How do you build relationship/rapport with disengaged and/or challenging students

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    I have several of them and am just brainstorming.
     
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    I don't let anything they say bother me and I never hold "grudges". FoR example- if a kid walks out of class I will be just as bright and cheery when I see them the next day. I'm also very polite. Challenging kids usually have issues with people in control, so if I need to correct someone I do it very nicely. Ex- "hey how you doing today? How are your classes? So you know you're not supposed to be on your phone, right?"
     
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    Sometimes you won't be able to. That's just because every kid is different, and when one person cannot build a relationship anothe might be able to.

    But I think a very important way to connect is to learn about the STUDENT. What they like, what they feel, what they do well. And what they DON'T like. I sometimes think that we tend to forget that just because students are YOUNG, they are people too, and have opinions and likes and dislikes.

    In one class I subbed for there was a boy who was not very respectful and who seemed to just ignore what was going on in class. He DID finish his assignend work, but then sort of tuned out. I noticed that he had with him a notebook that he had pretty well filled with drawings. And I noticed that it was almost full. I noticed that when he dropped the book when gathering his things to be dismissed. He had been acting sort of sullen throughout the class period.

    But I stopped him when he was leaving, asked about his drawings and asked if he had othe journals to draw in. He said he didn't have one. I had an extra notebook in my briefcase, and gave it to him for his drawings. That kid's face lit up like a Christmas tree. So for that little space of time we connected. I told him about my father, who was a commercial artist, and he actually talked to me with some enthusiasm. I like to think that I connected, if only for a moment.

    Other times I look over the lesson plan the regular teacher has left for me, and try to think of something I know personally that is on topic, and might get the students attention. A couple of things I have talked about are big snakes in Florida, giant spiders, how scary it must have been for our immigrant ancestors to cross the ocean looking for a better life, the colony collapse disorder of honey bees, why it is important to learn math so you are not cheated at the store, that EVERYONE is a taxpayer, even the youngest person (buying something and paying tax) and othe topics that fit in with what is being studoed in the class. When I am able to come up with such ideas I ALWAYS connect with the kids.

    I have even showed kids how to feel their pulse, and why it is important to have a cool-down after PE. AND that time I actually saw one of my students showing another student how to feel her pulse, outside after dismissal. So, I not only got that kids attention, but I made her a 'teacher' herself!

    The only way to get involved with the kids is to be involved yourself.
     

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