Having a few drinks to unwind on the weekends

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    Curious, do any others here indulge? If so, how much? I'm just curious, as I like to have about 3-4 mixed drinks, sometimes more, on a Friday and Saturday night after work at home. Do others here like to have a few alcoholic beverages? I know a handful of teachers at my school who actually quit because it got so bad for them but just curious about other's view on intake during the weekends. I wish I could have one or two drinks each night after work but I when I drink I like to "feel" it.
     
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    I have never drank any alcohol or alcoholic beverage in my life. I am completely against it.

    I often drink soda.
     
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    contrary to popular opinion....
     
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    I honestly wish I was like that to where it did repulse me to some degree. I didn't really ever drink until I turned 23. Before that, it was a glass of wine or a whiskey mixer on the holidays and that was pretty much it. I was honestly against alcohol until my family (both parents) as well as other friends in my group started hanging out with our neighbors back then that would binge every Friday and Saturday night. This started to happen and I gave in and joined them. Ever since then, I can go months or so without drinking but it always comes back to want to do it again. I think that was the ignition switch for me.
     
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    Yikes...when I discussed alcoholism (not implying you have it...it is just relevant to the discussion) with a client environmental influences usually motivated the problem. I suggested finding another outlet such as "every time you get the urge to drink alcohol, start drawing". (I have a degree in psychology. I do teach full time, but use most summers to work with a clinical psychology department at a hospital. Before teaching, I had my own "office".)
     
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    I don't take offense at all to what your saying. I do like to drink recreationally but I wish I could turn the clock back to when I was 22. I'm 36 now and wish I didn't feel that urge. I can go long bouts without drinking or drinking lightly but the urge to go beyond that is always there at times, especially after 13 years of teaching math during times of stress lol:)
     
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    My grandpa told me his urges to get drunk finally went away in his 40's and lived a long life into his 90's but not sure about his route. I think I should maybe stop for good but it's so enticing at the same time: Just like many other vices that are enticing, spending large monies at vacations, spending in excess, ect. But we know drinking is probably the worst:(
     
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    In some ways I've even thought about changing careers but I love teaching so much, even though it's so stressful and the drama with other faculty is huge. That's why I like to "unwind" on the weekends. The students are not so bad as much as the other faculty I think that sets a trigger.
     
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    I understand, although will warn you that I have certainly not had the same teaching experience as you. I just realized that you are currently a high school teacher. The last time I taught high school was 1999 or 2000. I did teach regents living environment last summer for high school students who need to retake the exam and/or failed the course....the students were fine and passed the August exam....it was inclusion, although there was no co-teacher.
     
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    That is amazing! They knew you were good and moved you up! Now you are teaching regents, which is really cool. What did you think of high school teaching?
     
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    I teach HS SPED and my drink of choice is classic Coke. I have had an occasional glass of wine, but my dad struggled to keep his drinking under control, and I just feared going down the same path. Alcoholism runs in the maternal side of the family, although my Mom was not a drinker. She had siblings who drank too much, who had children with the same problem. I saw that by my teens, and figured that the odds weren't good if I got started drinking, so I just didn't go down that road. I have friends (teachers) who blame teaching for their drinking, but I suspect they would drink whether they taught or not. I think we all have a vice, something that brings us pleasure. Both parents smoked, but I watched them budget in cartons of cigarettes in lean times and never understood it - my mom wished she had never taken that first smoke, something she shared frequently.

    I have worked with teachers who use any week as a reason to have a "meeting" at Chili's on Friday afternoon. As long as it doesn't interfere with your life over-all, it's a personal decision. On the other hand, if you worry about the urges to get a buzz, you may be thinking it is something "more." I don't judge.
     
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    Oh my gosh Vickilyn, you sound like you are a part of my family!! You have been nothing but kind and supportive towards me! We all smoke, drink, at times I am praying I stop for good. I need to.. I think I need to go back to having a drink on the holidays and not drinking at other times.. because it's so in me and the impulsiveness is insane to drink every weekend and I can't turn it down. Thank you for sharing and being honest. On both sides of my family, there are alcoholics. On my moms dad's side, my grandpa lost 6 of his siblings due to alcohol. My dad's side is pretty much the same. So I should probably cut it down for good:(. I live in a state where other substances are legal (Colorado) but I don't really want to start down that route.
     
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    I also have a genetic family connection to alcoholism, which is why I choose not to drink. My brother was going down the same path and he made the decision years ago to stop drinking. I remember an occasion when our children were young and someone gave us a bottle of wine. Our kids told us to throw it away because drinking it was bad. I guess our feelings about drinking passed to our children really well!:D
     
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    I go out with my colleagues on Friday afternoons for a glass of wine, some nibbles.

