Have any of you ever had your own child in your class?

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  1. old-new teacher

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    I will be teaching my 1st grade daughter in my classroom this year and I am concerned about it. I have already starting prepping her telling her that I am not "mom" in class but Mrs. Bridges and that she will have to sort of pretend that I am just like her teacher last year. I have concerns, but no choice in the matter as we are in a small, private school and my 1st/2nd grade combo room is the only 1st and 2nd grade classses. If any of you can share insights and give suggestions on how to deal with it, I'd certainly appreciate it.
     
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    I had my dad as my social studies teacher in fifth and sixth grade. I loved it! I must say, he didn't make me call him by our last name. Sometimes I did call him Mr. Dad...but never Mr. Ourlastname. I think the fact that he was such a great teacher and most of the students loved him made this an enjoyable experience. If the students wouldn't have liked him, I'm sure I wouldn't have had such a good experience.

    I'm sure first grade will be a whole different ballgame! When I was in first grade, so was the teacher's daughter...I don't really remember what she called her...I just remember her getting in trouble!!!:eek:
     
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    I'd be nervous, too. I think what you most need to sure of, though, is that YOU treat HER like any other student. Don't be "harder" on her (or more lenient, of course). She will learn very quickly when you are in teacher mode and when you are in mom mode.

    I don't think I'd have my own child call me by my last name.
     
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    I've had several teachers when I was in school whom had their kids in their class and several of my own peers in the same situation. They would call them mom or dad, but did have to raise their hands and follow all the rules to the letter.

    They were not teacher's favorite and had to have their homework no matter what:(
     
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    My dad was my P.E. teacher for 3rd-5th grades, and I loved it! Like Manda, he was well loved by the other students, so that made it easier.

    My daughter's reading teacher had her son this year in 6th grade, and it didn't go so well. The teacher really played favorites with him and his buddies, and the other kids resented her tremendously. Like you, however, it is a small private school, so he couldn't be moved. She would always talk about what an advantage he had over the other kids because he had *her* for a mom. Please.

    I think you'll be fine! It sounds like you've already made things clear to her about your role as mommy vs. teacher. Kids can adapt to anything.
     
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    That would be hard because you couldn't come home and vent about your day/students! Hehe
     
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    In my school you are not allowed to have your own child or even a niece or a nephew.
    We have had the situation arrise several times, and the stundets have all been put into other teacher's classes.
     
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    There are downsides, as other's posted. But I've also heard that some teachers LOVE having their child in their class. They got to see their child in a totally different setting (and we all know how kids can be very different in school and home!) and with their friends. They found it to be very enlightening.

    I think you need to know your kid, how they react to different situations, try to be proactive.... and don't play favorites!
     
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    I had both of my kids (now 15 and 19) as 5th graders. It was a WONDERFUL experience watching them learn and interact with their peers. They will both still tell you that it was a positive experience on their end, and if anything, I was harder on them than the others.

    They both called me "Mom."

    Chele :)
     
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    oh - also ask her what she thinks about this situation? How does she think this might be different than last year in Kindergarten? Why might it be really good? why might it be hard?

    This is a fantastic situation to practice problem solving.
     
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    I had both of my own kids in 6th, 7th, and 8th grade Language Arts. No problems whatsoever; they knew better than to expect perks or call me Mom, and I knew better than to expect 'extra' services from them.
     
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    I had my daughter in middle school social studies and I loved it. I think it worked because she was a good student. She didn't really call my name at all, that I remember. It was a once in a lifetime opportunity and I'm glad we got to experience it. It was for the equivalent of 45 min a day too, which is different than all day. If she had been a student that didn't do her work, or tried to take advantage of the situration, it wouldn't have been so positive.
     
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    Our school's former Literacy Facilitator had been her daughter's 1st grade teacher, and then left her LF job to teach kindergarten since her son was going to be a kindergartener that year. She loved it!
     
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    Okay. :) I know of three teachers who had their three daughters three years in a row. It worked for them, I believe. It was a K-2 multiage project called "Project Child" where the teachers departmentalized.

    Also, our specials teachers have their children when they pass through (for art and science lab). A ESE teacher has a granddaughter in 3rd this year, and I'm sure she'll see her in that classroom every once in a while.

    However, some don't opt to do it. A third grade teacher this coming year has her daughter across the hall from her and will switch with those teachers for reading/math, and that may work for her better (I don't know).

    I don't know what I would honestly do, but when my child is in fourth grade, I may have him or her when he or she has reading or math. (I don't have a kid yet... but you know what I mean). :) It's good to read the posts.
     
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    Having your own child as a student when you don't have to is only in private school because one must pay a lot of money to go to private school and they can give you your child as a student in exchange for paying your bill(doing something you don't want to do in exchange for doing something the other person doesn't want to do). In public school, it doesn't cost any money, so they don't have to do anything for you in exchange. They don't give a child their parent as a teacher in public school if they don't have to, but if say, the whole fourth grade had a rotation of all four of the teachers and every student had all four teachers, or if a specialist teacher was somebody's parent, there would be no choice. In that sense, a child would have to have their parent as a teacher. A good thing is there would be one less person for a former student to visit, because if they liked their parent as a teacher, they'd live with them and not have to visit them at the school!
     
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    My 2nd grader has been in my class this summer, and both he and his brother (1st grade) will be in my class next summer! The boys only attend the school I work at during the summertime, mainly because (a) it's the best summer daycare option since we're all in one place, and (b) during the year I want them to have their own teachers and their own school. But it's been ok over the summer. There is another teacher in with me for the summer, so if there are any problems, she can talk with him rather than me having to do it. He thoroughly enjoys being in class with me and the kids don't treat him differently, which is good. The only problem is in the area of discipline...if he acts up, he accepts a warning from me without being offended, but if I tell him to change his card, he is VERY upset. Something about getting in trouble at school in front of your classmates...by your mom...is hard for him to handle (and understandably so). So, like I said, I try to have the other teacher handle those situations.

    My school would prefer that my kids call me "Ms. So-and-so" while they are there, but that is hard for them to remember to do.
     
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    I have seen it go both ways (positive and neg) I think it depends on the child and maturity. The neg. aspect was the son played the mom card way too much and mom fell for it. The positive was a daughter who called her mom mom in class. The daughter loved it as well as the mom. Its all in how its handled. Too bad about the venting part though :( ha ha
     
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    My father was my principal from K-3. It was ok. There were kids that thought I got special treatment, but I knew that things were tougher on me because my Dad made sure I didn't. I had my son in my 5th grade reading class. It was no problem at all. He called me mom, I mean why not everyone knew I was his mom.
     

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