Help! Director is A Backstabber!

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  1. Master Pre-K

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    It's your friendly neighborhood Master Pre-K...on a mission to make it thru June.

    I have finally made the discovery that my wonderful director is a two-faced, back stabbing (add your favorite insult here). Whenever she calls me in or steps into my class to say, "How are things going??", it is really an excuse and every darn thing I say and do is used against me. Next thing I know, all the big wigs are dragging me in the office, and saying I said this, and I did that.

    Silly me, I actually thought this woman was trying to help me.

    Any suggestions for making it thru this madness, besides walking around with tape on my mouth?

    And more importantly, how can I get off this merry-go-round of jobs that only want me for my certificate, and not for my brains??

    :help:
     
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  3. runsw/scissors

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    If it were me, I'd go into politely distant mode. If she asked me how things were going, I'd reply, "Fine, thanks!" and leave it at that. If she wanted to sit in on a class she could, but I'd completely ignore her presence.

    You're here for the kids, not the queen. If she has a reputation as a backstabber, others surely know about it as well. Just hold your head high and keep doing a fantasitic job with the kiddies.
     
  4. MissFrizzle

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    I agree! The less you say, the less she can say.
     
  5. pwhatley

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    That's good advice, Master pre-K. I hate that you are going through this yet again! Take a deep breath and tell yourself, it's only a few weeks, it's only a few weeks....
     
  6. Proud2BATeacher

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    MPK, what are your plans for next year? Are you considering staying?
     
  7. bonneb

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    MPK, the advice is right on. Just go into your zone. We all have to have that zone, where we are impenetrable and incommunicado. Smile, wave, reply politely, then get real busy (which I am sure you are anyway), even if no children are in the room, pick up a book and say, "I am just on my way to the copy machine." Stay away from her and be polite. In the zone. Smile and wave. It drives them crazy, but you are not doing anything wrong or anything they can twist to be wrong.
     
  8. Master Pre-K

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    Thanks everyone. I am seriously comtemplating a second career when I turn 50. I think that the field of ECH has changed over the years, with state pre-k and NCLB. It just goes without saying, these programs only want me for my certificate. I am tired of the revolving door. I have yet to find a program that embraces DAP, and respects their Master Teachers.

    Once I complete my Masters, I will consider teaching college. Other than that..I think it's time for something different. I love kids, but the big people keep getting in my way.

    I know the truth...the kids always show me how they really feel. Wherever I go, it is the same. Admin and co=teachers only want puppets that they can control. They just want the money for having certified staff. They are not interested in having me do anything. It is so annoying. They say they hire me to use my expertise, but have no intention of letting me do so.

    I don't feel I am giving up my career, or throwing my away my education. I have circled this mountain long enough, it is time to go somewhere else.
     
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    I totally understand what you are saying MPK. When me and my co-workers told my principal about how stressful and time consuming our misplaced students are, so told me to have more down time in my program and let them play with lego or something. She should be proud that I am trying to teach my students all day rather than pretending that they are in daycare and let them play for most of the day. I think 1 hour of recess and centers per day is long enough...
     
  10. Master Pre-K

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    thanks pw...any prospects for you??
     
  11. Master Pre-K

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    I'll try Frizz...
     
  12. Master Pre-K

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    exactly...all of the staff is going out of their way to catch me doing something! what I don't know. but everywhere I turn, I almost trip over some busybody, "oh hi..I was just doing such-n-such." so now I am making sure I do only what I am supposed to...as if I haven't already...but you know...

    don't want to give out any ammo
     
  13. Master Pre-K

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    wouldn't it be something if one of the kids just busted them all out, and made them look silly??? I could see 'em now!


    "Hey, why are you asking Master Pre-K so many questions? She is a teacher ya know!"
     
  14. Master Pre-K

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    I honestly think it is time for me to hang up the chalkboard Proud...but even if I do...I'll still come here to visit. I want to get up 3000 posts! I seem to have an opinion on everything. :rolleyes:
     
  15. smalltowngal

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    MPK-could they be doing this because you're a new teacher in their school?
     
  16. pwhatley

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    Had a great interview the other day, but won't be able to take it if offered -- 5 floors with no elevator. :)eek:) On the bright side, my current principal (who told me the school was losing positions) has said that he needs to talk with me, but has been unable to schedule the time yet. Not a good time to be one of pwhatley's fingernails, I assure you!

    Like I said, take a deep breath, and keep on truckin'!
     
  17. forkids

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    Master, have you tried working in the public school system? From what I read on here, there seems to be a different atmosphere when the Pre-K program is in the public school system. The pay is MUCH better too, from what I understand.
     
  18. bonneb

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    Or do what my friend did - she went to her church and got permission and support to develop a preschool. She now has 9 classes a week, and the preschool is very respected. It feeds into our elementary school also.

    It is self supporting. A lot of work to develop, but what a great challenge!
     
  19. runsw/scissors

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    I bet you could develop a fantastic program! With all you know, the students would surely be lucky to attend your school.
     
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    I do work in a public school system, and, yes, the atmosphere is 100% different than you're describing. I think being in a PK-5 building and teaming with people from other grades, as well as specialists, makes people automatically treat you more as a professional....no matter that you are doing the exact same thing in another setting.

    I think I remember that you ARE in a public school, though, in a SPEDEC setting??

