This is the first year I've experienced the holiday blues. It started Christmas Eve day and went the next 24+ hours. Actually things started before then, but the real avalanche was Christmas Eve Day. I wanted to bake Christmas cookies and planned to make a couple pies for the family get-togethers. Then Sweets asks me to help with the move of his office, and what I thought would be about 45 minutes turned into more than 2 hours. Then the pie recipe took longer than I planned so I didn't get it done in time. The kids were late being dropped off AND they hadn't had showers so we were rushed to get that done and make it to Mass on time. We finally get there and Mass took FOREVER (which is saying something as I am used to long Masses.) Then the orgy of greed came down. It took 4 children an hour and a half to open gifts. I had a glass of wine too many and was tired and cranky. Then the adults started exchanging gifts BUT NO ONE TOLD US WE WERE DOING THIS!!! It was supposed to be only a gift card exchange so that's what we planned for. We didn't buy gifts for all the adults in the family. And I love my future MIL2 (she is the sweetest lady) but her gifts are rarely anything I would ever use. This year I got a hideous door mat. So at this point I an feeling guilty for feeling like a thankless, ungrateful b*t*h. And to make me feel even more guilty when we open stockings she has put more than $200 dollars in gift cards and cash inside. By the end of the evening I am tired and frustrated and feeling guilty and have a splitting headache. The next day we go over to my family's for Christmas 2.0. Ours is a much more modest celebration; the gift exchange took less than 30 minutes. My parents were very kind and gave us $100 to amazon. I also got a scarf and he was given some smoked salmon. Afterward there was food set out and some siblings came by the house later so we played games. That was it. Suddenly I feel like my family looks really...I don't know what compared to the overwhelming generosity of his family. This is all entirely my hang up. Sweets has never said a thing against my family or there financial levels of giving or anything. In fact he was quite upset about the adults in his family "breaking the rules" and gifting outside the gift card exchange. And he agrees the door mat is ugly. He even said it first when we got home. Next we head up north to see his family there, and while I expect the gifts to be fewer and more balanced I just want this season over. Can someone please tell me when Superbowl Sunday will be so I have something else to focus on?