    During the week, I occasionally have a glass with dinner.
     
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    Every profession has a trigger when someone has the urge to drink alcohol. You definitely have a problem with alcohol if your emotional needs turn to the need to drink to get drunk. There are different types of alcoholism. Teaching isn't the problem. The problem is the fact that you have urges for alcohol to address stress.

    The positive to this discussion is that you realize it isn't beneficial.

    I just read more of your posts. You might want to consider treatment if the urge is that strong. I have relatives that swear by AA and others that don't like it. I have relatives that sought counseling rather than AA. Fighting your demon will require constant will power and a mindset change. I wish you the best.

    The positive is that those who fight alcohol can avoid it and live. Those who fight food must eat to live.
     
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    I’ll have about half a glass of wine a few times a year. I don’t like feeling tipsy.

    I don’t mind if others drink around me unless they don’t have a designated driver.
     
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    To clarify, it was only for last summer. I realized high school is not for me. (there was actually a thread of me teaching Regents Living Environment with Lab in the summer). I prefer my mid-elementary classroom. To emphasize this fact, I have taught high school English in the late 90s and 2000.
     
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    Since we're confessing, lol, here is mine. Yes, I do have a few alcoholic drinks over the weekend, sometimes the during the week, sometimes nothing at all for a week. I don't go out to drink though. I haven't been to a club for ages and I have never been to bars. (not very classy).
    I used to go salsa dancing 2-3 times a week, and I would have 2-3 Martinis, but I would always dance it off, so it's not like I got drunk. That was years ago though.
    For the past few years my drinking is limited to sitting next to a campfire while I'm camping (pretty much every weekend) or at home after work.
    My dad did suffer from alcoholism, not the kind that leaves you unable to hold on to a job, or live a normal life, or become aggressive. It's just that he drank so much wine / alcohol over the years that he got addicted and his body needed it. He passed away from liver disease almost 2 years ago.

    I don't think my drinking a few drinks a week will ever become a problem. I think it requires an addictive personality, and I don't have it. I could be an alcoholic by now. I crave the taste most of the times, other times just for it to take the edge off. I never want to be drunk, or even buzzed. On a side note, I have a high tolerance to alcohol. When I had my shoulder surgery last year and I was on pain killers for 3 months, I weened myself off, then stopped taking them completely. for one day I felt dizzy, the next day a little weird, and I haven't taken one since. So I just don't think I would have an addiction problem with anything.

    The most important thing to keep in mind is to make sure whatever you do, it does not interfere with your life and those around you.
     
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    3-4 drinks on Fridays and Saturdays is excessive. From a quick Google search, “In general, moderation means ingesting no more than two drinks per day for men and one drink per day for women. ... Moderate alcohol consumption is considered 2 drinks/day for men; 1 for women.”
     
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    Also, you should try to avoid drinking every single day. Remember, everything in moderation, including moderation.
     
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    When I have a drink, I usually have 2, sometimes 3. But for me the first one almost doesn't count, I have a high tolerance for alcohol. On a side note, I don't drink where I have to drive, it's either at home, at my campsite or if someone was driving.
     
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    In college, I would drink every weekend. Just your typical college-type drinking. Since I've entered my mid-20's and been in the profession for 2 years, I just don't have the urge like I used to. A 2-day hangover just isn't worth it. I'm pregnant now, so obviously I'm not drinking at all now, but before this I had about a month-long dry streak. Not drinking alcohol has many benefits to the body!
     
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    I’m not a fan of alcohol. I don’t care for it. I have less than one per year, and that is usually a margarita at the beach if that is where we are on vacation. I’ve never gone out for drinks.

    A lot of that is probably because I have lived most of my life in a dry area.

    My DH doesn’t really drink either. He did when he was in college, but he grew out of that kind of thing.

    We do always keep Makers Mark on hand. I think it is a requirement to keep bourbon when you live in Kentucky.
     
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    Yes, I drink on some weekends. I'm 31 and the club/super crowded bar scene is not as fun as it used to be, but I'm in a pretty casual city where not everything is like that on weekends. I haven't drank to the point of feeling sick that night or hungover the next day in years- it's just not worth it to "lose" a day of my weekend. I drink a b vitamin drink before going out, always have water, and if I start feeling really buzzed I stop drinking, at least for awhile. My limit is about 5 drinks if I'm out for a really long time. For example, yesterday we started around 4 and I went home around 10:30.

