Help! I need some new behavior management ideas.

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  1. texteacher

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    So this is my 2nd year teaching. Last year my class was very sweet and I rarely had to deal with arguments and people saying nasty things to each other. This year, they always fight and bicker about everything. They are always in each other's business. I am lost as how to make them stop. This week was truly awful. I felt like everything that could go wrong did go wrong. I don't know if it is the fact that we just got finished taking a two week long standardized test or that the weather prevented us from going outside for recess, but I really thought I was going to pull my hair out. I always try to praise the people who are doing the right thing and give positive attention and rewards but that isn't working. I also use the behavior system where kids change their color (that is a school wide discipline management program so I can't change that). How do you help students stop the arguments and stay out of each other's business? It's really only like 5 kids but they are so bad about it that it brings the whole class down and makes everyone miserable.
     
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    Anybody?
     
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    My class was beginning to have these issues as well. I took my social studies time for the week and we did a lot of community building revolving around the Golden Rule. We read books about the golden rule, created a huge class banner that says "Treat Others the way you want to be treated" and practiced what we can say to people when they don't treat us the way we want to be treated. I found that it has helped. When these disputes ensue, I point to the Golden Rule on our wall and they really do stop and think about it.
    Other than that, it sounds like perhaps you could do more direct instruction on interacting positively with peers. Role playing? Developing language and phrases to use when people aren't treating them nicely etc.
     
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    I was thinking about doing some role playing and giving them more appropriate language to use. We did practice how to say a proper apology..which seems to have helped a little. Hopefully things will change!
     
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    Sounds like a really good idea! Let me/us know how it goes.
     
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    I'm not sure I understand how the color changing behavior system works, but I would recommend focusing on the positive aspects of it. In other words, use it constantly to recognize and spotlight those who are doing the right thing.

    I would also suggest the bucket filling program. I introduced that into my classroom in January, and it has made a huge difference in the way the class relates to each other. At the end of every day, the kids get a chance to verbally appreciate each other, and I have them put slips that say "You are a bucket filler, great job" in each others' buckets, which are really just envelopes with a picture of a bucket and the child's name on it taped to the
    front wall of the classroom. This tangible visual of the good things they do for each other inspires them to be kind to each other. It has definitely promoted an excellent culture of kindness in my classroom.

    When I say that I introduced the program, I mean that I simply read the book to them, discussed it, and taped up the envelopes. https://www.bucketfillers101.com/home.html



    Good luck.
     
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    SchoolTeacher...I'm actually now on our PBIS committee just because I recommended that particular program and then later I went to another school and saw some other things and brought it back to our school. I'm hoping that they get the materials for the bucket fillers. I don't need it this year but if I do next year, I will not be waiting! I've heard a lot of good things about it on here.
     
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    I read my class the book "Mr. Peabody's Apple" by Madonna. It's about spreading rumors and being careful about what you say. It really made an impact!
     
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    Sounds good. Iwant to buy some of herbooks but, they are kind of pricey.
     
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    I made a large heart out butcher paper. Then we sat in a circle and passed around the heart. Each person got to say one thing hurtful that someone has said to them and they tore off a piece of the heart. We talked about how "broken" our hearts were when people said mean things to us. Then we went back around the circle again saying something kind we could tell a person and when they said something kind they had to tape their piece back on our heart. In the end our heart was back in the shape of a heart but we could still see that damage had been done. I hang this at the front of my classroom as a reminder and refer back to it often asking if we are breaking our classroom heart or helping to build it back.

    Another idea is to teach the class to use "A bug and a wish" It bugs me when you.....I wish you would.... just one way of resolving a problem without name calling and fighting. It bugs me when you poke me with your pencil. I wish you would leave me alone while I'm working.

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    I like the classroom heart! I'm sharing that with our behavior specialist. Nice!
     
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    Here is an idea I used for tattling, but you may be able to adapt it to bickering. I used a "Tattle Cup". Start at the beginning of the week and fill it with pennies (or counters, whatever you want). I have 23 kids so I put about 40 the first week, I think. Every time a student would come to me tattling I would say, "You owe me a penny out of the tattle cup." On Friday I would count the pennies and if there was enough for everyone to have one they could use it to "buy" a piece of gum. Make sure that the first week they DO NOT earn the gum. The next week they probably will--mine did. After that reduce the amount of pennies in the cup to start. Eventually I didn't even have to use the cup--I think after the third week. Every once in a while I do have a student tattle and they have to give me a penny but we haven't counted the pennies in months and they never ask why! lol Of course, I would continue doing lessons and talking about being kind to others, but this might be something you could do as well. Good luck! :)
     
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    I like the bug and wish. I will try using that!
     
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    Thanks for all of the good ideas!
     
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    The heart idea is great! I don't have big issues, but it never hurts to teach compassion. I like the Have You Filled a Bucket? activities, too.
     
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    I had a similar issue last year (when I taught 2nd grade). Once a week I did a 'Kindness Activity' - every child got a slip of paper and wrote their name on it. The slips went into a brown bag and everyone picked a name out. We sat in a circle and everyone had to say one kind thing about the person they picked. No 'She's nice' or vague comments either - they had to be specific. It took a few weeks for them to get it, but once they did, it was quite powerful.
     
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    I've been doing class meetings once a week. No one can tattle unless someone is physically hurting someone else or someones property or being unsafe. They have to work out their own problems on their own. Also, at the beginning of the year I taught them how to do "I feel statements" They say how they feel, when someone does something and what they would like them to do in the future. For example: "I feel sad when you cut in front of me in line and in the future I would appreciate it if you would stay in your own spot." Then the person who is being given the I feel statement has to respond by saying what they heard and what they will do to fix it. For example " I hear that you feel sad when I cut in front of you and in the future I will stay in my own spot." The kids really like doing I feel statements and it has helped them to express how they feel and why and what needs to be done to fix issues....
     
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    Our counselor did the heart thing today- it was cute. I tried bug and a wish and it worked great!
     

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