue isn't the strategy, but the reasons why the teacher chose the strategy, which will lead the teacher to continually making poor choices in each subsequent situation.

    With you, I don't get the sense that you are choosing strategies because you experienced them as a child, but I am getting the sense that you are choosing strategies because they may be predictable and safe, which - if it becomes a pattern - may impair your ability to reason through more ambiguous situations that require more nuanced thinking, and may lead you to stubbornly attaching yourself to self-imposed principles/standards that aren't really based in actual experience.

    Thoughts?
     
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    What this would mean is that I would follow the IEP because I am required by law to follow it. That would be the main reason that students with an IEP would be an exception.

    I'm glad you used the term "principle of equality", because that's how I would see it. I'm not too worried about providing an exactly equal experience every single time, but my principle would be to try my best to provide equal attention to all students in my classroom.

    As you stated a classroom management plan will not work 100% of the time. However the importance with a classroom management plan is to uphold it as close to 100% of the time as you can. I would continue to hold that student accountable according to the management plan, but I might seek other options in addition to my plan to help the student succeed. The behavioral expectations would remain the same, and I am holding the student to those expectations. A classroom management plan in this sense is something as simple as the rules of the classroom, and the consequences that take place upon infraction of those rules.

    I don't think one should be 100% a students' friend or 100% a students' disciplinarian, but one should have as you stated a firm discipline policy. Having a firm discipline policy means sticking to it. However that doesn't mean one cannot build a positive relationship with a student by giving them meaningful praise and support and making your classroom an engaging place where students can feel successful. So I'm not all or nothing, but I decide where I should be all or nothing. I think your management plan in one place where you should maintain consistency once you have a plan that works for most students. The more important thing is that they see that you have a plan and you will keep students accountable for their behavior in your classroom.
     
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    I'm a big supporter of standard rules and procedures. I have a procedure for everything, and I reinforce them daily. I rarely have issues. There are standard consequences as well, although with the expectations in place, I rarely need to use them.

    I'm surprised that you only modify for students with an IEP. We differentiate for abilities, learning styles, and other needs with or without an IEP. It's expected.

    Do you literally keep track of every minute spent with each child and assure that you spend equal time with each? What if a child needs extra help? Too bad? No time? Track time for the child and give the others that much time, too? What if they don't need or want it? :dizzy:

    How long have you been teaching?
     
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    Let me clarify: I mean to say that I would only alter my rules and consequences if an IEP required it (the only case in which that might happen I think would be if a student needed to blurt out or get out of their seat often, because my rules are pretty standard.)

    As you said, I of course differentiate instruction for all students.

    And as I said, I do my best in the classroom to give everyone equal attention. I may not even give them all equal attention in the same day, but I want to make sure that every student in my classroom feels valued equally. But it is just a principle I have. I do not literally keep track of every moment I spend with students. And if students require extra instructional time, I make myself available during lunches and after school.

    Also I have only taught for this year. I never stated that my methods or ideas were correct, but I did want to share them, and clarify them for anyone who may be confused about what I mean about what I'm saying.
     
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    I would also only alter my classroom rules for students with documentation. Students aren't allowed to eat in my classroom. But pregnant and diabetic students get a pass, with their 504s.

    I write up any student that leaves class without permission. But there have been a couple of students with documented behavior problems that were allowed to leave when they felt overwhelmed.

    My rules are basic. Anyone that would need to break them would surely have severe enough of a problem that they would have paperwork to explain why they did not have to follow them.
     
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    Thanks Peregrin. So, I think we probably know where we disagree :).
     
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    As I said, I don't know for sure if my way is right. I'm simply trying it out at the moment. You are right that my decisions in management have been a result of my experiences.

    It seems like I've tried everything and changed everything to meet everyone's needs, and nothing was working. The one thing I didn't try was to stop changing everything and find one plan, even if it's not perfect, and stick with it for a while, and I've finally been seeing results.

    It's not perfect, but it's a place to start. A couple of posters on this board have advised me to stop making too many frequent changes, and consistency is such a large part of classroom management. As someone who likes to change to meet the weather when at all possible, it is VERY difficult for someone like me to maintain the resolve to follow through with my management plan in almost every situation, so I've been adamantly defying any advice that would result in a lack of resolve with my management plan, because it would ruin my experiment.

    As I said, once I get to the experience level of you and some other teachers, and my mental RAM is freed up a bit, I can start giving more mental computer memory to thinking about meeting every specific students needs, but if I try it right now, I will be running around like a chicken with its head cut off.