    I have major anxiety about drinking and driving and just don't do it- ever. Truthfully all of the "I got a DUI and now I'm not sure if I can be a teacher" posts on this board over the years has majorly contributed to that. I can't imagine losing your entire livelihood! Even in situations where I know there's no way I'm over any legal limit, I just don't do it because it makes me too nervous. I either take an uber or public transit. I live within walking distance to a light rail station, but going downtown via that route takes a long time- at least an hour by the time I walk there, ride all the way downtown, and walk to my final destination. Coming home is even longer because I haven't timed leaving exactly right with the train schedule and end up having to wait for it to come as well. Late at night they don't come very frequently. Uber takes about 20 minutes, but is typically $20 or more. I've also reached a point where I don't want to spend that much time/money on a regular basis!

    I end up drinking about 2 times per month. I don't really "crave" it, but yes I do think going out and having drinks is fun. I've never been someone to have a glass of beer/wine with dinner. I count calories and it's just not worth it to me- I'd rather have more food! I have some beer in my fridge from a party this summer that has been untouched all of these months! If I meet friends for dinner or something during the week, I don't drink because I just don't have time to deal with public transit nor do I want to spend money on uber if I'm not really going to drink that much. As I get older, it's not so much the actual drinking that I'm finding not as fun...it's the dealing with all of the inconveniences that go with it!
     
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    I'll have a drink or 2 if I go out to dinner or out with friends. I love wine and have 3 opened bottles in my fridge right now but they are from Christmas! I guess I can take it or leave it but it's nice to have sometimes.
     
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    I enjoy a glass of wine occasionally, especially to complement some nice cheese and fruit.

    I especially love holiday drinks, like eggnog, particularly in daiquiri form. I rarely indulge, because of calories. But, I do love a nice White Russian. I count calories pretty strictly, so it's a rare occasion.

    Also, because of my blood pressure, I can't take a lot of cold medicines. My nurse friend said the best thing for a sore throat is a shot of whiskey. So when I'm feeling under the weather, I'll make an apple cider and add a shot of Fireball to it. It's delicious, and medicinal.
     
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    I have no problem having a drink or 2 when going out, I won't drink alone and very seldom do my husband and I drink at home.

    Of course, being 6.5 months pregnant right now, it has been awhile since my last alcoholic drink! I really don't miss it.
     
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    Like Teacher234, I don't drink alcoholic drinks & haven't ever in my life either. I don't even drink coffee, except for a sip once to see what it actually tastes like. I stay away from caffeine. I try to not drink much soda either.

    I drink water mostly, then juices, lemonade, and chilled green tea. I'll treat myself w/ a smoothie here & there.
     
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    When I was counting calories (and lost 35 lbs in 7 months) I couldn't afford to have a drink more than once a week. (not money, but calories). I used to have one cheat day, which is not a very good phrase, because I wasn't cheating, still counted and logged my calories, but I allowed myself to have more, even a lot more. So usually on a Friday or Saturday I had 1-2 drinks. I could only do it one night because usually drinking makes me hungry, so I had to account for the munchies as well lol.
     
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    Ms. I and I sound incredibly similar, drink-wise! I've also never had alcohol (nor coffee, really, blech). I will dive into sweets though, as my way of sitting back and relaxing ;)
     
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    mathmagic, right! I can unwind just relaxing at home, dining out, or sitting up relaxing in a movie theatre really. As long as I'm not doing ANY kind of work, ha!
     
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    I think that the choice to drink/not drink depends on many factors. Some families have to worry about alcoholism, others don't. For some it is about the truly occasional drink, at home, not to excess, while for others it is about getting that "buzz". The one thing that most of us would probably agree on is to abstain from drinking and driving. It is just common sense and a great example to set overall. My reasoning is personal, but not absolute - a little champagne, a little wine, or a frozen Strawberry Daiquiri all fall within the realm of moderate. I actually take more grief about the soda from my coworkers than the small amount of alcohol I consume. They point out the calories and the amount of caffeine, both true, but it is the one vice I do indulge in. I refuse to drink anything with artificial sweeteners, mostly because of taste, but also because I don't trust artificial sweeteners, so maybe I am trading one vice for another.
     
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    If you have 3 drinks on Saturday and Sunday that's still only 6 total for the week. So an average of less than 1 drink per day! As long as it doesn't have a negative impact on your health or any other aspect of your life then live and let live.
     
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    GO Chocolate!!!:D
     
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    I'm not a chocoholic, but I'm in the mood for a piece of caramel, chocolate, pecan candy, See's candy, or Snickers here & there. I love that milk chocolate pecan bear at Rocky Mtn Chocolate Factory.
     

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