    Kim
     
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    Ooh I love doing this to people! :p I'm naturally a very sweet person and love helping other people out and getting my own tasks completed on time. However, some people just don't like me--- not at the school I teach, but in general every day life. When I know I have to talk to that person I'll be even nicer to them but avoid sharing details that might make me look bad or show that I'm worried about something. Less they can use against me, the better.

    It's a shame you have to do this, but to keep your nerves and your job it might truly be what you have to do. And something I realize I might have to do as well as a new teacher, especially since my school doesn't have tenure.
     
  22. Master Pre-K

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    It's over now...

    Well, they let me go.

    No warning, no letter nothing.

    Just said they wanted to see me at the end of the day. "We decided it is in our best interests that we end your employment today." No explanation given.

    Do I you have letter telling me why? Do I have a check??

    "You will receive correspondence from human resources."

    I'm just a piece of paper these days...I am convinced that all of these places, public and private only want me for my Type 04 (IL early childhood certificate)

    At least I have a full tank of gas. :unsure:
     
  23. clarnet73

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    That sucks. *hugs* in your direction... I'd say you should come work with me, but *I* don't want to work at my school now, so... ;)
     
  24. Master Pre-K

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    Hey, what kind of social service agency throws a poor teacher out in the beginning of the week in the cold days of May?!

    Sheesh, they couldn't wait 22 days?!
     
  25. runsw/scissors

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    I'm really sorry to hear this Mpre-K. My prayers are with you. It is a stinky situation. Is there some sort of recourse you can take? It seems to me that with unions and all a school can't just start randomly firing its employees without cause and/or any sort of previous communication about perceived problems.
     
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    I'm so sorry to hear the news. I'm sending positive wishes your way.
     
  27. Master Pre-K

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    i haven't found much help with unions either...

    public/private...makes no difference..

    when they want you out...
    out you go
     
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    So sorry, MP. I agree that it is horrible timing, too. Prayers and good wishes are with you, and I am sure that something better will come along.
     
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    Master Pre-K, I don't know what to say. What do these schools want you to be, a doormat/slave so grateful to have their job you will roll over and take anything??? Someone to be hired during whatever inspection is coming up so they pass and then get rid of you?


    I know you like where are living right now, but is there anyway you can just move? I just know my principal meets weekly with principals from other districts. Maybe you are being blackballed? If you do give up teaching, find some place where you can still work doing what love in some capacity. I wish you the best
     
  30. Master Pre-K

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    thank you pw!
     
  31. Master Pre-K

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    honestly ww...I think it is the system...the rules changed when I left school. Now everyone is desparate for a certified Master Pre-K, but they don't want us to do anything! It is a effort in insanity. It is all about money. They won't get paid if I am not on board.

    When somebody finally says to me, "I want you to sit in my class for 7 hrs, but don't do nothing, and you will get paid."

    then I will understand... :unsure:

    but what does it profit a man if he gains the world and sells his soul?

    you know...

    seriously comptemplating medical billing at night, and being an aide during the day...

    finish college and teach undergrad-early childhood
     
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    Really sad when someones life is reduced down to a budget line in a businesses book.

    You do whatever you think is best, but I think you will rock as a teacher of undergrads. Who better to tell them what the real world of work is like??
     
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    I am so sorry to hear this happened to you! Unfortunately I've seen it before in the clique-y center I work at. When they decide they don't like someone or someone is interfering, watch out! It's a shame they didn't use you like the resource you are. Good luck!
     
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    I am so sorry MPK - this really stinks. I totally agree with the timing issue - why not wait until the end of May??
     
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    Sorry to hear that MPK. I think you'll make a great undergrad early childhood teacher. Good luck!
     
  36. Master Pre-K

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    thanks guys...

    somewhere there's a job just for me...
     
  37. Master Pre-K

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    ever go on an interview, and a fight broke out?

    So, I go on this interview...deep in the heart of gang territory.

    Interviewer tells me...get this, because I will post it all over this board..

    "I'm gonna be honest with you, I didn't even know your name...I just looked at your resume and saw TYPE 04 (IL early childhood teacher certificate), and said whoa..I gotta call this person. I didn't even read the rest."



    So she tells me about the job...oh first ..I waited outside to see the circus evolving. Kids everywhere, cook brings in food with cell phone on her shoulder, toys everywhere. No, I would not leave my ex cowokers in this building. (on second thought..) Back in the interview she tells me about the wonderful crew she has taken over, and (uh...wasn't I just on a job like this?) and she wants me to come in and help set them straight..(OMG...I just went thru this) and don't worry if they don't listen because she is going to be there...

    And then

    A parent comes to the door, and two minutes later a teacher comes and a fight breaks between teacher and parent right in the classroom as the kids are on the cots!

    She calls 911

    Tells me thanks, and she will call me later if I am still interested. :unsure:
     
  38. pwhatley

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    All I can say to that is WOW!
     
  39. runsw/scissors

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    I'm guessing you have blocked this school's phone number so that you cannot receive any calls? Either that or are currently running for the hills.
     
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    MPK- So sorry to hear about your job. I know there's a right fit for you somewhere in IL. If not, come back to CA, we have In and Out Burgers here now!
     
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    At least you know up front what kind of place that was. Imagine if everything was okay and the principal lied while you are at the interview, and then you walk into that mess on your first day!
     

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