    I don't think I've ever had better control of my classroom than I do now. It's still tough, because I was not consistent at the beginning of the year. I would follow my rules sometimes and do what I thought was best for a child another time even if it meant breaking my rules. It didn't work, and I had classes that took advantage of me, didn't respect me, resented me, no matter how much effort I put into my teaching. So now, yes, I have a lot of control, but there are a few who are now resentful because I've become a lot stricter in following my rules and procedures.

    Once following rules becomes old-hat and it's something that they expect each day in and day out, as business, it will be easier to build my personality into my teaching and open up more to them. Next year, if I do it from the get go, and face all testing attempts head-on, there will be no disappointment session in the year in which they think they have run of the classroom and find out that they don't.

    I honestly think it makes students happier, feel safer, and more cooperative if you stay consistent. As Fred Jones says: There is no mostly consistent. You either are or you aren't.

    If you allow students to break a rule even once without a consequence because you think it will avoid conflict with a student or make them happier with you, then you are no longer consistent.

    I will continue to keep your ideas and thoughts in mind as I continue to teach however.
     
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    I do think experience will help a lot. I'm 20 years in, and I do things much differently now.

    Are you putting rules and procedures in the same category? My rules don't change. My procedures do. They're not the same.
     
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    I change up my procedures sometimes if they're not working out, but the only consequence for breaking a procedure is practicing it again until they get it right. Rules are things I just will not permit in my classroom because it interferes with instruction or is rude.
     
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    I think that's very respectable Peregrin, and I think there is something you're describing here which I didn't necessarily hear before (maybe you said it, and I just didn't get it): that you haven't necessarily decided on lifelong rules, but are simply sticking to a plan for a period of time because you are giving it time to work. Now THAT I think is really important - consistency with a plan (whatever the plan) is different from just consistency as a strategy within the plan (e.g., always giving the same consequences to every child). As you continue with your plan and continue noticing its effect, I would encourage you to examine which element(s) are having an effect - is it that you are treating everyone the same (for example), or is it that you are simply being consistent with something. Like I said before, people like predictability because it increases safety. I would venture to say that a consistent plan with some ineffective elements might be better than an inconsistent plan with better elements. So, be open to the fact that what's working may not be every strategy you're using in particular, but just that you are using some strategy consistently.

    (As a related side note, one issue with evaluating the effectiveness of a package of interventions/strategies is that you may not know which elements were the "active ingredients," and even if some elements caused regression that was masked by a particularly helpful strategy. So, just because an intervention package or group is working doesn't provide evidence that every single component is effective).

    Along the same lines, I do think classrooms are different and may respond to different strategies. I think my main disagreement before was in the creation of a global rule that you believed was applicable across all classrooms, schools, kids, etc. I can definitely agree that your strategy of consistent enforcement of rules may be working in your particular classroom.

    All of that being said, I apologize for whatever role I may have played in advising you to switch up so much. Because it's the internet, we often don't really give specific advice to a person, but just to an idea or particular topic. It may have been more helpful to you if some of us had recognized we were giving so much different advice over the months and inadvertently advising you to constantly try new things at the cost of inconsistency. It's definitely a delicate balance - how long to stick with something that isn't working (for sake of consistency), yet be open to change and continuous improvement.

    Sounds like you've settled into a positive groove though...
     
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    Hmmm. His mother doesn't seem to care much about him. You, as an adult do--if he acts out.

    Seems to me he's happy with any attention, and here's the bad part, he's happy for negative adult attention which he can gather with little effort that also feeds his ego.

    One trick I used this year was to pull the student aside, explain that the other student's were following his lead--he was, like it or not, the leader of the pack. Which is my job. He can help or he can hurt.

    I need help. I ask for it. This is a direct clear challenge to stud up and be mature. I make that really, really clear. If he ain't helping he's hurting and I want him to succeed and I want everyone in the class to succeed. If they agree to help (sealed with a handshake) then I have to provide clear feedback when they are helping by saying "Thanks for the help today" as they walk out the door OR even by asking for help during class in the form of a direct question (answerable) to that student prefaced by "Billy, can you help out here?".

    As a protech teacher this really works well for me. In straight academics I think it may work as well.
     
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    As a substitute I have this problem a lot! I come in to the classroom and they automatically think, "Free DAY!" But in reality even though I work in guidance in high school I have two degrees. So I have zero tolerance for misbehavior. If one warning is not enough, I simply send them out, however the problem with that is there is no promise they will go to the dean. SO in those cases while I am "ignoring" the student I am emailing the dean to come and escort them out and to their office, or giving them a heads up about the student needing to be spoken to.

    If a one on one talk with the student does not work (and some times it does), I would begin writing them up for every infraction. Eventually the student will see that the constant trips to the dean or detentions are not worth the behavior, or it will snowball and they will find themselves out of school.

