Hi! I haven't posted here in awhile, but I do very much enjoy everyone's insight and input. This is my 6th year teaching ~ and my 3rd in 1st grade. I have been working with the same assistant and she is a VERY sensitive woman in her late 30s. She will cry when her son (also in grade 1) has to change his color on his behavior chart ~ infact she did this quite often last year and she will also cry when he has a bad day. I try mu best to support her, as her husband is a cancer survior and that, needless to say, has affected her mood! She is VERY much a woman who needs/wants to be included and imvolved in everything. If, at the spur of the moment, some coworkers and I set out for coffee on a Friday afternoon and she's not around to be invited, she will be VERY offended if she found out about it. Anyways ~ since the new year I have begun weight watchers. I wasn't telling too many people since I am quite afraid that I will have a rough time sticking with it!!! I've lost 8 lbs and am doing fairly well! Anyways, at dismissal on Monday, the other 1st grade assistant commented on how nice I looked. I mentioned my diet and how I was nervous for my Friday weigh in! Yesterday (Friday at school) that same assistant popped her head in my room and said "good luck tonight!!!" My kids were at literacy centers and immediatly MY assistant said "What? What was that about? What does she mean? Is everything ok?" I immediatly said "Oh yeah! Everything's fine!" When I finished my group, trying to consider her feelings, I said "I joined Weight Watchers w/ my husband... and I wasn't telling too many people since I am worried I won't do too well!" She immediatly turned cold and said "Fine. If you don't trust me fine. We just won't tell each other personal things. Fine!" For the rest of the day and afternoon she was cold to me. She also spoke to the assistant in the other 1st grade about how it hurt her feelings that I didn't tell her about my joining weight watchers. I hate, hate, hate, hate this kind of stuff. I hate that I am wasting your time with this! But I honestly don't know how to proceed with her. I am VERY considerate of the feelings of others, but it honestly had never come up with my assistant! She comes to work right at 7:30 when the kids come in and leaves right at 3:15! I have no prob with that, but it leaves little time for socialization. Not to mention when I got engaged a year ago and asked her to keep it between us, she told a few teachers. Anyways ~ I don't know how to handle this. I am NOT one to play the whole power struggle (her the assistant, me the teacher) stuff. But I can NOT thrive when my assistant is being cold and is downright snubbing me. I hate awkward enviorments. Truly, I believe this is her issue. Any and all advice would be appreciated. Thank you so much.