    Now one situation I did have, was I substituted for the same class rather frequently and had the same problem child. After repeated attempts to re-direct him to the assignment I called him to me and told him in the most basic terms that this behavior was not going to stand and that I knew he was brilliant and was capable of completing the entire assignment if he put his mind to the task. I also told him that I try to go into every classroom with an open mind and respecting students, and that he should treat me the same way, I had not earned anything but his respect. After we chatted I did not see him for a while but when I did he politely greeted me, smiled at me and has been one of the best behaved students I have seen. It was inspiring.
     
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    :lol::lol::lol::lol::lol:


    Out of all seriousness though... doesn't the administration rather problems not make it to the office? I remember a substitute teacher saying that. He said that it shows administration the teacher has no classroom management skills.
     
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    Well, you're right about the administration not wanting to get involved. Administrators by their very nature are lazy and detached from what really goes on their own school. So, I don't send them to the office. I'll even tell the kid, "I don't care if you roam the hallways, head to the cafeteria, or whatever, I want you out of here now."

    The method to my madness is if they are caught roaming the hallways, an administrator then HAS to deal with it. And if the administrator walks the person back to my door, I tell them, "I've done everything I can reasonably be expected to do. I have 32 other people in here that I have to look out for. They're on task and they deserve better than to have one person disrupt the entire class for their own benefit."

    If it so happens that the kid doesn't get picked up in the hallways, he's out of my room for the balance of the block.......which is all I wanted in the first place.
    :cool:
     
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    I don't think the administration is lazy. But every kid you sent to the office
    - loses instruction
    - has to take up time from administration
    - often sits in the office with secretaries who have work to do and now they have to supervise this student

    What if every teacher sent 1 student to the office in every class period? that wouldn't work.

    I also don't agree with the attitude of 'I don't care where you go, what you do, just get out now'. You're giving permission for any kid to leave who doesn't want to do the work, or listen to you. This kid may be bothering other classes, making noise in the hallways, go into other classrooms, ditch school.
    What if he left, something happened to him and you were the last person seen him alive? and you sent him out of the classroom, without anyone else being able to check on him? You're sending the wrong message, possible enabling a dangerous situation and you're losing authority.
     
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    Kids like that couldn't care less about instruction...they're straight "F" students.

    Administration may or may not deal with the kid...if they do, it's their job.

    Secretaries go right on with what their doing and barely notice anyone waiting.

    If he/she bothers other classes, they get rounded up.


    "What if he left, something happened to him and you were the last person seen him alive? and you sent him out of the classroom, without anyone else being able to check on him?"
    Spare me the melodrama, please. :spitwater:
     
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    This is not melodrama.
    I'm just thinking of what could happen at my school. One student got shot on his way home from school. This was a regular, after school going home event.
    We have a procedure (even before that happened they had this) that if a student is sent from a classroom, they call the other classroom on the radio. Anytime a student is going somewhere, we call on the radio.
    ' sending XY to the office" "xy is going to classroom A" This way if the student is not going where he's supposed to, or is taking his time, we're aware.

    As far as kids not caring about their grades, I get that. I have quite a few. But as an educator, it's my job to model the attitude that they should care about their grades, and at the very least, I am concerned about their education. I am going to try and care and try some more, even if the kid doesn't care.
     
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    Honestly, I've never felt that it was fair for one student to disrupt the instruction of the other students. As a sub I don't feel comfortable kicking kids out of the class, but as a student I recall many teachers using this method if a student was being incorrigible.
     
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    I can relate a lot to this because I'm a new teacher working contracts and hoping to get a permanent position. I try really hard not to rely on the office for behavior issues because I don't want them to think I can't manage my students or make it seem that I'm dumping my "problems" on them. The only times I have ever sent a student out of the room (they go to a detention room usually, not the office) is when they definitely cross a line (there were 3 times this year I had to do this - the students were completely defiant and speaking very inappropriately to me, and I couldn't give the rest of the class the impression this was acceptable).

    However, I do wish it was easier to send students out of the room without worrying if it will reflect negatively on me. I don't want them missing lessons, but I also don't want them disturbing others and disrupting their learning (and my teaching).

    For example, today I had a student throwing pencils at other students to bug them. I told him to stop and when he continued a bit later, I told him he would go to the office if I saw it one more time. I then told him to pick up every pencil/marker, etc that was on the floor that he threw. He became incredibly mouthy and spent the remainder of the period grumbling about how stupid the class is and so on. I would have loved to just get him out of the room but there was about 20 minutes left in the day and again, I don't want to bog the office down. I already spoke to his mom about his attitude (with no improvement), moved his seat, and spoke to him one on one more than once.

    While I ADORE 95% of my students, it is the few difficult ones that can make my days unbearable sometimes.
     

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